Keeping some things on laptop private?

[Virgorising]

Thanks for the ideas. We don't share computers, typically mine is with me. The breach in privacy was minimal, she looked up my postings on a forum from her computer. I had shared that I had been posting on the forum, and even shared some of the things I had written, I didn't think she would see my user name and then go looking up my posts, but she did. She was emotionally distort (still is and I am too) at the time, and was a particularly bad time for here to see some of my views. I don't know if she would ever really snoop around on my computer, but, better safe than sorry.

The easiest way may be to have two log ins on my computer. One a guest style account , on which I do most of my stuff, the other an admin where I keep thing I'd like private. That would work well enough, and I could easily defend my actions by explaining that I have journal and other private items in the admin, and that I am willing to share any of it under the following conditions 1) she is in the frame of mind to be understanding, and 2) we go slow and let me explain everything.

I still think it would be best to go in "stealth" mode, Nothing to see here is way better than, yea, I've got stuff you cant see.

I like the thumb drive or even external hard drive idea, except it's not too convenient, plus the file names will probably still show up in the recently opened area, and if I keep wiping out histories, the red flag is up.

Truecrypt may be my best bet, then my files are always with me, but will they still show up in recent items?

Secrets of this sort promulgate distance in a relationship more than even other things. A momentum is created, can reach critical mass and a point of no return.

You may well be understimating yr wife, who clearly senses big problems and feels she must be relegated to sneaking and is in pain and increasing isolation. Take responsibility for your end in this instead of blaming her for the sneaking! HER sneaking is being generated by YOUR sneaking. Her trust in you has been shaken, and THAT is why, as you see it, she is "invading" your privacy. Plain and simple. There are never guarantees in life, but, when trust of certain kinds are gone, so is respect, and then, caring of any worthy kind. Forget INTIMACY. You are supposed to be BOTH lovers AND FRIENDS. You are not acting like a friend.

Instead of letting this erode further, show some personal integrity and, if you care (I am not convinced U do), honor both of you via some quiet, real deal, open communication and risk opening your heart. Show some affect.
That is the ultimate meaning of "Manning Up." Like everything worth earning, it takes the 4 "Cs": character, commitment, clarity and courage.

This is not about evolving a better strategy to keep secrets, it goes far deeper than that and is INFINITELY more important! Just that you are conveniently, coldly, reducing your take on the problem to finding such a strategy.... speaks volumes, and not happy ones. She isn't your child, she is your wife.

Always first look WITHIN and, with the courage and ruthless honesty it demands, find out what you are meant to learn about YOU from all this.

I promise you, will not regret it.

 

[C1]

Set up a dual boot system. You have access to Windows OS on your own separate partition and your wife has the same Win OS installed, but in her own partition. System Commander provides for such a setup and allows to set up that neither OS installation can see or know about the other.

The nice thing about this is that each party has their own copy of the same OS and applications. If someone crashes their partition or malware infects their partition/installation copy, then that doesnt bother the other user. Also, what's nice is that such things as internet favorites, search histories, etc. are isolated from the other user. No need to worry about someone spotting a cached site address in a browser or file name/location in an office application that is desired to not be seen/disclosed.

 

[Torn Mind]

To answer the question, setup a RAMdisk and put files and a "portable browser" you want to keep hush-hush on there.

These solutions that are temporary-at-best though in terms of relationship maintenance. A good marriage counselor(choose wisely) might be needed if the parties themselves cannot come to proper agreement.

 

[Virgorising]

To answer the question, setup a RAMdisk and put files and a "portable browser" you want to keep hush-hush on there.

These solutions that are temporary-at-best though in terms of relationship maintenance. A good marriage counselor(choose wisely) might be needed if the parties themselves cannot come to proper agreement.

Obviously, given my response to all this....I could not agree more!