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You're cught up in the situation too much. Stand back and have a look at the consequences. What happens now? You're going to be stuck in a worse position if she says no. It makes no sense to email her.
 


<< The worse she could say would be &quot;no.&quot; >>

uh. for most girls, that's usually the answer if a good friend asks her out.

face it, if you're a friend, you're in the LOOP. and most girls don't date guys who are &quot;in the loop&quot;
 
I just talked the doc about it and he says alcohol is the only cure for this ailment.

Prescription: Have 3 beers of 4.75% alcohol in the first hour, 2 for each of the next 2 hours and then ask in person. This is a very common remedy for such a bout of shyness. 😉
 
sorry I am 18, not really that mature though
and didn't you see that I said she was going away to college next year, and I am staying here, or was that in another thread?
 


<< sorry I am 18, not really that mature though >>



:Q Apparently not. So after reading all the negative reactions here are you still planning on seeing this e-mail crap through to the end?
 
i believe tripleJ is onto something there...heh

seriously dont do this guessing crap...just tell her flat out

if you have regrets never let it be to regret what you didnt do.
- im sure someone has said this before
 
waht is apparently not supposed to mean? I am just afraid that I might ruin a good friendship or something, and I might be somewhat worried of the consequences of what could happen if she said that she did like me, I am not someone who has had a hell of a lot of experience with this type of thing
 


<< waht is apparently not supposed to mean? I am just afraid that I might ruin a good friendship or something, and I might be somewhat worried of the consequences of what could happen if she said that she did like me, I am not someone who has had a hell of a lot of experience with this type of thing >>



No offense meant, Atlantean...it's just that email-based guessing games are pretty juvenile. I understand your concern but keep in mind that it is not the end of the world if she doesn't like you. Besides, she's going away to college anyway, right? So it's not like you'll have to live next door to her for the next 4+ years.
 
Check out Descartes thread. He's on the right track and they are still friends. So shoulders back, chest out, stomach in, and have a go ya mug.
 
yeah I guess so, should I just tell her in the summer, because this email thing seems to be working, she is guessing, and when there are ten or something I will ask her why she thinks each one likes her, and I will ask if she would ever consider dating any of them, I just want to see how she will react, I won;'t tell her on the email thing, I will tell her in person, but I want to have an idea about how she will react
 
Atlantean:

You can't do anything about what she is going to say or what is going to happen. If she likes you, she likes you, if not, then don't worry about it. Worrying about what is going to happen or what the consequences are will do no good. Just finish up this email business and tell her straight up (in person) that you like her and want to pursue a relationship that's more than just friends. If she is really a good friend, then even if she says &quot;NO&quot;, she would still be your good friend.

This is really about you. If you can live with the fact that she doesn't like you beyond friends, and continue being friends with her after that, then you have nothing to worry about and are true friend to her. However, if once you find out that she doesn't like you, and you can't keep being friends with her, then there's probably no hope of keeping a friendship between you two.
 
I still think you should forget the whole thing but if you have to go through with it then tell her ASAP so that both of you can get on with your lives. Delaying the inevitable isn't fair to you and it certainly isn't fair to her.
 
Tell her in person of how you feel, or at least on phone, AIM, ICQ, etc... something that would get her reaction/responds of what you are gonna tell her right away. Not really emails. Also don't expect her to answer right away since it may come to a surprise to her. Give her time to answer, like a few days or so. Or maybe she likes you too but never told you 🙂 Anyways, hope you'll get the result that you want 🙂
 
Dude grow up. Just tell her how you feel and find out her thoughts on it. My bet is that you are probably too close to her for it to develop into anything more than just friends.

Besides...you'll be home next year and she'll be away at college banging Joe Frat Guy.
 
I agree with JayPatel, you are in the dreaded &quot;Friend Zone&quot; and there is no getting out of it really unless she feels the same about you. My advice to you (unless you know that she likes you back) is you forget it and put a little distance for a time. It is bad business trying to leave the friend zone, most people can't do it. I wouldn't try it unless you are absolutely sure. Cheers!! 🙂
 
Atlantean,
I have been in the same situation that you are in now, about a year ago.🙁 Just tell her in person.🙂 Trust me when I say the email thing won't work.
 
Ok, I didn't listen to anyone and did the stupid email thing, and I found out that we will be just friends because that is all that she wants, it might be different if I went and talked to her but I don;t know
 
or mabye she figured out what a looser you are by doing that stupid email thing and is now put off by it . be a man and tell her...... or be a boy and run away from it , your choice , if your going to be a boy send her my email address though , unless she is fat... then send it to someone else
 


<< if your going to be a boy send her my email address though , unless she is fat >>



Bwaaaaahhh...ha...ha...I needed that. Nothing like a good laugh first thing in the morning.

I think you're right though...the kid probably ruined it by doing the kindergarten email thing.
 
You can put this in your list of &quot;how not to win a girls heart&quot; for future reference.
What did she say in her email response that makes you think you don't have a chance? Maybe all hope is not lost. 😉
 
I don't think that she figured out that it was me, and she said that she would never consider anything with me, she also said it about a couple other guys
 
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