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is sleeping in bed with a friend normal?

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Originally posted by: Dissipate
Well if she is sleeping with them, they are probably peeking at her "goods" while she sleeps and or groping her. Either way I think it sounds like a pretty slutty situation.
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the way you put it is--uh--pretty creepy. obviously when u sleep together u cuddle... or "grope". but if u do this with 4/5 different partners then yes, it is slutty.

nap buddies do rule, tho
 
i would say its wrong. nor would i allow my partner to do this.
i have only done this with girls i *was* intimate with at one point.
 
I don't see anything wrong with it, as long as both parties are aware of what the boundaries are. I used to take naps with my ex-gf before I started going out with her, and even though I broke up with her last year I still do. I've do the same with other friends (both male and female) and have friends who do the same. Not everything is about sex and not every guy is out to get laid all the time.
 
that girl = teh whack
she's whack man. she craves physical attention.
wtf does she do? calls her guy friends up and say, "hey, wanna sleep in my bed like last week? come over!"
 
Any guy is going to get a woody when sleeping next to a girl -- it's just not normal if it didn't happen.

I think something is wrong with the chick - she seems like a nutjob - as indicated by others.

 
Originally posted by: Ronstang
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
Originally posted by: Ronstang
Damn you guys overanalyze everything. It must be due to lack of experience. I can't even remember how many friends of mine that were girls I slept in the same bed with over the years. Neither I, nor they ever "read" anything into the situation. Sometimes buddies fall asleep laying around while talking....blah blah blah. I really don't care what the circumstances are it is the people involved that are important.
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All well and good, but.... Would you let your g/f sleep in bed with some guy that she told you was a friend?
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No, but that wasn't part of the original poster's concerns now was it?
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No, it was not. But it helps to put perspective on the situation in order to judge right and wrong. For example, also look at the converse: Would your g/f allow you to sleep in a bed with some girl who you said was a friend? Hah! Yeah, right...
 
I've only met one girl that did this...i thought it was the oddest thing. And then when i met her friends...i found out they all did it!! I was hanging out with my friend and then her friends went into her bedroom for a nap. Straaange...but later that nite i slept in her bed with her since it beat sleeping on the floor. The first nite all i did was grab her ass a bit...but the next few days i slept with her. I don't think she did this with all her friends...i think they're all just really close.
 
Just stopping in to say that the girl is a major cocktease. No one is naive enough to think that habitually sleeping in the same bed with all your friends of the opposite sex is innocent.
 
If the boyfriend does not know about this, he should, especially if you're also friends with him. If their realtionship is serious to him in any way, he should know about this. Sleeping with people, even if truly innocent, carries STRONG sexual overtones in today's society. And if he does find out later -- perhaps even after something bad happens to her -- he will likely be EXTREMELY pissed being the last one to find out that it was going on.

As for trying to convince her, no way, no how that'll happen. She's a woman and that's realationship material. MAYBE if you were a girlfriend you could do something, but even then I highly doubt it. I've noticed a lot of women are quite into harmful situations, and this certainly looks to be it.

I really find it amazing that she tells you EVERYTHING. That's probably why she broke it off with you; she sees you as much more of a girlfriend than as her potential man.

Truly, this is the strangest relationship I have ever seen showcased here.

-- Jack

I will always cherish the initial misconceptions I had about you.
 
I've slept with a couple of my female friends w/o anything going on. What's even better is that they lived in the same dorm so they could have walked down a few stairs to their rooms. What both of them told me is that it's nice to sleep with someone when you feel all alone (going away to college). Girls do it all the time with each other. If they feel safe enough with a guy then they'll do it with a few of their guy friends if they feel safe enough with them (pay attention to how often girls will sleep with a gay guy). I can't say about the guys in this situation, but get the point across to her that a lot of guys don't think safe nap buddy and she is setting her self up if she does it with a bunch of guys and that she needs to make it VERY clear to them that she thinks of them as a BROTHER or FATHER or someone else thats safe to be with, not a fvck buddy.

 
we are talking sleeping overnight right?? not just falling asleep on a slow sunday or something?

ya, i believe that sleeping overnight with persons of the opposite sex is out of the norm of behavior.

another way to look at it is, would you want your daughter to sleep with many different guys on different occasions? for me, no i wouldn't.
 
Thanks guys... I wish I could show her this thread.. Though it would probably just piss her off..... I think I'm going to talk to her once more about this and then I'll just let her learn from her mistakes.... As for the comments about me wanting to be in a relationship with her - dude, she sleeps in the same bed as other guys... I don't want to be in a relationship with her! Sure, she dumped me but I was like 15 then.. 3 months later I met the girl I've been with for nearly 7 years.. A girl who's smarter, cuter, and does not sleep in the same bed as other guys 😉 Someone mentioned that it's weird that she tells me everything... Well, for some reason I have many friends (male and female) that often tell me everything.. I'm known as a good listener and people come to me for advice (such as "Dude, stop sleeping in the same bed with guys you barely know!")... So, her telling me everything is not really weird, even though I went out with her for a few months years ago.

Oh yeah, I don't know her boyfriend at all.. I met this girl, as I said, years ago while at a rage against the machine concert..We became friends over the phone (since she lived in a different state) and only hung out during the weekends.. We only hung out once since she dumped me but talk every week or so.. She now goes to school in MA but we're still pretty good friends.. in other words, I'm am not a part of of social circle so I do not know her bf (so it's not up to me to rat her out)... '

To those who ask "if this is your gf would you let her...?"- of course not.. if she needs a nap buddy she can call me.... If she's feeling lonely/insecure/etc. she could call me.. If she needs someone to keep her warm she sure as hell better call me.. that's why i'm conflicted, this is borderline deviant behavior to me but she views it as innocent and fun.. how can she not see that this behavior will get her into trouble???
 
My $.02 -

Its a mess. I have known single girls who have *a* nap buddy for security. Two tops. Its definitely not a lot of guys, and its not someone they usually just met. Girls who have bfs, the bf is supposed to be the nap buddy. Period, end of story. This girl sounds like she is probably an attention whore, and a tease who doesn't know the boundary of leading guys on. If I were her bf, she'd be kicked to the curb. It has nothing to do with trying to control her either, its about protecting myself and my feelings and stuff, she can do whatever she wants, but I would want no part of it.
 
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