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I've been traveling for over a month now... make it stop

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TridenT said:
Yeah, I could have had a job. I could have kept my job in Seattle too. (I would have been promoted and paid much more while keeping my obscenely low cost of living) But I hated living in Seattle. So I left... I said it before: you could pay me a $1,000,000/yr and I still wouldn't live in Seattle. I wanted out. I hated it.

You can't project everything you were offered on everyone else and say it's completely fair. My government aid was happenstance. I never expected it to happen. It was like winning the lottery. I would have never gone to college otherwise. My grades growing up were very poor due to lack of belief that I would ever manage to get out of my small town. (Abusive family et all) You can't say that I had the opportunities that you did. Most people thought I was going to be dead before HS graduation. But, I didn't die. So I was unprepared.

The college I went to is different. Competitive major means you don't get into their clubs. There were thousands of kids who tried to get into the department but didn't (like myself). What they did was A) go to another college or B) realize they didn't really want to do that major and did something else. That's generally how it went. I had a full ride to that university. I didn't really have other options beyond picking a major that I wasn't interested in or getting $60k+ in student debt. I didn't feel like getting student debt because I didn't know how easy I'd be able to get a job after graduation even if I was in the CS program. It might have been too late for me to get significant internships and so forth. (See why I did what I did now?)

You can talk about Seattle being a friendly place but the people I met who weren't from there, in majority, didn't like it. I met hundreds who moved away because they found it so unfriendly. You have to understand, it's a stereotype about Seattle for a reason: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seattle_Freeze

The practice doesn't do anything though... If I had a lot of practice with interviewers then maybe but that's not the practice I have access to. What I have is solo-practice where I just solve a bunch of sample problems. I don't think you really get it. I've solved a lot of these problems and others: https://oj.leetcode.com/ It doesn't matter unless I have the solution memorized. I'm slow at coding up solutions to these problems in an interview. (And frequently out of an interview. I have an idea of how to solve them but implementation takes a while)

The reason I'm working other jobs is because they don't advance my career and they don't pay well enough for me to live in a city that I want to live in. So, having a $10-15/hr helpdesk job in Phoenix isn't going to do anything for me other than take away my time and energy. Similarly, you won't find an employer that will hire outside of SF for helpdesk work OR you won't find a helpdesk job that pays enough for you to live on your own there. In which case, I have no fucking interest because it doesn't help me. I can't live there or they won't hire me because I don't live there. Also, it still won't advance my career beyond living in the region. WHICH, for SF isn't the biggest deal in the world. A lot of hiring is done outside the region.
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:biggrin: You know, working a helpdesk job could provide you an opportunity to getting a development job at a company. It's all about getting in the door of a company. Get some experience and then maybe a company would be interested in hiring you from out of state.

Based on your mentality and excuses, you're going to be unemployed with no money to even pay for your living expenses. Just move home into your parents basement and call if a life. You're not going to change and nobody is going to hire a loser like you.
 
TridenT said:
Yet I'm willing in places like NYC and SF. So, maybe I just happen to be specific about what I like and that other places don't have that?

You don't date, fuck, and marry every person that walks down the street. Why would you live in any city that just happens to be nearby? Get some standards.
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I heard of this dude who hated Phoenix but still lived there. Maybe you should ask him.
 
Capt Caveman said:
:biggrin: You know, working a helpdesk job could provide you an opportunity to getting a development job at a company. It's all about getting in the door of a company. Get some experience and then maybe a company would be interested in hiring you from out of state.

Based on your mentality and excuses, you're going to be unemployed with no money to even pay for your living expenses. Just move home into your parents basement and call if a life. You're not going to change and nobody is going to hire a loser like you.
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I'm pretty sure a help desk job would advance his career more than being unemployed, too.
 
I knew a guy like you Trident. Total negative nancy about everything. Can't keep a job. He was/is a musician but no one will play with him anymore. He is 56 years old now and pumps gas.
 
Squeetard said:
I knew a guy like you Trident. Total negative nancy about everything. Can't keep a job. He was/is a musician but no one will play with him anymore. He is 56 years old now and pumps gas.
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Pumps gas? You must be in some backwards ass state like Oregon or New Jersey. 😉
 
NEGATIVE NANCY.

You hear that trident?

The problem with people like trident is they don't want to dedicate their life to anything. They like to sit back and critique the mistakes others have made in life without taking on any of the risk themselves. To pick a path is to take a risk that you took the wrong path. So he takes no path. Which is guaranteed failure.

Trident also needs confidence in his own beliefs. If he doesn't like the Seattle area then move out at any cost. Just do it man. Do what you gotta do to get out of there. Be a trucker and live in a cheap COL area in a trailer. Do what you gotta do. If you actually look at the sacrifice required to move out of Seattle on your own maybe you'll see it costs too much, or maybe that lifestyle is for you. It sounds like you need help deciding what lifestyle you want to live but considering how you like to sit back and judge others it makes other people hesitant to give you advice. But there is indeed good advice out there from people. You need to talk to not really career counselors but you need a role model who you look up to and who can explain how they got there.
 
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Capt Caveman said:
:biggrin: You know, working a helpdesk job could provide you an opportunity to getting a development job at a company. It's all about getting in the door of a company. Get some experience and then maybe a company would be interested in hiring you from out of state.

Based on your mentality and excuses, you're going to be unemployed with no money to even pay for your living expenses. Just move home into your parents basement and call if a life. You're not going to change and nobody is going to hire a loser like you.
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Maybe. That's not really always true. If the company I worked for was a tech company then yeah, maybe I could transfer. However, it's unlikely for anything else. I worked at a hospital doing helpdesk work. You know how many people I met that did programming and could help me get a software dev job at company? None. Most people I met were doctors or people stuck in the IT world.

If I had a helpdesk job at a tech company then maybe it'd be different. But, them be slim chances compared to how many companies need helpdesk support and aren't tech.
 
TridenT said:
Maybe. That's really always true. If the company I worked for was a tech company then yeah, maybe I could transfer. However, it's unlikely for anything else. I worked at a hospital doing helpdesk work. You know how many people I met that did programming and could help me get a software dev job at company? None. Most people I met were doctors or people stuck in the IT world.

If I had a helpdesk job at a tech company then maybe it'd be different. But, them be slim chances compared to how many companies need helpdesk support and aren't tech.
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Damn, you've got a lame excuse for everything. :colbert:
 
TridenT said:
Yet I'm willing in places like NYC and SF. So, maybe I just happen to be specific about what I like and that other places don't have that?

You don't date, fuck, and marry every person that walks down the street. Why would you live in any city that just happens to be nearby? Get some standards.
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Beggars can't afford to be choosers. When you have my resume, we'll talk. Otherwise, you don't have the luxury of picking and choosing too much when you're a recent grad who has been out of work for nearly 6 months.
 
TridenT said:
Maybe. That's not really always true. If the company I worked for was a tech company then yeah, maybe I could transfer. However, it's unlikely for anything else. I worked at a hospital doing helpdesk work. You know how many people I met that did programming and could help me get a software dev job at company? None. Most people I met were doctors or people stuck in the IT world.

If I had a helpdesk job at a tech company then maybe it'd be different. But, them be slim chances compared to how many companies need helpdesk support and aren't tech.
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Who's fault is that? You

But you don't even make the attempt to just get into the door of a tech company.

Just move home, you're whole life has been an excuse. The only person to blame is yourself.
 
TridenT said:
Maybe. That's not really always true. If the company I worked for was a tech company then yeah, maybe I could transfer. However, it's unlikely for anything else. I worked at a hospital doing helpdesk work. You know how many people I met that did programming and could help me get a software dev job at company? None. Most people I met were doctors or people stuck in the IT world.

If I had a helpdesk job at a tech company then maybe it'd be different. But, them be slim chances compared to how many companies need helpdesk support and aren't tech.
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Trident.... I had a really hard time deciding what to do because my parents never really worked for a living. They were idiots to put it bluntly. My grandparents were the only wise ones in the family and when they passed away it was a disaster.

What do your parents do? It could also be that they are so far along in their career you could never hope to match their achievements, I don't know. That would mean their advice sounds alien to you as well because its how they got success..... 35 years ago.

But one thing is for sure, my dad barely worked a day in his life and made it to around 50-60 without ever really having to provide for himself. It took me awhile to figure out the root causes for why things were the way they were. I had like zero job connections through my own family. So I had to get my own.

I have my own plan for life. It might epic fail, I don't know. At least I'm moving in a direction, any direction.
 
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LevelSea said:
if your parents were asian, they'd have murdered you in your sleep by now
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Mine weren't and they tried anyway. Yay. :colbert:

OverVolt said:
Trident.... I had a really hard time deciding what to do because my parents never really worked for a living. They were idiots to put it bluntly. My grandparents were the only wise ones in the family and when they passed away it was a disaster.

What do your parents do? It could also be that they are so far along in their career you could never hope to match their achievements, I don't know. That would mean their advice sounds alien to you as well because its how they got success..... 35 years ago.

But one thing is for sure, my dad barely worked a day in his life and made it to around 50-60 without ever really having to provide for himself.
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My parents are working class. They didn't go to college. They have no advice because college is a foreign concept. They thought I'd either be dead before graduation or just get a job at Papa Murphy's. They've both been retired for years now thanks to government benefits. (disability)

They don't have anything to offer anyway.

Me getting into my college was a greater accomplishment than most of anything they've ever done. :/
 
TridenT said:
Mine weren't and they tried anyway. Yay. :colbert:



My parents are working class. They didn't go to college. They have no advice because college is a foreign concept. They thought I'd either be dead before graduation or just get a job at Papa Murphy's. They've both been retired for years now thanks to government benefits. (disability)

They don't have anything to offer anyway.

Me getting into my college was a greater accomplishment than most of anything they've ever done. :/
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See? Thats good. You should be proud.

So you mostly have call help desk job offers? Correct?
 
TridenT said:
I've done couchsurfing but it's a lot of work to find anyone who is not a serial killer and available.
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WAT? How many serial killers did you actually run into? Did you alert the proper authorities that they are serial killers?

BTW I'm guessing none considering you're still posting.
 
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