Ladies PLEASE help!

[ChangLi]

I'm buying a new house, throughout the negotiations, my gf has been waaayyyy supportive. It's gonna cost a bit more than originally planned. I've been "whining" all along that money might get tight and that I didn't want to completely drain my savings. House needs new carpet and vinyl, kinda whined about that. ALL ALONG she has been volunteering to help with those costs, me being a GUY has said "nope." The other night I "suggested" that I had to be able to afford all this should we someday not be we. All the sudden, closing is looming ahead and I'm jacked about new carpet and vinyl"what can I say, it's a guy thing." And all the sudden she thinks carpet and vinyl can wait. I can see both sides of the story here, my question is twofold...A)should I drain the savings to move in with new carpet and vinyl, and B)Is she not really planning to be around that long?

Paranoid in Washington State

 

[The Dancing Peacock]

i'm confused about this part



<< The other night I "suggested" that I had to be able to afford all this should we someday not be we. >>



wtf do you mean?

 

[Ladies Man]

I believe he means he does't want to have her pay anything just in case she gets the boot
it could be a bad thing if/when she starts b!tching that SHE paid for everything.

 

[Mustangrrl]

Honestly, I think she's p!ssed at you because you mentioned the not being "we" thing. Not only did you envision not being with her, but you made it sound like she'd be the one who'd have to leave... it could be that she's just torturing you a little, but also maybe she just does feel really overwhelmed, like she might not have wanted to think about the prospect of breaking up (or even the future). I know guys like to think all women would LOVE to be married and have as many children as they can squeeze out, but I know when I think about that stuff, it scares me. So, I don't know if this helped, but I do wish you luck... I have a feeling she will get over this.
~robyn

 

[AreaCode707]

Good point Robyn, she could be upset because you said something about breaking up. Other possibility, you've been stressing like crazy and she's trying to make it not a big deal - how important is lino and carpet?