Lengthy rant about 15car, jerk sister, and LOVE!!

[MonkeyloveGood]

I need HELP!!! My mom said she'll get me a car around 15k or less. I'm heavely leaning towards a used car as oppossed to a crappy new car like a focus or what not (i know some are you out there don't consider it crappy so here's a chance for you to convince me otherwise). What's a good looking, value car for around this price point. Cheaper would even be better as it would leave me with more spending money for gas and all that stuff. I'm 18 and need a car!!.Please HELP meeee!!...argh=)

I was just flipping though car max, hmm those intrepids seem like good deals???..around 15k for a 99 or 00 intrepid with around 40k miles sound good? They even look pretty good but they're still dodge. Hehe. I'm not anti-dodge as i like their caravans and that's what my mom drives. I don't want a rice car(no civic because my sister has a 00 civic ex coupe). She annoys me. I wanted a 00 beamer but umm my mommy wouldn't like that idea. I'm really into european or anything LUXURY haha, but 15k kinda limiting. Then again i was looking at a used 98 audi maybe. Judging from carmax prices would be around 17k or so? Well anyways..i gotta wake up early for school and umm was kinda excited when my mom said she'd get me a car cuz my sister's a jerk who won't even let me touch her's when she only paid 5k out of 18k when it was new..she's a JERK!!!! A selfish jerk to be exact considering i just lent her $500 for her credit card bills and crap.

Oh well and i got a date with this girl i've been in love with for the last 8 months tomorrow and i got no car, BAH life sux! Train for us.=( Hahaha, took forever for her to finally say yes considering we've been like super close friends during that whole period. I still on't know whether she wants to go out with me or just going because she doens't want to hurt my feelings. She's also going with me to PROM. WOOhoo!! haha. But she's so confusing, i told her i liked her in Nov and she was like "i don't know" back then cuz she was undecided (which is information i know but she doesn't know i know) and she's been that way during the whole time of our very close friendship so i don't know what's up with her. She's going to northwestern for college and i'm going to crappy University of Illinois in chicago..blah wasted 4 years of High School at Whitney Young (top hs in chicago) to graduate top 9% with a 29 act and 1350 sat and end up going to UIC becuase i got rejected from everywhere else=( Life sux...it also sux being chinese too!! rejected from University of chicago, NU, urbana!!!!! life bites

I guess this is the end of my rant...any input would be needed regarding relationship, life, a good car recommendation, anything? I'd appreciate lenghty responses because i have nothing else to do but READ. haha, ah crap i gotta finish my FAFSA forms...crap crap..crap!!!! life bites...oh yeah and if she goes to NU(northwestern university) then she'd be SO close!! but she's probably meet some super smart dude there and i'd end up alone anyways and she's also chinese but she's always been into "white" guys or she'd end up w/ some japanese dude since she's kinda stuck on a "japanese superiority trip" which she openly admits and kids aroun about sometimes. Eh, either way i don't deserve her...but whatever

=( btw, she's SUPER smart...haha..and so nice which is why i like her so much, but is also a reason why EVERYONE likes her so much! She's so beautiful, soo very CUTE, and NICE!! I really don't deserve her, even though i DON'T have her, but i'm just saying..baaaah life bites. She's so perfect. ERG!!!!!..it kinda kills me inside but whatever..it's LIFE so yeah

hehe, sorry i wrote this as "formal" as i could..hehe it was actually formal to begin with but umm yeah i just got kinda lazy and started typing like this. i never normally cap anything thanx to AIM.. DARN that thing


oh yeah, the thing tomorrow it's really a date, but like it is the first time she's agreed to do something with me and umm other times i asked in last 2 weeks she turned down but i think she had actual reasons. We are very close though, talk like every night online for about 3 hrs plus..never got the nerve to call her though..but i don't know...ieh, what i can;t stand is constantly thinking about her!...haha..it hurts me on testing when ever i get stuck..SHE pops into my head and i'm like "ahhh...=(...life sux..she's so perfect..BLAHAHAH...this really sux!!..why's she gotta be so perfect?!?!" argh!

Please respond!!!=) I wanna hear from ya (i made as easy to read as possible..sorry all=( )

 

[RichieZ]

I go to Northwestern, and it is NOT a fun school. Consider yourself lucky that you didn't come here.

PS: If this girl is so great maybe I'll meet up with her next year, haha j/k j/k.

Prepare to be very popular when u have a car freshman yr, however watchout for the ppl who are tying to use u for your car (haah I kno this one guy who doesn't have any friends cept when ppl need to go somewhere)

 

[Ns1]

alot of people are gonna ream you a new asshole about the car

i bet you 20 people will say "you ungrateful brat, be thankful you have a car"

or something along those lines ^_^

 

[Kelvrick]

<< alot of people are gonna ream you a new asshole about the car

i bet you 20 people will say "you ungrateful brat, be thankful you have a car"

or something along those lines ^_^ >>


Jerboy started that. Everyone wants a good car, and he seems happy with what he got. Gimme a minute and I'll be back with choices.

EDIT: Can you give me your zip so I can get realistic prices?

EDIT2: 1998/99 Acura CL is a good car. A 1999 Nissan Maxima is also good. a 96/97 Lexus ES is still a very good car. I think this generation lexus looks the best.

 

[MonkeyloveGood]

zip code is 60608 chicago=)
and i don't have a car!!!..and plus about 75% of of my friends already have cars it's just i need one sometimes for personal use like for the girl ya know?

and i also didn't wanna go to NU either=)..hehe i Wanted UofC. =)
i thought i'd at least get into urbana with my credentials but apparently NOT...that's why life bites

and i'm 18, my mom just offered to get me a car for around 15k, i don' think that's very spoiled considering she hasn't payed for anything else of mine since i was like 12 such as clothes and etc. Yes she provided roof and food and blah blah blah..i'm just asking what kinda car would be good value for that price point. I got 2 friends who got their licenses the begining of this school year and one got a acura rsx type s (though it's sports shifting meaning manual or automatic so we don' think it's a REAL legit type s) and a 2002 Lexus is300, now that thing is beautiful for 36k..ahh..dreams=) I'm not pointing to them or anything, i'm just saying now that's being spoiled right there! And i really didn't complain to my mom to get a car either, i just wanted to rant to her about how jerky my sister was.
OK, umm time for school CRAP!!! BYe all

 

[Maetryx]

Hey partner. Just go on that date with a real fatalistic attitude. Enjoy the date as just a fun event and don't stress with the whole relationship bit. You're starting to figure this out I think, when you realize that she's probably going to find a boyfriend in college. Hold that thought. So just have a fun date because she's smart and you like her and you're friends.

Keep in mind that the dice roll both ways. You'll probably find a girlfriend in college too. So why sweat this date? College is a MUCH bigger ocean, with much higher quality fish. After all, they SCREEN college applicants! They let anyone go to highschool.

 

[MonkeyloveGood]

I've had this fatalistic/optimistic attitude for the last 8 months now. It's been more fatalistic than optimistic though. I also hate it when people take about college like that, how high school doesn't matter and life goes on. I'm not one that really deals well with changes, so yeah if it ain't broke don't fix it!!..hehe anyways, i really do care about her and i WANT to stress over her, but i don't know. She's dropping some hints that there might be a chance for the last 2 weeks or so, so i'm a little more optimistic now. But i don't know....even if we do get together, life sux it it ends cuz of college and all that crap..so bLAH to life...blah blah blah!!

i agree, all the new lexuses are BEAUTIFUL. The es are very very nice too!!! I might look into the acura tl. Maximas i think will run me higher than projected, i wanna keep under 15k if possible but i don't know. Stupid friend wants me to get a 96/97 accord but blah i can think of better things for 12k-15k, well actually i can't that's why i'm HERE=)

OK, REALLY late now!

 

[Maetryx]

Well, sorry about the "blow off high school" lecture. Embrace the words, though, because they are true. Wisdom may be to know the truth here even if you can't feel it yet. I'm 30 years old, and I'm telling you that the feelings I had for my favorite girl in highschool are a fond memory, but that is all. Shoot, I married her sister! Ha ha. Younger sister at that. Second wife though.

Ha! I'm as rambly as you and I've tainted my own advice.

 

[MonkeyloveGood]

no one cares about love, woman, and cars?..blah to u all

 

[squirrelman]

I just got myself a '80 Mecedes 450SL for about $8k in the chicago area. Its a fun car, I just cant wait till it warms up so I can drive around with the top down. The BMW would be a good choice, you could get a fairly new 325 which would be a nice choice for $15k.

 

[GrumpyMan]

<< alot of people are gonna ream you a new asshole about the car i bet you 20 people will say "you ungrateful brat, be thankful you have a car" or something along those lines ^_^ >>



You ungrateful brat be thankful you have a car.

 

[Rent]

<< no one cares about love, woman, and cars?..blah to u all >>



I do, but this isn't the place to really talk about things like that. Grow some balls, take a step up, and decide what you like. In the end, you must realize that it is your happiness that really matters.

I don't mean to be so harsh, but I deal with so many people who can't make up their own mind everyday. Its rather annoying. You've got it better than 95% of the general population. You just don't get that big picture until you've been out on your own for a little while.

 

[Pocatello]

Spoil kid. When I was 16, I drove a Chevy Nova.

 

[MonkeyloveGood]

HaHa, i'm 18! and i have nothing to drive!! and i'm not indecisive..i KNOW i like her alot, and she's the one one who seems confused.

I'm just confused as to what car i should get

now it's between a 99/98 infiniti g20 with leather and unroof for maybe 17k??..around 30k miles
and a 97/98 audi a4 for around 17k as well around 60k miles though??

what do u all think???..i want leather!! and sunroof..hehehehehe


update on the "date" !!!!!

We just ened up coming back to my house and sitting in my living room for the first 2 hrs just talking, kidding around and umm kinda flirting i guess...then we went to my room where we were gonna go online but my dsl was down (WHICH i am very very thankful for since we would have just ened up playing videogames or chatting online and buggin other people) but instead sat on the floor talking, talking about other people, about our families, learning more about one another

The best thing was there was never that uncomfortable silence (there was silence but it was NOT uncoofortable at all) and we just talked, flrited for another 3 hrs ir so mostly on my floor. It felt so great just having her near me and we kinda plyed with one another's and by using the excuseof examining them...played with one another's hair...had our heads pressed together for a while in silence..running my hands through her hair. it was like the best time of my life!!! no nervous butterflies during the whole period...so weird considering in school, the period before i get to see her i get all tense like the last 5 mins of class in eager anticipation to cross her in the halls as we walk to our next class which is right by one another.

the only thing i didn't like was time. time getting in the way. her leaving. I'm sure she enjoyed justsitting and talking too, but i wonder if it was anywhere near as high for me. we went out to sushi afterwrads and thatwas it. when we got home we chatted online but it didn't seem very important and actually destroyed the high i had that day. I had kinda wished my dsl didn't come back and have the "moment" ruined like that. But still..just thinking about the 5 hrs we soent together in my house talking, in silence, kidding around, tossing stuffed animals at ine another, complaining, coming to the conclsuion that every sucks was the BEST time of my life. it felt so great...but online she seemed preoccupied and just blah....so i don't know


i gues si should just focus on the positive..the infinite happiness...ahh..trying my best to relive the moment

 

[Rent]

I wouldn't push a 15k limit too much... I'd go for a Contour SVT but then again, if you're looking at imports then I don't know.

I don't focus on the positive all the time. If I do that, I feel that I'm cheating myself and the people around me. But I do try and be pleasant around everyone.

At this point in your life, a lot of changes are going to be made. What sucks is that you can't control some of them. You just have to accept what is coming to you.

 

[dbzwukan]

and you didn't bang her that night? go back and do it over.

as for the car, get an used Tiburon.... seems like with your personality, doesn't matter what you drive, it'll be a ricer...

 

[MonkeyloveGood]

lol dbz, i want my european..OK???...lol
i was alkso considering a dodge intrepid, but so big. It's a great value, like 00 with under 20k miles for around 13k...that's like 10k off the"new" price. i woldn't change last night except for the online conversation for ANYTHING...well maybe a new beamer or a is300? hahaha=)

so yes, more input anyone? i'm spilling my guts here!

 

[dbzwukan]

dude..you're missing the point... chicks in my high school digs my new tiburon... they all want me to take them home after school and stuff... (remember, a whitebread chick would more likely to put-out than a rental)

i guess you could get an older mustang and make it 'look' unique.

 

[MonkeyloveGood]

i don't get what u mean a whitebread chick willing to put out over a rental?..haha..only thing that comes to mind when u say rental is a hooker..haha

anyways, i'm not after the unique look, the speed, or getting all the chicks to come home with me. i just want a comfortable ride that is nice inside. i have 2 friends with a brand new is300, a new acura rsx type s and believe me..the girls in my school aren't that shallow as to beg them for rides at all and no, it's not cuz they're ugly or dorks, but rather they're not as shalllow. everyone admires, but isn't jealous or in love with them for their cars.

I want something that looks good obviously and i like the look of the audi and infiniti. The better value would be the dodge intrepid though everyone i know thinks it ugly, i just dn't like the size of it, so LONG but anyways...come on people..car suggestions?

tiberon looks alright i guess, but i just don't like it. I'd rather have a malibu hehe, which reminds me, i'll check that out next in carmax heh...decisions!! the quicker i decide, the quicker i get a ride!! please help!

 

[Alphathree33]

I have to offer my three or four or five cents here.

You remind me of me... and in my limited experience, I have one thing to say: NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER, EVER talk to a girl you care about over the 'net. It can be a disaster. Girls don't know how to talk online. It's just a fact. They either seem preoccupied or they really are preoccupied. It's partially because they don't have that "I'm going to sit at my computer because I'm going to sit at my computer" attitude like guys do -- they use their computers usually for a specific purpose.

Anyway, I always insist that girls call me to talk and believe me it's so much better.

Lastly, you're a lucky guy. You've found someone who is both attractive and intelligent and has a personality type that clicks with yours. There's nothing like making friends with someone drop dead gorgeous only to find out that the maximum extent of a conversation with her is the weather and school work. There's also nothing more frustrating that finding someone as ugly as you can imagine who you could talk with for ten hours and just begin to scratch the surface of what you want to say.

Whatever you do, just remember that life's too short. Don't be overly aggressive, but don't second guess yourself either. The worst thing she can do is say no. That's a far easier thing to live with then being left to wonder.

Just a personal note, I think this whole going to prom as friends thing is lame. Im trying to decide who I want to go to prom with right now and I've decided that of all the people I could go with "as friends", I'd much rather go with someone who I really care about and who really cares about me. It's supposed to be special. So find out which it is before you go.

 

[dbzwukan]

should've said 'rental, as in asian... they don't usually let you hit it until you almost marry them...
whitebread are more sluty. don't know about others since i don't swing that way.

you want comfy? get a van then... my cousin biff has an airbed in the back... comes in handy... and it actually doesn't look gay.

if you're getting it from carmax, you are getting their bumper to bumper psp right?

 

[MonkeyloveGood]

well, theres still a month or so beforeprom and i'm kinda working on it...i have the feeling she's scared to get into this relatioship since we might be headed different directions even though our 2 schools won't be more than 30 mils apart and i'd have my car..hehe

and another this is, we've been talking online ever since i've know her though, and we usually talk ALOT...maybe 5 hr s a day online about pointless stuff and yes she's online nearly as much as me! she doesn't do anything online either which matches me, but she plays games on yahoo and stuff, her old bf was her towers partner and i think she might still like him, she's conflicted and all that but i guess i'm willing to wait. i'm by no means aggressive in this matter, i've told her i liked her, asked her to prom, and umm backed off on many bases so yeah it's all up to her in my mind.

i am lucky that i know her though, but she's just such a complicated person so i don't really understand her that well although on the surface we have ALOT in common. we're btoh somewhat anti-social people who HATE groups and the group that i could be associated with, she calls the "fob" group. They're really a minor issue as they're not fobs at all, but she likes to call them that and secodnly i don't car for them that much because my 2 best friends in the clique aren't really my best friends anymore.

i just hate this whole "growing up" thing, how do u know if that person's meant for u?...i'm not saying she's my soulmate or anything, but like..how can i just dismiss this as some high school fling, NO one can know for sure, despite how ever much experience they may of had in this. This could be "it" for all i know, and i just don't want to blow it. It might not be and in 10 years i look back and laugh at myself, but do i really want to take that chance? Then again, so i really want to completely fall in love with her and have her not feel the saem way about me? will i have to resort to becoming some kinda of freakish stalker? These questions have been racing through my head for the past 6 months now.

I've known her for maybe 2 years now, i had a minor crush on her last year but it was minor and i kinda dismissed the idea because i know her older bro and he's freind's w/ my 2 older sisters. Bu when this school year started, i couldn't stop thinking about her and after the first month of school, i realized i wouldn't care what they'd say or thought, which i don't think they'd mind much, but the fear of getting teased was kinda there.

another thing is i am REALLY shy, i've only told one other girl that i've liked her and she's becoem one of my "best friends nw..albeit an online friend mostly since i have nothing really to say to her in person. she has become my biggest confidant in the discussions of HER and she listens to all this crap thati spew out like almost every night?..amzing huh, then again she doesn't talk much only listens and nods.but still..better than nothing i guess..hehe

anyways, i just wish she'd make up her mind ya know, and on some occassions during my heavy depressed times, i'd get all angry and wish that she'd just come up to me and say there was no chance of us, so i could at least try to forgetor whateevr instead of focusing all my thoughts and such on HER. She is worth it, but then again i am scared of what might happen, what might end and such. i hate change...i just feel so confused about what she's actually feeling

so yes, i understand what u're all telling me and i've debated it 1000000times in my head, consiering i haven't finished my fafsa and all that crap yet, nor my hw or anything else (i'm soo lazy) i know one thing, i'd drop everything for her, just to soend time w/ her. wheneevr she ims me, i immediately drop cs, which is crazy for me considering i lose meals and hrs blowing my life away in that game. i'd give up cs forever, my computer, tv, anything for her company. I'd give up all my friends (considering i don't feel i have any true friends anyways) up for her. I'd do anything for her, just a sec of her time
i'd walk her to EVERy class if i wasn't scared she thought i was too clingy. i guess i'd devote my life to her..haha..yes..i'm scarying myself and i know how stupid i sound, but do i care?
maybe i am the scary stalker type, blah...i hope not

anyways, sorry for typinglike this..i'm typing REALLY fast right now and umm i have to use this informal childish online style in order to keep up w/ my thoughts so sorry all who will have trouble reading

 

[MonkeyloveGood]

haha, in response to dbz, i'm not after slutty chicks!..i'm not afetr hitting it..lol..ok?
i'm not saying i'm all pure and stuff, but i'm just saying that's not my concern!

lol, comfy as in comfortable driving experience, nice looking and just comfy indie...and yes i remember the days when i wished i had a minivan, maybe 4 years ago..they're so big and comfy..hehe, but then my mom actually got one and i got sick of the idea, especially since it's a 4 door one, which i don't like because i get the feeling i can fall out. i like the 3 door ones better because i feel like i can lean on one side and feel safe hehe...i wouldn't feel safe driving it though, just sitting in the middle seat, so yes i don't care about having a bed back there..lol..well maybe just to live in and stuff..haha..not for HITTING it..lol


and yes, i type alot!!..omg..i'm crazy

 

[dbzwukan]

dude, you're in high school... loosen up and enjoy it while you can....

nothing wrong with dating various chicks and have fun. it's not like it's going to get serious.

it's too young for you to devote youself to her... putting her on this pedestal will only make things worse when she is 'iffy' at best.

 

[MonkeyloveGood]

another thing i'm not the dating type, neither is she. i know i like her and that's enough for me...haha..u sound like my sub-concious and yes.i understand what u're saying but i think u're wrong. I'm not saying she's the one or anything but she is worth a shot. maybe this is just a crush, i don't know now...my point is it might be more or less for all u or i might know. i just don't want to ruin it, and i don't want to just play it cool and lose her that way. i'm doing the best i can and i've given her enough where it is up to her in my mind to decide whetehr she thinks i'm

"worth it to risk the whole seperation thing for college, the do we have enough in common, the do i like him enough to forget the other guys might be my soulmate, and those those stupid questions that arise in life"

so yes, i'm trying my best just to hang back and enjoy high school, which i don't?!?! high school does suck and what makes it bearable is because i see her everday at least 2 times a day. i hate school, hate work, hate most of the people there, but she makes it alright

my fave part of the day is when i meet her after 7th period to walk to our 8th. we get about 2 mins of time where we just walk and smile at one another and "poke" each other...even though those times i usually feel uncomfortable


well that's it for now