is this okay?: an ex boyfriend question.

[eakers]

GL: i never thought of other guys in a romantic way when i had my boyfriend. now that we are broken up i think of boys romantically.

such a mix of opinons here!

*kat. <-- needs to start dating again.

 

[Rent]

Well, part of the reason I'm now broken up was that my ex did not give herself enough time to get over her previous relationship. She had a nagging feeling that something was wrong inside of her and when she found out, she told me (after the 5 most nerve racking days of my life). Now, I'm sitting here 3 weeks later at my desk at work still crushed.



<< GL: i never thought of other guys in a romantic way when i had my boyfriend. now that we are broken up i think of boys romantically.

such a mix of opinons here!

*kat. <-- needs to start dating again. >>

 

[Pliablemoose]

Is sleeping with both of them @ the same time off the table?

 

[Stumps]

poor bloke

Sounds like you need a prostitute-just kidding
hey thats what booze is for to make the pain go away

 

[Rent]

Booze only takes your money and makes ya feel worse in the morning.

Besides, I can't legally buy booze in the US. Still got another year to go.



<< poor bloke

Sounds like you need a prostitute-just kidding
hey thats what booze is for to make the pain go away >>

 

[Stumps]

ahh what, what is with that 21yr old drinking limit in aussie land it's 18
but it doesn't matter I'm 22 and I think my women is going to dump me..ahh crap

 

[Rent]

Damn... what is it with this time of year. I see more of this sh!t when the winter comes all the time

Well, part of my pain/comfort is the fact that my woman was willing to "try and work things out" when she sorts out all her feelings inside. So now I don't get to hear that comforting "I love you" for the time being... or ever again.

Really liked this one too...



<< ahh what, what is with that 21yr old drinking limit in aussie land it's 18
but it doesn't matter I'm 22 and I think my women is going to dump me..ahh crap >>

 

[DannyLove]

you guys are no longer together = single

single = you can date who you want

who you want = your ex boyfriends friend

your ex boyfriends friend = too close of a connection with your ex

too close of a connection with your ex = raises many questions and can stir up things.

raises many questions and can stir up things = guys usually view this as a bitch, playing a nasty game.

you get the point. dont bother eakers. go date somewhere else. either this is an attempt to show your ex that you too are moving on, but this is too close to the home front. get out there and date from another area of the pond. If we were together and you did this to my friend, i would see you as a evil bitch, trying to get me jealous or something. don't mess with friends. never, or you'll go down burning in flames.

danny~!

 

[Forever42]

I agree with the first part of that three month rule... I didn't start going out with my current bf until nearly a year to the day that my ex and I broke up. But we had told each other "I love you" a little over a week after our first date, and we haven't regretted it and are still together, nearing a year. I know it's not a long time, but it has been for me

(<----also still somewhat loves her ex after two years...nothing like a first love to get you down)

 

[Stumps]

I know the feeling
it's spring here a f*ck it's hot.
I hope i can sort out my GF.... I would problably shrivle up and die with out her.
we have been together for about 7yrs now and I was hoping to ask her to marry me in the next couple of months but she went funny last week and I can't figure her out

 

[jehh]

<< <-------single >>



This was my thinking too...

So, umm, pics?

j/k

Jason

 

[DannyLove]

oh please, 3 month rule my ass. if you feel you want to date go ahead, don't place restrictions on yourself just cause of time. relationships are a waste of time, just go and date and get what you need (that is what relationships are based on no?)

F the 3 months rule, F any rule that places more time in dating, just go out there and strut your stuff, you're bound to attract one of those lambs

danny~!

 

[DannyLove]

my recommendation: if you are either in the so cal or seattle area, and some parts in the east, tune into the TOM Leykis Show, i have been listening to him for the past months and I have to say that he knows what he's talking about. It will change your view towards the opposite sex.

danny~!

 

[gopunk]

but really? should i even care about their friendship now that he is dating a girl that used to be my friend?

your judgement is probably better than mine, but if i were in the situation, i'd go for it.

furthermore, do i only like this boy because im lonely and feel the need to replace all my feelings for my ex onto someone else? i dont want to do that, i want to like gavin because hes such an amazing person, not because im lonely.

i know exactly how you feel, i have these concerns all the time. but i've come to realize that it really makes no difference. people get into relationships for a lot of reasons other than the other person being an amazing person. subconsciously and whatnot, i mean it is kind of creepy how many times i've heard a girl say "you're/he's just like my dad..." as long as you're attracted to this guy, i wouldn't worry about what's causing the attraction.

should i just i just stop caring about everybody else and do what i want no matter who gets hurt?

i hope not but it seems clear to me that he's ready to move on, so i don't think this would be a problem.

 

[gopunk]

my recommendation: if you are either in the so cal or seattle area, and some parts in the east, tune into the TOM Leykis Show, i have been listening to him for the past months and I have to say that he knows what he's talking about. It will change your view towards the opposite sex.

how old are you eakers? because that show is geared towards 20+... it could just be the teens i hang around with, but leykis 101 has not, in my experience, worked on high school girls.

 

[DannyLove]

she is 20.

you need this show. you want this show. oh wait, its FLASH FRIDAY, w00t!

danny~!

 

[Azraele]

I think you're thinking too hard.

Try not to analyze the situation so much. It sounds like you like this boy, so I think you should pursue that. Go for it.

 

[keystroker]

he'll think you are easy.

 

[bret]

uh...

 

[matthewperry]

I didn't know girls actually posted on AT =) I'd say do what you want and don't worry about stupid thinks like ex's, they will just get you down over and over again.

 

[ElFenix]

any relationship you enter into now is probably going to be short term anyway, the whole rebound thing. you'll probably have your standards set lower on the rebound as well. so thats a consideration along with the whole bitch thing that danny~! brought up

 

[eakers]

thanks so much for all the advice.

its very varied but ive been thinking alot and ive decided to
1. forget about the ex and this new girl, still be friends with him and be a grownup and try to not be bitter
2. wait a while until i am totally happy being single, maybe go on dates and just expand my network of friends, but nothing serious until i am totally okay with singledom
3. go on dates with the new boy but make it clear to him that thats all we can have right now and be totally honest with him and not lead him on.

and now im going to be a total moron and let people bash me after i post some pics:
funny face
blah


*kat. <-- looking for a cute funny smart fun boy

 

[NutBucket]

LEYKIS 101!!

The Site

 

[ElFenix]

cute funny smart fun boy... hmmm... yeah i don't think those exist. sorry.

 

[MaxDepth]

<< i mean i like this boy, a lot and im pretty sure he likes me back. >>



Dear Eakers:
Its time to put away those childish things. A cutie-patootie face like yours and with heartfelt sincerity you've shown, you don't need a boy. You need a man.


Me and the Blue Meanies!