is what my friend did to me wrong?

[jjyiz28]

long story short, he called me up to partner together building and networking couple computers together for a client he found. we will split the profits. so i basically went through newegg and got all the parts ready for him to order. he ordered it, and the next day, i called and he was saying if it'll be cool if he could just do this contract work himself cuz he really needs the money, and other excuses like him messing up the order so he only got like some of the parts and not all and would be another week for him to get it. im pretty sure i could have said "no way, we already agreed on this, lets do this together" and he would have to oblige. but i said no, since it was never about the money. to me, it was just kinda shady on his part.

thing is he could network and build computers just fine, but he's been out of the computer loop for couple years. the only thing he really needed from me was my "expertise" in what parts to get that works well, cheap, reliable, for company computers. everything else we could both do. after i said its fine that he take the whole contract, he offered $30 bucks for my troubles in researching the computer parts, and making finalizing the order. either that or treat me out for dinner.
the contract was $250, which we would have ended up splitting 2 ways. hell, he could have lied about that too.

is he a prick, or am i being too sensitive??

 

[Eli]

He was wrong.

 

[jagr10]

Totally unprofessional on his part. I wouldn't do anything involving money with him again. Do it on your own or have someone more trustworthy and honest. This is just the beginning with this guy. It'll get worse down the road.

 

[MrCodeDude]

I'd say half and half, but more of him being a prick.
-- mrcodedude

 

[brunswickite]

yea you might be too nice, and friendly a good trait but could get you in these type of situations alot...

it happens to me all the time

 

[Red Dawn]

Obviously he needed the money because he acted like such a chump. However, if he is a good friend I think you should just let it slide and make sure you cover your ass the next time.

 

[AgaBoogaBoo]

I'm confused as to what he did wrong... I just came back from swimming so maybe I have water in my ears... hmmm

*Jumps around trying to get water out*

Anyway, so he offered $30 in the end for helping with picking the parts? Was it hard or take a lot of time? I'm not sure because I haven't ever bought a bunch of network stuff other than network cards... but those too, the free after rebate ones, hehe

Isn't that a good deal if picking the aprts wasn't very hard? Or did you have to go out and research all the parts? How much were you expecting?

 

[pray4mojo]

Sounds a little awkward to me. Why couldn't he have just asked you what parts he should purchase?

 

[DaveSimmons]

Your friend doesn't have a strong sense of ethics, and if I were you I'd avoid doing anything with him that involves money or expensive property.

That doesn't mean you should nurse a grudge or put them on your enemies list, just that you should treat them like the freind who always "forgets" to pay you back when they borrow $10 or don't have their share of a lunch check.

 

[jjyiz28]

well we were pretty good friends in the past, we would kick it together all the time. even lived together in summer couple years ago. but now, we don't kick it at all. last time we met together was when he wanted to know how to divx dvds which i gave him the website showing him how. a week after that is when he called me about the partnership deal.

 

[kt]

I would never let money get in the way of friendship. Btw, if you even have to question whether he's a prick or not.. how good of a friend are you two?

 

[jjyiz28]

it wasn't hard for me at all. maybe took like couple hours. and just made sure the parts (psu,memory,mobo) were high quality, so it'll be stable. and integrated mobo everything. etc... but don't want to sound arrogant but my analogy is do you ask a hot rod expert on camaro's, ask him that you want a fast car, he picks out the parts to get, and you say thanks and leave it at that?

i wouldn't feel *as* bad if he just asked me for help straight up, without mentioning being partners. feel a little used, but wouldn't think i'd mind much.

but then again, in the past he was working, i wasn't, and whenever i had no money to go out, he would frequently spot me. now that im working and he' s not, maybe he really does need the money.

 

[DaveSimmons]

wouldn't feel *as* bad if he just asked me for help straight up,

Exactly, your friend either lied to you, or changed his mind and broke his agreement after you'd done the work that he needed. Niether is ethical or honorable.

 

[OulOat]

Originally posted by: jjyiz28
it wasn't hard for me at all. maybe took like couple hours. and just made sure the parts (psu,memory,mobo) were high quality, so it'll be stable. and integrated mobo everything. etc... but don't want to sound arrogant but my analogy is do you ask a hot rod expert on camaro's, ask him that you want a fast car, he picks out the parts to get, and you say thanks and leave it at that?

i wouldn't feel *as* bad if he just asked me for help straight up, without mentioning being partners. feel a little used, but wouldn't think i'd mind much.

but then again, in the past he was working, i wasn't, and whenever i had no money to go out, he would frequently spot me. now that im working and he' s not, maybe he really does need the money.

Okay, you just answered your own question.

 

[Koing]

I was just going to call him an ass but I read your later reply.

If he covered you when you were down he was good to you then. He's probably a good person (hey man you know him I know jack about him, but only what you post here) so let him take you out to a nice dinner and leave it at that.

A guy that is willing to help out is a friend. He put himself on the line for you.

Koing

 

[Yax]

HE no frien da yours.

 

[HappyPuppy]

Take the money and forget about it.

 

[dirtboy]

He's a prick. Take him up on dinner and order a few alcoholic drinks and a big steak.

 

[Alchemist99]

He must of needed the money, he's a friend so you be a friend and give him the benifit of the doubt.
and he did try do compensate you for some of your time.

 

[djheater]

Originally posted by: Eli
He was wrong.

He was wrong, but he's probably not a prick.

 

[Cyberian]

Originally posted by: jjyiz28

but then again, in the past he was working, i wasn't, and whenever i had no money to go out, he would frequently spot me. now that im working and he' s not, maybe he really does need the money.

Well now, that does make a bit of a difference.
Just figure that something came up and he really does need the money.

 

[XMan]

I don't do business with friends. Too much of a chance of something going wrong and one friend getting pissed off.

 

[Miramonti]

Originally posted by: jjyiz28
but then again, in the past he was working, i wasn't, and whenever i had no money to go out, he would frequently spot me. now that im working and he' s not, maybe he really does need the money.

given that, its not a big deal imo, atleast is worth cutting him some extra slack, even if he had been selfish.

next time tho, you'll know to be cautious if something else comes up with him.

 

[fatbaby]

Originally posted by: Alchemist99
He must of needed the money, he's a friend so you be a friend and give him the benifit of the doubt.
and he did try do compensate you for some of your time.

Yeah i agree. Anyhow, hes giving you $30 for 2-3 hours of online searching. That is more than enough.

 

[her209]

Tell him you get first dibs on his wife if he's not married yet.