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Just dumped my girlfriend of almost 3yrs for the second and last time.

I've been having problems on and off with my girlfriend ever since we got back together. She convinced me that our realationship could be open because I wanted to see other women and she want to be with me at the same time. THAT NEVER WORKED! I just got tied tighter on a closer leash and made it more agrivating. Last night the marriage topic got brought up about one of her friends and I stated my thought and views about marriage. SOMETHING I SHOULD HAVE DONE YEARS AGO! She blew up at me and chewed my ear off the entire way home on our trip home from the bar.

Then when I dropped her off cause I didn't want to hear her any longer, but then she bitched me out online. Now I've been planning on setting up a time to tell her all my feelings and how there were very few I still had and the realationship for the both of us was quite dull and agrivating and I needed both of us to see this. But last night was the last straw and forced me to rethink this almost 3yr realationship. The next day I had everything I wanted to say on paper, called her up, and told her I needed to get out what I needed to say(I was going to do it in person but she minipulates my words and thoughts so eaily the phone was deffinately better) and I need her to listen, she did for the most part and at the end sounded kinda upset with maybe a tiny tearing and a little ticked off but it seems like it could have been a lot worse.

I just want to thank all the posts that were written about what to do. I was just browsing the forum when I saw the realationsip posts but it deffinately had some good insite. So the final breakoff technique was, kinda "like a bandaide, right off" but it was informative so she could better herself and it was straight forward and comepletely honest and clear. I learned a lot from this realationship as it was my first and I do not regret it. But thanks to everyone here for all the input.

ZCP is in effect>>>>> 🙂

Happy 🙂 There's your paragraphs
 
She convinced me that our realationship could be open because I wanted to see other women and she want to be with me at the same time. THAT NEVER WORKED! I just got tied tighter on a closer leash and made it more agrivating.

What's the story behind this? And, FYI, the vast majority of women don't go for the open relationship thing.
 
Good to see you grew a pair, albeit a small pair, but nonetheless you took some control in your life.

 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
She convinced me that our realationship could be open because I wanted to see other women and she want to be with me at the same time. THAT NEVER WORKED! I just got tied tighter on a closer leash and made it more agrivating.

What's the story behind this? And, FYI, the vast majority of women don't go for the open relationship thing.

The main problem is even if you dating someone who is ok with you messing around with others most others are not willing to mess around with you because you are in a relationship, and not telling them is something I for one can't do.
 
Originally posted by: MazerRackham
You probably broke up with her because she wanted you to use PARAGRAPHS.

😉

Congrats. Can I have her number?

OMG! Ha!

i started reading that... scrolled down for cliffs, did not find any and thought... i wonder if she bitches about paragraphs.

but i read it.

and to the OP ... i will not extend my sympathy because it seems you were ready for this. I wont go so far as to say "Congrats"... but i am glad to hear you will be breathing easier.

 
Yeah I was ready for it suprisingly. Heh one of the problems in the realationship was my use of grammar and lack of short term memory....😛 Can you have her number no. Pics...hmm maybe. Idk how much she'll stalk me online since the ZCP was iniciated and all. 😛
 
Every time I hear about open or polyamorous relationships, I always look for the inevitible trainwreck. Glad you got out when you did.

Human beings are possessive, jealous, monogomous creatures. Sure, open relationships can work in theory. Of course, so can communism.
 
Originally posted by: Wuffsunie
Every time I hear about open or polyamorous relationships, I always look for the inevitible trainwreck. Glad you got out when you did.

Human beings are possessive, jealous, monogomous creatures. Sure, open relationships can work in theory. Of course, so can communism.


Exactly my feeling. Just wish I could have gotten her Dad's cingular discount 🙁 was planning to get that soon....🙁 😛 50% off any phone and 23% off service for IBM members.
 
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: hjo3
"Open" relationship? Ecch... that's pretty disgusting. What a doormat of a woman.


Exactly.

Actually, it sounds like she agreed to that because that was the only way at the time she could get him back. He was the one who wanted to see other people. Once they got back together, he said he was on a tight leash. I wouldn't call her a doormat, but rather a manipulative biatch.
 
Originally posted by: Fatbuddha
Originally posted by: Wuffsunie
Every time I hear about open or polyamorous relationships, I always look for the inevitible trainwreck. Glad you got out when you did.

Human beings are possessive, jealous, monogomous creatures. Sure, open relationships can work in theory. Of course, so can communism.


Exactly my feeling. Just wish I could have gotten her Dad's cingular discount 🙁 was planning to get that soon....🙁 😛 50% off any phone and 23% off service for IBM members.

o...m...g...
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: hjo3
"Open" relationship? Ecch... that's pretty disgusting. What a doormat of a woman.


Exactly.

Actually, it sounds like she agreed to that because that was the only way at the time she could get him back. He was the one who wanted to see other people. Once they got back together, he said he was on a tight leash. I wouldn't call her a doormat, but rather a manipulative biatch.


All I know if a girl ever agrees to such a thing I will just b*tch slap her and move on. But since I have decided to never ever try to have a GF again I don't have to worry about all this BS, because most of what came across my path were a bunch of "manipulative biatch"es that like to play mind games more than the Japanese like to play Sudoku, GO FIGURE!!!
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: hjo3
"Open" relationship? Ecch... that's pretty disgusting. What a doormat of a woman.


Exactly.

Actually, it sounds like she agreed to that because that was the only way at the time she could get him back. He was the one who wanted to see other people. Once they got back together, he said he was on a tight leash. I wouldn't call her a doormat, but rather a manipulative biatch.

QFT and the most important parts bolded for emphasis
 
Originally posted by: Eeezee
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: The Linuxator
Originally posted by: hjo3
"Open" relationship? Ecch... that's pretty disgusting. What a doormat of a woman.


Exactly.

Actually, it sounds like she agreed to that because that was the only way at the time she could get him back. He was the one who wanted to see other people. Once they got back together, he said he was on a tight leash. I wouldn't call her a doormat, but rather a manipulative biatch.

QFT and the most important parts bolded for emphasis

Nail on the head again. She was minipulative because she was the smart one and I was the "idiot" and before we would ever talk before a dramatic "discussion" I had negative feelings for the relationship that I wanted to get out. But once she started talking those feelings went out the door and confussion his my thinking process like a ton of bricks. By the end of our "discussion" I was so burnt and didn't realize what had happened and nothing I want to say got out so the problem we argued about always end up with me being wrong and another month or so with me be silent about how I turely felt. The phone was the only way and I made sure I dominated the conversation so I could get what I needed to say out.
 
Originally posted by: rh71
if you're ever on the verge of a "last straw" ... just give it up...

good choice.

I didn't just give up, I did end it though because I had no more feeling for her. There was nothing there, I'm not 30-35 nor do I have a steady job. I'm 20 and just ended a first relationship that I enjoyed for awhile but enough was enough. I should have gotten out a long time ago. But I learn. 🙂
 
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