most "microsoft" apps seem happy with 64bit sql server 2008 on server 2008. its the add-on isht that might have some issues outstanding. then again i'm not sure i've seen a stable true-64bit AV program for 2008 yet.. gotta love new tech.
btw i'd wait for 2008 R2.
sign your company up as a microsoft registered partner (figure out a way) and get MAPS; $249/year and you get sql server 2008 standard (which in 64bit has unreal limits) and sql server 2008 standard.
skip hyper-v. if you are unix-minded Vsphere essentials ($995 msrp) will do it for 3 vm servers. If you are not so inclined i suggest you get vsphere essentials plus (or buy veeeam backup).
Hyper-v is cool; in some ways its faster. but nowhere near as polished man. I can't speak for 2008 R2 hyper-v but i ditched the "Free" solution (2008 is free for me) and went with vmware. the cheapie. I can install ghettovcb etc. I'd strongly suggest NOT wasting your time on hyper-v. been there done that. it is nice; it is actually faster (in some cases) but the management is just not there.
btw when you do choose a solution keep in mind UDIMM ECC is a bit cheaper and alot faster but the current servers (dl380 G6) are limited to 24gb (period).
RDIMM ECC starts to get expensive over the 4gb mark (8gb chips are mad expensive).
also when you double bank up (12 dimms versus 6) the fsb drops to 1066, if you triple up to the 18 dimm slots you drop to 800fsb.
no mixing. here's a good link on DDR3 in servers.
http://h18006.www1.hp.com/prod...s/tool/hp_memtool.html
if price is key and 24gb is a limit you can deal with for a long time; unbuffered ddr3 will rule in speed and price. 24gb is hard to swallow for some since you could do 6/12/18 buffered ddr3 * 4gb. start with 12 x 4gb RDIMM and have some room to throw in more ram later.
take a look at the hp dl380G6 smart buys and that ram builder.
The p410 with 512bbwc is hella fast with ddr3. same drives on a dl380 g5 with p400 gain about 20% speed due to the faster controller. this is proven on the vsphere disk i/o benchmarks.
alot of folks do not recommend sql server in a vm. i do not think they took into consideration the fact that 2008/2008 is faster than the traditional 2003 R2/sql 2005. You have to make that judgement call on your own.
in my own personal testing i found the dl380 g5/p400-256-bbwc in 4x146gb 10K RPM raid-10 the bottleneck was not ram; definitely not cpu; but all disk. whatever you do get the fastest drives you can in there 15K.
I am looking at how to best follow sql server practice of having the main datastore separate from (rest of vm's) and log files separate as well. it gets tricky if you only have 8 drives

they do have some no-dvd versions of the chassis' that support more drives. it would be very wise to consider this if you have no plans to move to a high end san.
http://communities.vmware.com/docs/DOC-1520
^^ read and weep. you will see some VERY expensive FC san solutions have craptastic results.
I was all ready to go ISCSI but without 10gbe i do not think sql server would reach its full potential and well 10gbe switches are expensive. the nic's are only $500 for 2 port but each nic eats 2gb of ram for buffer (OUCH!).