Is this a reasonable relpy to my ex-gf's email?

[jbod]

Her email:

jbod,
Hey, Sorry if I was kind of a bitch on the phone. I don't mean to argue with
you over stuff, I guess I just like the challenge.
IT seemed you were suddenly in a hurry to get off the phone. (I tried to
call you back but you were already on-line.) I sat here wondering if it was
because I said I had met someone. Is that conceited? I know you are not
sitting there in SC waiting for me or anything, but, well I don't know. I
cherish the fact that we are still in touch and hope we continue to be. If I
am way off base, tell me so I can feel really dumb about it.
Still thinking of you,
xxxx

My response:

First of all I knew something was up when you called me two nights in a row
and the tone of your vice was different than usual. BTW, I was in bed both
nights and not trying to avoid you.

Anyway, your argument failed to impress me for the fact that you, as an
environmentalist, should be consistent in your argument for anything that
uses less paper, e.g. online leave slips, and would be something to applaud.
But why was I not surprised when you started in on your reasoning that
people are spending more time at work with new technology and MORE paper?
That is absurd. You were not just looking for a challenge you were trying to make
me look bad in you eyes, for reasons I know not.

I not bothered that you met someone, only that you had to tell me about it.
As if it was something that I needed to know. It was not conceited, but
rude. This is something you tell your Mom, or your roommate. Not me. I'm
sorry, but it was not very thoughtful. Thanks for telling me about how you
met someone. Tomorrow will you tell me if he was any good in bed? I'm dying
to know.

 

[tweakmm]

owch, that last part is kinda harsh...

 

[amdwolfman]

was this a online relationship?,,,and was it going anywhere? ( seriuos )?

 

[Ameesh]

<< But why was I not surprised when you started in on your reasoning that people are spending more time at work with new technology and MORE paper?
>>




man i would have broken up with that pyscho bitch too! freak!

 

[jbod]

I don't know, the last part may be harsh but oh well.

She needs to grow up and maybe my response will help. Maybe it will make her hate me, which is what I am thinking.

I'll probably get a response back saying f-ck you prick.

 

[notfred]

What the hell is this paper/environment/time at work thing about?

 

[jbod]

was this a online relationship?,,,and was it going anywhere? ( seriuos )?

No, we met in college in physics class. We lived together for a year, she moved out to go to grad school. She left on OK terms and we have seen each other a couple of times since the summer of 2000 when she left.

 

[AreaCode707]

<< But why was I not surprised when you started in on your reasoning that
people are spending more time at work with new technology and MORE paper?
That is absurd. >>


Absurd maybe, but she's quoting from studies there. She's actually right. The paperless workplace thus far hasn't reduced the amount of paper used. The rest of the letter, up to you.

 

[jbod]

What the hell is this paper/environment/time at work thing about?

I am a project manager (network admin really, but I am manager I think b/c I have a business degree) of implementing this software we bought that eliminates paper forms. I told her how I was doing on the project and she rants off about how people are not really being more productive b/c of technology and that we actually use more paper.

I don't really care what she thinks about stuff like that, (I do think she is wrong, however) but damn, give me some freaking credit for once....jeez!

 

[jbod]

Absurd maybe, but she's quoting from studies there. She's actually right. The paperless workplace thus far hasn't reduced the amount of paper used. The rest of the letter, up to you.

May be true for the study that was done, but you can't really say for sure. Has the study for instance, surveyed all businesses? I doub it.

Also, if the technology reduces paper where I work, then I say we have succeeded. Software is becoming more and more productive for reducing the amount of paper in the workplace. You can't deny it. We have to start somewhere. Right?

 

[hopefloats]

I'm going to disagree. I don't feel that last part was "too harsh" at all.
If anything, a necessary message has been sent.
*shrugs*

 

[LongCoolMother]

talk to rallispec, he'll help you feel better *pat pat*

 

[yllus]

I not bothered that you met someone, only that you had to tell me about it.
As if it was something that I needed to know. It was not conceited, but
rude. This is something you tell your Mom, or your roommate. Not me. I'm
sorry, but it was not very thoughtful. Thanks for telling me about how you
met someone. Tomorrow will you tell me if he was any good in bed? I'm dying
to know.

Well said. I've been there. If you don't want to hear those things, draw those lines clearly and explicitly. Frankly I doubt she'll listen to even that and will continue to give you 'updates' - get ready to stop talking to her altogether in the near future.

 

[Presence]

Your girlfriend calls you jbod? LOL

Anyways my reply would be...see ya hoe

 

[HappyFace]

<< Your girlfriend calls you jbod? LOL >>

I was thinking the same thing. Mmm, the reply doesn't seem harsh at all. It gets across the message that you intend. Much better then beating around the bush, ya know.

 

Uh, yea.

 

[jbod]

Thanks for the moral support people. No she she doesn't call me jbod any more than her name is xxxx. lol

get ready to stop talking to her altogether in the near future

This is what I'm thinking.

Oh yeah, I sent the email before I posted here. Just wanted to see what you all think. Thanks.

 

[chickenhead]

Dude, she's obviously moved on. You need to move on too.

Write her a very angry email. Then don't send it, delete it. Think of it as therapy.

 

[jbod]

I have moved on DUDE! You don't see my point do you? The point is she has always been this way with me. We could never agree on anything no matter that I am doing well, she could never see that. And then to top it off, she plays games to try and see if I'm still interested. Well if I wasn't, would I still be talking to her? No.

Stop playing these games! It's the test game. "I'll test him to se if he really wants to keep something going. Yeah that will be real constructive."

I guess she found out what my answer is...I'm done playing this game.

Game over. No more tokens.

EDIT: Oh yeah, therapy. How about I write her an angry email, send it, don't delete it. AHHHHHH! I feel much better.

 

[Presence]

jbod hope you dont mind if I gank that Sept 11 vid you got in your sig and put it in mine.

 

[ArbitrarilyInsane]

<< But why was I not surprised when you started in on your reasoning that people are spending more time at work with new technology and MORE paper? >>



That reminds me, I need a new toner to smoke the environment and 500sheets of paper from the forrest they just cut down. ;-)

Technology has actually increased the amount of paper used. On the 20ppm laser printer people would just pring trivial two line "documents" on A4, while that would almost never happen before. People would just write it down in their notebook or organiser or something. What is true though, is that document storage in paper form is waaaaay lower than before.


If any environmentalist is waiting to pounce on my comments, just stop. I re-use preinted paper for draft purposes and and then it goes in the recycle bin. So, there you go.

 

[jbod]

Presence,

No I don't mind if you gank the vid from my sig. The more exposure the better.

 

[weeeplop]

yeah.. good.. she sucks.. dont need someone like her.. ehk..
and i do like that quote too

 

[Stark]

you're a network admin and you only have dial-up at home? ouch.

Law it down... either she wants something more with you or not. Either get it on or stop the games.

 

[Lithium381]

sounds like it's over after these last few words..heh