Lending my gf a tv, should I get a "contract?"

[DivideBYZero]

This thread delivers.

 

[JulesMaximus]

If she's letting you bang her you should just give the poor girl a TV.

 

[BeauJangles]

Honestly, that wasn't the smartest thing to do. You lent a $300 tv to a girl you've been dating for two weeks? You barely know her! Are you even dating exclusively? Did you ask?

Like others have said, do you even know hr well enough to know that in the event of a breakup she'd actually return the TV to you? It might have felt like the 'right' thing to do, but you already think you're in love with her. Come on man, use your head, not your penis. You just gave her a $300 tv, after two weeks.

 

[tfinch2]

Originally posted by: DivideBYZero
This thread delivers.

a television!

 

[torpid]

Originally posted by: BlinderBomber
Like others have said, do you even know hr well enough to know that in the event of a breakup she'd actually return the TV to you? It might have felt like the 'right' thing to do, but you already think you're in love with her. Come on man, use your head, not your penis. You just gave her a $300 tv, after two weeks.

Yeah but it was a tv sitting in his closet that was not being used. It would have been smarter to sell it and invest the money, but the two realistic choices are: leave it in the closet for the forseeable future, or give it to someone who will actually use it.

 

[BeauJangles]

Originally posted by: torpid

Originally posted by: BlinderBomber
Like others have said, do you even know hr well enough to know that in the event of a breakup she'd actually return the TV to you? It might have felt like the 'right' thing to do, but you already think you're in love with her. Come on man, use your head, not your penis. You just gave her a $300 tv, after two weeks.

Yeah but it was a tv sitting in his closet that was not being used. It would have been smarter to sell it and invest the money, but the two realistic choices are: leave it in the closet for the forseeable future, or give it to someone who will actually use it.

The operative word there is "give." It would be a different story if the OP was giving it to her without any expectation of seeing it again, but I'll guarantee you in a month or two he'll post a thread "Help! I lent my ex-girlfriend a tv and she won't give it back. What to do?"

 

[elmro]

I agree that since you aren't using it - you might as well lend it to someone who will.

 

[MmmSkyscraper]

Originally posted by: tfinch2

Originally posted by: DivideBYZero
This thread delivers.

a television!

:laugh:

 

[torpid]

Originally posted by: BlinderBomber

Originally posted by: torpid

Originally posted by: BlinderBomber
Like others have said, do you even know hr well enough to know that in the event of a breakup she'd actually return the TV to you? It might have felt like the 'right' thing to do, but you already think you're in love with her. Come on man, use your head, not your penis. You just gave her a $300 tv, after two weeks.

Yeah but it was a tv sitting in his closet that was not being used. It would have been smarter to sell it and invest the money, but the two realistic choices are: leave it in the closet for the forseeable future, or give it to someone who will actually use it.

The operative word there is "give." It would be a different story if the OP was giving it to her without any expectation of seeing it again, but I'll guarantee you in a month or two he'll post a thread "Help! I lent my ex-girlfriend a tv and she won't give it back. What to do?"

Yes, I'm merely suggesting that lending it was fine, because even if he doesn't see it again, it was only going to be sitting in his closet anyway. So the chance of nookie in exchange for something that was a fancy dust collector seems like a fair bargain!

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: elmro
I agree that since you aren't using it - you might as well lend it to someone who will.

sure. lend it to someone you trust. a 2 week relationship is not one with trust yet.

either way the relationship is doomed. he lends the tv to her with the contract she is going to dump his ass (wich she should), he gives her the Tv he is going to t hink about how she is takeing advandtage of him no matter if she actually buys a TV or not.

 

[kinev]

You have already "lent" it to here, so here's some helpful advice: at your next group get together with this girl, make some sort of statement like "How's that T.V. that I lent you working out?" Make it sound like you're just curious and concerned about her and make sure that YOUR friends hear you say that and hear her response. That way, it is an acknowledgment in front of witnesses that you lent it to her.

If you two have a messy break up and she keeps it, you can always go the small claims route and bring as many friends as you can to say that it was a loan. But, you also don't look like a total tool by asking her to sign a contract for a $300 tv. Decide amongst your friends how you want to most tactfully bring the issue up.

 

[gsethi]

a bang-bang session for every day she watches that TV (oh, 5 sessions as down-payment beforehand )

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Harabec
Going to Ikea for furniture and she can't afford a TV? She's doing it wrong. Find a good bed, *second hand* living room furniture and you'll have enough for a second-hand TV.

If you don't have money, why buy new? You can still buy new stuff a year or two down the road.

I got her a great deal on a bed, $325 delivered (great for nyc). She got a desk and chair for free off of the street and bought about $150 of basic stuff from ikea - pots, pans, a cheap wardrobe. She's very trifty, she just moved here with nothing. She comes from money but is doing things the hard (right?) way and not borrowing money or using credit cards. Factoring in delivery, used stuff probably would have cost more.

I admit to over blowing things with this thread. The tv was collecting dust, I have a new and amazing 57" hdtv i bought with my bonus, and use that. The 27" was not being used and I shouldn't have been so cautious. She's a great find - has her masters, works her butt off, is a pretty girl who has values (unlike so many other skanks) and, yes, I really like her. I just have been burned in the past and thought of doing stupid (getting a contract) to protect myself.

As far as witnesses, both of my roommates were in the room when I told her I'd lend it to her. Her roommates as well heard me use the word lend. I even said I may want it back if I move to a bigger place where I'd need 2 tvs.

 

[RaistlinZ]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: Harabec
Going to Ikea for furniture and she can't afford a TV? She's doing it wrong. Find a good bed, *second hand* living room furniture and you'll have enough for a second-hand TV.

If you don't have money, why buy new? You can still buy new stuff a year or two down the road.

I got her a great deal on a bed, $325 delivered (great for nyc). She got a desk and chair for free off of the street and bought about $150 of basic stuff from ikea - pots, pans, a cheap wardrobe. She's very trifty, she just moved here with nothing. She comes from money but is doing things the hard (right?) way and not borrowing money or using credit cards. Factoring in delivery, used stuff probably would have cost more.

I admit to over blowing things with this thread. The tv was collecting dust, I have a new and amazing 57" hdtv i bought with my bonus, and use that. The 27" was not being used and I shouldn't have been so cautious. She's a great find - has her masters, works her butt off, is a pretty girl who has values (unlike so many other skanks) and, yes, I really like her. I just have been burned in the past and thought of doing stupid (getting a contract) to protect myself.

As far as witnesses, both of my roommates were in the room when I told her I'd lend it to her. Her roommates as well heard me use the word lend. I even said I may want it back if I move to a bigger place where I'd need 2 tvs.

Good man. From what you've told us, she sounds like a responsible young woman. The fact that her family has money but she doesn't want to free-load off of them speaks volumes. She doesn't sound like the kind of person who will flake on you over the cost of a $300 tv. I'm sure you've already spent more than $300 going on dates with her already anyway.

A good looking, hard-working girl who has her Master's and refuses to get into credit card debt is a keeper in my book. :thumbsup:

 

[Capt Caveman]

Wow, she sounds really needy and you sound like a walkover. I predict your overbearingness will drive her nuts and you'll be out a gf and tv in the near future.

 

[Alistar7]

You lost a golden chance my friend. You could have protected yourself and given her what she asked for, a chance to "rent" your TV. Based on the background you provided she was obviously born into a comfortable financial situation. But she wants to make it on her own, very commendable IMO.

You should have sat her down and explained to her how much you admired her desire to be self sufficient rather than letting Daddy pick up the tab anymore. In support of her decision you would have been delighted to give her an opportunity to do just that by renting your TV. Of course you would have only charged her $1 a week/month, w/e, you know you wouldn't be doing that for the $. I would have made a HUGE deal out of the rental agreement, a huge laughing, fun loving, supportive deal . You come off as the supportive boyfriend who views her self determination favorably and enabled her to attain that goal without your charity. You also have a contract protecting your ASSet without making her feel like you don't trust her completely.

Instead, you are now her new (Sugar) Daddy, exactly what she is trying to avoid. G/L...

 

[thepd7]

Uh, people posting in the thread that's haven't seen a pic of this girl need to reevaluate. She's hot.


Freedomsbeat, lend that girl a tv fast!!!

 

[OutHouse]

let her use it. if you loose no biggie, tv's are cheap now and since you werent using it you wont loose anything.

i remember your computer thread and that was messed up. this is just a tv that you arent using. like i said if you loose it big deal.

 

[slackerinabox]

Originally posted by: Capt Caveman
Wow, she sounds really needy and you sound like a walkover. I predict your overbearingness will drive her nuts and you'll be out a gf and tv in the near future.

She's not needy at all! I'm sorry if my post gave off that vibe, she's really independent and I'm not overbearing, in fact I'm the opposite. I'm polite and respectful and lend a hand when she needs it, but I do not and can not go overboard.

Even with dating, she's made me dinner more times that I've taken her out. She bought me dinner for taking her out to Ikea and paid for gas (my dad's van, not mine). I don't think I've dated a girl who is more fair, honestly. The tv was a luxury for her and she asked non-chalantly to rent it since it was obvious that I wasn't using it (it was in my closet covered in old laundry), I don't see how I'm being over bearing by accepting to lend it to her, mostly because the thought of the logistics involved with "renting" would get annoying.

Now, after the little time we've been together yet the intensity of how we feel and the honesty we've expressed, my post seems (and is) idiotic, but I was concerned based on my past (and watching too many Judge Judy episodes of the distinction between a gift and a loan). I also have a lot of lawyers in the family, so my paranoia was short sighted.

 

[cdmccool]

You must not watch Judge Judy!

 

[mooglemania85]

Again, TTIWWP!


























(of the TV)

 

[zinfamous]

lomfl

this is hillarious.

please make your GF sign this agreement. and be sure to post the results here on your blog, er, i mean AT.

 

[zinfamous]

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212

Originally posted by: jagec
Don't worry, she won't be your girlfriend for long.

Originally posted by: freedomsbeat212
I had a bad experience, lending a computer to a colleague who later claimed it was a gift and refused to give it back, so I don't want to make the same mistake.

What, you didn't insist? You have to be firm on this. They stole your property. Call the cops if you have to.

It's complicated, that party got a lawyer involved, and the police said it was a civil issue.

if it's a civil issue, then Mathis her ass

 

[MrPickins]

Write your name on the back with a sharpie or something.

 

[daveymark]

her parent cut her off, the "making it on my own" is just a cover