Is This Girl Mean?

[MiniGolfIsFun]

Hmm...I dunno. I mainly think your friend is stupid. He's got to stop being so clingy and wanting something that he can't have. Kinda reminds me of some stupid friends back in HS that didn't know better. Anyhow, since you probably couldn't slap them both around, you could slap your friend around and get him into some therapy.

That being said, it may not be that the girl is really into him anymore so she's breaking up with him in a cruel way. Is she supposed to be all nice about it since it seems like she's been trying to get rid of him for a while? Maybe she did try it the easy way but ended up going this route cuz he can't take a hint.

Just my thoughts. I could be wrong but that's what I'm thinking it sounds like. so yea....help your friend get some therapy.

 

[Ulfwald]

Back in college I went through the same thing almost, my friends found me in a junkyard with 14 boxes of sleeping pills and a 5th of Jack Black.

Then I grew up and realized something, women respect a man who has his own life and has his family jewels in his own possesion, not letting some girl hold them for him.

He needs to pick himself up by the bootstraps, grow a set of brass balls, and get on with his life. You cannot be happy by identifying your life with someone else. Go out, be a man, and live life. When girls see that you have your own life, they will want to be a part of it.

 

[BatmanNate]

One of my buddies is in the same situation with a girl I used to know. May you fare better than I have in helping him out.

 

[blackdogdeek]

in answer to the topic question: yes, she is mean

in agreement with other posters: please seek professional help for your friend

 

[TwinkleToes77]

I think this is a little one sided.. being you are a 3rd party and you probably dont know ALL... and then you write it out to make it lean even more towards your friends side. It sucks that he had to go to the hospital.. but obviously something is wrong with him if he cant handle a break up.

 

[teddymines]

You^H^H^HThis guy should take a dose of common sense. This one doesn't sound like the kind to try to kill yourself over.

 

[Aimster]

They were together for about a year and everything was fine. My friend was normal. She wanted to marry him, but he wasn't ready and he nicely told her to wait a couple years. When she heard he wasn't ready she disappeared from his life by changing her number so he wouldn't contact her. She didn't even say good-bye.
During this time she got engaged to someone else. The guy was her dad's best friend's son.

A couple months later she called my friend up and she told him she still loves him. He was really happy to hear her voice, but he was already with someone else and so was she. He still loved her so he broke off his 2 week relationship with this other girl and went back out with her. However, she still kept her fiance because she couldn't get rid of him that easily since it was her dad's best friend's son.

Things changed when they got back together. He wasn't allowed to have her cell phone number so she would only contact him when she pleased and that would normally be around 3-4 A.M. His sleeping pathern changed because he would stay up all night just holding his phone to see if she would call and sometimes she didn't. She started talking to him and asking him if she made the right choice because she kept telling my friend that her fiance really does love her and she knows for a fact he will never hurt her. Her fiance is a millionare and my friend is only a college student. My friend was constantly being compared to this other guy, but she always told him she hates her fiance and she wants her fiance out of her life and she doesn't know how to hurt her family.

So my friend believed her and days turned into months and he is still not out of the picture. She went out on dates with her fiance only because she didn't want to hurt her dad. She had two guys in her life and she was constantly juggling both of them not knowing which one to pick. My friend is so naive he actually believes she loves him and not her fiance. She wore her engagement ring a couple times when he saw her and she always has jewlery on that he bought her. What girl calls your house at 4A.M every night because she was too busy watching a movie on t.v?

My friend went on a emotional roller coaster ride. She controlled him so well that he lost all his friends. If any of his friends found out about her she would cuss at him because they have no right to know about her or their problems. Even his own parents and family members were not allowed to know anything. She always called my friend a loser even though he was taking 21 credits in college.

I never knew any girl could do this to a guy. He was stupid enough to allow her to wear the pants in the relationship.

 

[Kev]

how old are these 2 people?

somebody needs to slap the living sh*t out of that dumb bitch.

 

[Aimster]

He is 21
She is 19
Her fiance is 28

 

[Hammer]

at first i was gonna say that maybe she was being like that cause she was tired of your friend being a whiny b1tch. but if she's juggling 2 guys and stringing your friend along, then yeah, she's no angel. they're both fscked up.

 

[ElFenix]

her fiance is 28? and she is 19? loser.

 

[amnesiac]

They're both losers.
Tell your friend to grow up, get her out of his life, and stop being such a whiny, sentimental, 6-foot-tall vagina.

And that bitch can get bent. She's about as screwed up and worthless as they come.

 

[SCSIfreek]

What a wuss!!! But don't tell your friend. He needs some smacking to forget about that b|tCh. Life goes on with or without the girl. His just freakin lazy and don't wanna solve the problem.


--Scsi

 

[teddymines]

In my opinion, and with some hesitant judgment:

1. She was right for breaking off the relationship when he said to wait a few years. Some women have timelines, and if this guy didn't fit, oh well. The method she chose was not what I would consider to be nice, but she was well within her right.

2. She was wrong for being engaged and simultaneously calling this guy to tell him she loves him. He made things worse by knowingly going out with an engaged woman, and she was wrong for participating.

3. He was wrong for continuing the relationship when she wouldn't allow him to call (clear signal to me she doesn't want her fiance to know she's accepting calls from another guy), and for sticking with her as she compared him to her finace.

4. Her priorities were screwed up, putting TV before your friend.

In a nutshell, I think your friend willing got on this rollercoaster ride. He took a huge risk dating a woman who couldn't make up her mind, berated him, and had screwed up priorities...and he paid for it. Would you want to be married to someone like this, who may date other guys?

 

[Daniel]

Originally posted by: Aimster They were in love and had a lot of things in common. Had their happy moments, but also a lot of bad moments.

I'd hate to debunk your theory here.. but no way either of them have any clue what love is.

 

[Lola]

from reading your post, i would say "mean" is an understatement. She is pure evil. You seriuosly need to talk to your friend and make him realize that it was for the best that she is not longer in his life. That is very sad that he loved her so much and she just could not care less about him. Its psycho-girls like that that give us "good" girls a bad rap:disgust:

 

[n0cmonkey]

He is there because he is a moron. Not because of her. She was right for what she did, although she could have done it a little nicer. Never get in a relationship with someone that has more problems than yourself.

 

[GroundZero]

Originally posted by: Aimster
My friend and his girlfriend have been having some serious problems in the last couple of months. She would only call him during the night and always hang up on him. He came to her crying, but all she did was tell him to shut up. They were in love and had a lot of things in common. Had their happy moments, but also a lot of bad moments.

The relationship was just causing too much stress for him. He tried to take his own life last night because he couldn't live without her. I guess he felt like he was losing her.

Anyways long story short.. he goes to the hospital and is sitting there crying when his girlfriend calls him up. She starts to yell at him for what he has done to himself. She tells him because of what he did she will go call some guys up and start to see them while he is there. She then breaks up with him and changes her phone number so he could never contact her again. This just made everything worse. All she did was yell at him and tell him because of his actions she doesn't want to have anything to ever do with him. He was begging her not to leave and that he would for sure kill himself if she left and she just told him to go for it.

He is in there because of her. She obviously meant a lot to him. Was she right for what she did? I know the guy wasn't right for what he did but some of us let women get the best of us.

He is in there because of himself, not her...

 

[human2k]

I would hit it.










Cheers!:beer:

 

[Marshallj]

Originally posted by: Aimster
They were together for about a year and everything was fine. My friend was normal. She wanted to marry him, but he wasn't ready and he nicely told her to wait a couple years. When she heard he wasn't ready she disappeared from his life by changing her number so he wouldn't contact her. She didn't even say good-bye.
During this time she got engaged to someone else. The guy was her dad's best friend's son.

Yeeeeaaah, I think I'm going to agree with this guy:

why does this sound like the next jerry springer episode?

Your friend has issues, and that girl has issues. It's better that they're apart. And she's doomed because she's getting married to someone she just met. They better escape from the trailer park, it's no good.

I feel bad for your friend. He needs to grow up and get rid of this girl, she's worthless.

 

[Gulzakar]

the ho needs to be pimp smacked...I'd gladly do it.

 

[Yax]

Your friend's too whimpy. Tell him to listen to the Professor. Tom gives free theropy if your friend wants it.

 

What MarshallJ said.

In my opinion, they both sound psycho. The lady sounds like a dominatrix and he sounds like her volunteer subject.

They both need help really. Unfortunately MarshallJ's statement is true: In all likelihood, her marriage to this new guy she found will be an absolute failure. And I can't make much sense of your friend acting like a wimp if he had the guts to say no to proposing to her. That's obviously what she wanted. If she's as dominating as she sounds and he's such a sissy, how come she couldn't coerce him into proposing to her? Weird. Maybe this is part of her coercion to get him to do the proposal? Doesn't he get it? Duuuuh! He sure found himself a control freak. I like her style of calling it off though.

I would say this lady has no character with her words and actions. However, to some extent, I can relate with some of the things there. I guess she may feel the need to feel in control of her relationship and destiny because of past bad experience. She is taking it too far though.

I pray that things work out for the best with your friend. And I hope that he seeks help from his family and friends.

Edit: Is she older than he? It sounds like it 'cuz that's usually the profile of such ladies.

 

[Alphazero]

Damn, that is one nasty biatch. Fvck her, and just be there for your friend. Noone needs people like that in their life.

 

[ohtwell]

What a biatch!! He may have loved her, and might still, but I don't think they she ever loved him. I don't think you can treat someone that you love that way. Poor guy.


: ) Amanda