Ladies of AT i need your help...i've done did it this time

gregshin

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Well i've messed up pretty bad this time. Here's a rundown...I've been with this girl for 2 years...we've had our ups and downs...but always seems to work em out. Usually what happens is that i start neglecting us and she gets unhappy. Which is totally my fault. I really love this girl and need to show her or say something that i can change...She says i do and say the same old things over and over. But i realize my mistakes...i'm not really a bad person...no drugs, alcohol, abuse, etc.

But here's is where i messed up...I had a great offer to move across the country for investment oppurtunities and for school. Without even consulting her i decided to go...which broke her heart...but a week later i was like WTF am i doing? And so i decided not to go. So here i am trying to win her heart back. I know that she still cares and loves cuz she's given me a chance to convince her to accept me back...but i dunno what else to say or do. She said what's different this time? And honestly in my heart and mind i realized i dont want to move on or go anywhere without her.

What more can i say or do to let her know that its gonna be different this time? Thank you for taking the time to read this and any advice will be appreciated and ladies...i know i deserve this and flame me if you wish...
 

Megatomic

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Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
Don't fvck up your life for a girl, I promise you'll reget it.
This is the plain and simle truth. Unless you are already married don't make life decisions based on a woman.
 

GasX

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Men don't change. The sooner you realize that, the better off you will be. If she wasn't kicking your door down to have make-up sex the minute you changed your life's plans for her, you should have been re-re-thinking your decision not to go...
 

isasir

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Originally posted by: welst10
Sounds like a high maintainence girl. One word for you: dump.

Huh? You must've read something that I didn't. She sounds like most girls I know, but that doesn't make her high-maintenance.
 

dirtboy

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Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
Don't fvck up your life for a girl, I promise you'll regret it.

I've been there, done that. He speaks the truth.
 

Shelly21

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Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
Don't fvck up your life for a girl, I promise you'll regret it.

Right, you're not married to her, put your finance on track first, if she goes with you, that's a bonus.

Now, if she's getting a high paying job in another state, would you move with her?

Don't try to change youself, you either end up unhappy or return back to your old habit in no time.
 

welst10

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Originally posted by: isasir
Originally posted by: welst10
Sounds like a high maintainence girl. One word for you: dump.

Huh? You must've read something that I didn't. She sounds like most girls I know, but that doesn't make her high-maintenance.

She apparently wants constant attention. That's high maintenance.
 

Bryophyte

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What *exactly* does she complain, and what does she want you to do differently? You're kind of vague. What do you mean by "neglecting us"?
 

notfred

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Originally posted by: Megatomic
Originally posted by: CorporateRecreation
Don't fvck up your life for a girl, I promise you'll reget it.
This is the plain and simle truth. Unless you are already married don't make life decisions based on a woman.

Heh, no one would ever get married if everyone followed that advice, unless you don't count the decision to get married as a 'life decision'.
 

BD231

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Feb 26, 2001
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What do you mean by neglect? Do you mean you just don't give her enough of your time or do you treat her like sh*t?
 

Aharami

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dont decline this offer cuz of her. if you stay here and things dont work out for u ur gonna hate her for making u stay
 

Fingolfin269

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I used to date a girl who claimed I wasn't paying attention to her when I'd come to her house and read a book while she was watching soaps.

WTF, would I be paying attention to her if I were watching that crap with her? :p

This story really has no direct relevance to the OP I guess... sorry.
 

MomAndSkoorbaby

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Just be honest with yourself first about what you want with YOUR life (as you are not married yet!) and then be honest with her....
 

gregshin

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ok folks...she doesn't deserve to be flamed...and if any if you ladies out there can give me advice...please PM me thanks!