Yes. That's why I said we need to equate both heterosexual and gay couple with kids by removing government recognized marriages and replacing with civil unions regardless of orientation. The main difference is no longer getting tax breaks without kids but civil unions WITH kids get more of a break than marriages with kids before. This will encourage people to form child-supporting unions regardless of sexual orientation and reduce the number of people defeating the purpose by trying to have kids "out of wedlock" just for the increased government benefits.
I'm glad we agree.

I'm saying that the government doesn't have any business in any marriage. Their concern is supporting their own pyramid scheme with an ever-growing population and managing legal issues, which can be dealt with equally as I described.
Government numbers? Huh? Who ever said/thought the population was decreasing or slowing?
That's right. I did just the opposite. I linked the government's involvement in
heterosexual marriage to population increase and legal matters (estate, medical, etc). I'm saying that they have no other reason to be involved in a religious/cultural ceremony, so there is no reason to call it "marriage." The tax incentive absolutely is to promote self-sufficient population growth and, thus, it would need the changes I suggest to be equally applied to all civil unions, gay and straight. Both goals are served equally well for both types if they are BOTH recognized as simply "civil unions" with the extra tax incentive given to civil unions with children (adopted, surrogate, natural-born, etc).
I simply pointed out why the government was involved in marriage in the first place. If they simply gave larger tax breaks to anyone with kids, it would promote more government-dependent population increases with single-parent families that could not support themselves. If they gave it to marriages with an additional tax break for kids, then they encourage self-sufficient population increase.
Did you forget about the tax breaks to same-sex unions? How is that not a change?
Yes, and they've ALWAYS had those rights. Anyone can get married. They always could and forever can take their vows. A
government-recognized marriage is something different even though it has the same name. It shouldn't have the same name because actual marriage is none of the government's business in the first place. The civil union name clarifies that the government only references the ramifications of a union that the they do have business with (property/medical rights). People are only hung up on it and equating it because of the name and no one is stepping back and asking themselves why the government has any business recognizing "marriages" in the first place.
Exactly. I'm not saying that the 3-5% will cripple it, I'm saying that it's fundamentally broken already and needs to be completely reformed. I guess I wasn't clear enough: Ditch the current incarnation and focus on the intended purpose. Forget marriage. Throw it out. There's no longer any such thing recognized in government. Give tax breaks only to gay and straight couples ("civil unions") with kids. Eliminate tax breaks for childless couples with vasectomies or tied tubes or barren with no intention to adopt. Give a greater tax break for those who do have kids, gay or straight. Get it?
Until you cancel that out when you give them a tax break on the promise/hope that their potential children will multiply that effect. You're right, and that's exactly why the reform I suggest is needed.