I felt like a self help douche buying this book, but I need some positive changes in my life so i figured I'd give the 150 page book a spin.
The thing makes so much sense, and it feels like it should be common sense. Sad thing is, only a small fraction of the logic in the book actually crossed my mind when I would speak or deal with other people.
Like the fact that if you say to someone "don't do something" you just put the "something" in their mind. SO rather than saying "don't slam the door" say "please close the door softly". Basically, any time you tell someone not to do something, it sound negative, because "don't" puts off a negative vibe and adds a negative tone to the sentence, all while still injecting the thought of what you dont want them to do into their mind.
A quote in the book says it like this "WHen you go from what you don't want to what you DO want, the words change. And when the words change, the vibe of the communication changes, and the vibe can only be dominantly positive or dominantly negative."
The thing makes so much sense, and it feels like it should be common sense. Sad thing is, only a small fraction of the logic in the book actually crossed my mind when I would speak or deal with other people.
Like the fact that if you say to someone "don't do something" you just put the "something" in their mind. SO rather than saying "don't slam the door" say "please close the door softly". Basically, any time you tell someone not to do something, it sound negative, because "don't" puts off a negative vibe and adds a negative tone to the sentence, all while still injecting the thought of what you dont want them to do into their mind.
A quote in the book says it like this "WHen you go from what you don't want to what you DO want, the words change. And when the words change, the vibe of the communication changes, and the vibe can only be dominantly positive or dominantly negative."