last fling before getting marry?

[pdo]

Would you have one before getting marry? Just talk to one of my friend and she said she want it to be sandwiched by 2 guys before she get marry. I laugh my ass off thinking she can't be serious but who knows.

 

[Ameesh]

whip it out

 

[MazerRackham]

Ah, the answer is Abraham Lincoln.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: .paldo
Would you have one before getting marry? Just talk to one of my friend and she said she want it to be sandwiched by 2 guys before she get marry. I laugh my ass off thinking she can't be serious but who knows.

I think it's disgusting and downright disrespectful [if you are already engaged]. If you love this person that you are going to marry, and respect them, you wouldn't even think of such a thing...let alone go through with it.

I'd call the wedding off in a minute if my fiance were to actually DO something like that.

 

[Viper GTS]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: .paldo
Would you have one before getting marry? Just talk to one of my friend and she said she want it to be sandwiched by 2 guys before she get marry. I laugh my ass off thinking she can't be serious but who knows.

I think it's disgusting and downright disrespectful [if you are already engaged]. If you love this person that you are going to marry, and respect them, you wouldn't even think of such a thing...let alone go through with it.

I'd call the wedding off in a minute if my fiance were to actually DO something like that.

Agreed.

Basically what you're saying is "I don't really want to make this commitment, so I'm going to do whatever I can right up until I'm forced to do it."

Viper GTS

 

[CPA]

Is your friend engaged? If so and she thinks this way now, why would she think differently after she got married. Why would she suddenly lose the urge for that fantasy or the desire to act it out.

<-waiting for Moonbeam to interject

 

[Beau]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: .paldo
Would you have one before getting marry? Just talk to one of my friend and she said she want it to be sandwiched by 2 guys before she get marry. I laugh my ass off thinking she can't be serious but who knows.

I think it's disgusting and downright disrespectful [if you are already engaged]. If you love this person that you are going to marry, and respect them, you wouldn't even think of such a thing...let alone go through with it.

I'd call the wedding off in a minute if my fiance were to actually DO something like that.

Agreed.

Basically what you're saying is "I don't really want to make this commitment, so I'm going to do whatever I can right up until I'm forced to do it."

Viper GTS

And not to mention that you may find that your future wife is down with swinging

 

[bigrash]

hmm, give me your friend's number and I'll get to the bottom of her...i mean it...yeah, bottom of it.

 

[notfred]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: .paldo
Would you have one before getting marry? Just talk to one of my friend and she said she want it to be sandwiched by 2 guys before she get marry. I laugh my ass off thinking she can't be serious but who knows.

I think it's disgusting and downright disrespectful [if you are already engaged]. If you love this person that you are going to marry, and respect them, you wouldn't even think of such a thing...let alone go through with it.

I'd call the wedding off in a minute if my fiance were to actually DO something like that.

I agree w/ him.

 

[Que-TiP]

if she wanted one, then you should let her have one. as long as she doesnt tell you about it, and never mentions it. people who are truly in love wouldn't think about that though.

 

[NFS4]

Originally posted by: Que-TiP
if she wanted one, then you should let her have one. as long as she doesnt tell you about it, and never mentions it. people who are truly in love wouldn't think about that though.

:disgust::|:Q:frown:

You're kidding right?? This is like that movie Indecent Proposal (well not exactly, but sorta). I could NEVER go through with that...

 

[Beau]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: Que-TiP
if she wanted one, then you should let her have one. as long as she doesnt tell you about it, and never mentions it. people who are truly in love wouldn't think about that though.

:disgust::|:Q:frown:

You're kidding right?? This is like that movie Indecent Proposal (well not exactly, but sorta). I could NEVER go through with that...

But would your wife/GF?

 

[PlatinumGold]

The problem here is that soo many of you equate Physical Pleasure with Love.

just isn't the case. you can love someone and not enjoy them physically, just as you can enjoy someone physically and not love them.

If you enjoy someone physically AND love them, then you really have something. but face it, this is the real world that doesn't always happen.

 

[vi edit]

I don't necessarily agree with it, or condone it, but I at least understand where she is coming from with it. Last fling. Last hurrah. Last chance to get that wild, crazy itch scratched. It's better to get it out of the way before you get married, than it is after you get married.

Not a popular opinion, but an honest one.

 

[SaltBoy]

If you're gonna be unfaithful right before you're married, who says you're gonna be faithful after you're married? If you really, really, really love the person you are to marry, the thought of having a last fling would never enter your mind.

I know this is a nasty thing to say, but I'll say it anyway. Your friend sounded as if she were joking, but if she weren't and actually goes through with having a final fling, I hope she gets pregnant from one of those guys. :|

 

[incallisto]

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: .paldo
Would you have one before getting marry? Just talk to one of my friend and she said she want it to be sandwiched by 2 guys before she get marry. I laugh my ass off thinking she can't be serious but who knows.

I think it's disgusting and downright disrespectful [if you are already engaged]. If you love this person that you are going to marry, and respect them, you wouldn't even think of such a thing...let alone go through with it.

I'd call the wedding off in a minute if my fiance were to actually DO something like that.

If my wife-to-be even thought of doing something like that, she'd never see me again.

 

[bunker]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
The problem here is that soo many of you equate Physical Pleasure with Love.

just isn't the case. you can love someone and not enjoy them physically, just as you can enjoy someone physically and not love them.

If you enjoy someone physically AND love them, then you really have something. but face it, this is the real world that doesn't always happen.

Ding ding ding, we have a winnah!
The majority of people I see posting here all have this holier than thou, lovey dovey, politically correct attitude and franky, I think it's sad.

I think it stems from the fact that they can't get dates/laid, so they model their views to reflect their lives instead of the other way around.

That said, I personally wouldn't have one last fling (while engaged), but did get put in a shower with two strippers on stage at my bachelor party .

 

[Que-TiP]

its not about being unfaithful (well maybe it is). I just feel that if she really wanted to, then she should. again...people who are truly in love wouldnt do this. I doubt the girl mentioned in the initial post is even seeing someone right now.

-Alex

 

[vi edit]

If you're gonna be unfaithful right before you're married, who says you're gonna be faithful after you're married?

And who says you don't get it out of your system and be completely devoted? We can argue scenarios all day, the bottom line is that everyone has a different definition of love and a different concept of what makes a marriage important.

 

[Hammer]

yeah I would have laughed my ass off too. That's pretty funny, especially if it was out of the blue like that.

Originally posted by: .paldo
Would you have one before getting marry? Just talk to one of my friend and she said she want it to be sandwiched by 2 guys before she get marry. I laugh my ass off thinking she can't be serious but who knows.

 

[MichaelD]

Originally posted by: Viper GTS

Originally posted by: NFS4

Originally posted by: .paldo
Would you have one before getting marry? Just talk to one of my friend and she said she want it to be sandwiched by 2 guys before she get marry. I laugh my ass off thinking she can't be serious but who knows.

I think it's disgusting and downright disrespectful [if you are already engaged]. If you love this person that you are going to marry, and respect them, you wouldn't even think of such a thing...let alone go through with it.

I'd call the wedding off in a minute if my fiance were to actually DO something like that.

Agreed.

Basically what you're saying is "I don't really want to make this commitment, so I'm going to do whatever I can right up until I'm forced to do it."

Viper GTS

*sigh* I am obliged to agree, as I feel the same way. Hey, just b/c I'm a ManWhore doesn't mean I don't have any morals, you know!!! This is why I can't see myself ever getting married...I love women way too much.

Why should I make one woman completely miserable when I can make multitudes of women ecstatically happy? <==legend in my own little mind.

 

[vi edit]

Really, what's the point of a bachelor party? Going to a strip club and having a girl grind on your for while, looking at the flesh festival for a couple hours ect. It's just where you draw the line at cheating. Refer to the "Is going to a strip club cheating" thread for more opinions on that matter

 

[Noriaki]

Originally posted by: PlatinumGold
The problem here is that soo many of you equate Physical Pleasure with Love.

just isn't the case. you can love someone and not enjoy them physically, just as you can enjoy someone physically and not love them.

If you enjoy someone physically AND love them, then you really have something. but face it, this is the real world that doesn't always happen.

I agree with that. However I also think it's possible for someone to love more than one person.

You have a child, you love that child. You have a second child. Do you love the second as well? Do you still love the first? I hope you said yes to both questions. So why can't you love two people in a lovers sort of way? Hmmm?

You love both your parents, you love all your children, you love all your siblings...why is there this one kind of love that is exclusive? Hmmm?

I'm reminded of something someone said to me once, "Love doesn't divide, it multiplies." And that seems true in every case except the Spouse. Now, I grant you any "rule" can have an exception. But there is usually a good reason for it. Why is the spouse the exception to this rule?
If you are christian and the bible says so (I don't know if it does or not, I haven't had time to read the bible yet, though I hope to after I grad), then I accept that for you. Why is this the exception for non-christians though?

But I doubt this thread is meant to be about love. PlatinumGold nicely summarized my feelings on sex without love. I know it's considered Dirty and Taboo in our culture but like I give a crap. As long as your (future-)spouse continues to love you, I don't see a problem.

But that's just my opinion, I could be wrong.

Edit: I should add, having said all that. I'm the kind of person would be completely devoted to one person, if by some odd twist I got married, I would be dedicated to her. That's just how I am. But I don't expect the same in return, I don't see it as necessary. And before you tell me a marriage can never work like that. I know one that works just fine like that. One partner feels the other is free to do their thing with someone else if they desire it. The other does not feel that way. And they are quite happy together.

Also for the Love doesn't divide it multiplies thing, I know of "Couples" with 3 and 4 people. They are all in love with each other, and live together much the way a married couple would. How's that for f*cking up the norm, hmmm?

Okay, I'm done now.

 

[PlatinumGold]

If you're gonna be unfaithful right before you're married, who says you're gonna be faithful after you're married?

How is it being "Unfaithful" if your not married yet?? did i miss something?

My wife was not the first sexual encounter of my life. does that mean that I was unfaithful to her, even though those encounters were well before I even met the woman that became my wife?? so where do you draw the line. would it have been unfaithful if i had sex w/ another woman After I met my wife? or does it have to be sex with another woman After i started DATING my wife?

part of the definition of marriage is being faithful. but that's what DIFFERENTIATES it from being NOT MARRIED. so by definition, you can't be unfaithful if your NOT MARRIED.

 

[Amused]

I'm usually merry after a fling... not before.