Is physical attraction important in a relationship?

[skywalker66]

I've heard so many different views on this that it is nuts, well basically only 2, either yes or no.

I mean in a way it makes sense that appearances would be logically important in a relationship, in order for it to make things worthwhile, because dont physical appearances enhance the whole romance part?
Like kissing a 'physically' attractive girl with a good personality is a lot more pleasurable than kissing a 'normal looking girl' with a good personality, right?
And when it gets right down to it, and you marry them, then you get to sex which is a whole nother story. I mean sex with someone who you are 'physically' and 'personality wise' attracted to, is much more fun that sex with someone who your just attracted to their personality, right?
Like I know even a super cool awesome personality can enhance ones appearances, but can it enhance them that much?

So why do I get so much babble about how appearances really dont matter, and you'll be just as happy in the long run either way if you have an attractive or an ugly wife?
Some people say that the only reasons why appearances might matter, is because you are more inclined to talk to someone attractive of the opposite sex, at first. But I guess they say that if you were to stay open minded and talked to every woman you met no matter how gorgeous, normal, or wolf ugly they looked, that in the long run it wouldnt even matter once you got to know them.

(I still can't picture having sex with someone I wasnt physically attracted to)


So any thoughts any one?

I guess I havent been in a relationship before, so maybe i dont know any of this.

 

[FuZoR]

yes.

 

[StageLeft]

No, absolutely not and not in any way. I don't know why people seem to think it is, but fact is almost all relationships are started without any physical attraction whatsoever. Looks are overrated. In truth I find a fat, bloated, warty 48 year old equally intriguing to my sexual being as a mid 20's fit woman with a heaving bosom and slender hips.

 

[her209]

looks are as important as personality

 

[anxi80]

yes, of course it is.

 

[conjur]

Here ya go

(another shameless self-plug)

 

[Red]

Yes, it is important, but more so in the beginning of the relationship.

I think the most important thing in a relation ship is romance. Anyone with common sense and responsibility will master all of the communication and trust issue stuff. After you've been together for any time at all, especially after the hump-like-bunnies part, the couple slows down and you guys grow together and the only thing keeping it going is romance.

Do your best to look attractive for your mate, she'll do the same, and you won't be tempted to snack up with a better looking person.

 

[AkumaX]

where's the poll

 

[StageLeft]

On a serious note

So why do I get so much babble about how appearances really dont matter, and you'll be just as happy in the long run either way if you have an attractive or an ugly wife?

That's bullsh*t. Nuff said.

Some people say that the only reasons why appearances might matter, is because you are more inclined to talk to someone attractive of the opposite sex, at first.

Definitely I'd be less inclined to see a potential mate in a nasty looking person vs. the attractive looking person, so looks get your foot in the door.

But, even after the initially obsession wears off, 3 years down the road it's going to be a lot easier getting up in the morning to an attractive person than somebody who looks like a horror movie. And, since we all have to witness the eye candy in the world, the closer your significant other is to the ultimate ideal of eye candy the more likely you are to be happy with them.

 

[toekramp]

blah. is it really a question that needs to be asked?

 

[DamageInc]

Obviously, yes.

 

[BD231]

Of course it matters, some people just don't have the looks to say it dose .

 

[rgwalt]

Physical attraction is important, but the level of importance varies from person to person. For some people it is more important than personality. For some it matters very little at all. Also, people have different tastes in what they find attractive. For me, attraction is important, but I'm beginning to understand the extreme importance of personality. It is important to find someone that you can stand being with. I've met some very attractive girls/women who I couldn't stand being around because their personality drove me bonkers.

R

 

[mrCide]

how can looks not matter? how can you be with someone you're not physically attracted to? unless you have no plans for a sexual or sexual-related relationship, its 50/50 with personality/sense of humor/etc

 

[Renob]

Is physical attraction important in a relationship?

You cant be serious.

 

[MercenaryForHire]

yagt.org please ...

- M4H

 

[Zee]

Originally posted by: Renob
Is physical attraction important in a relationship?

You cant be serious.

i think he actually is :Q

 

[cpals]

I think physical attraction is what first brings two people together and then you get to know the person on a deeper level. If the person is hot, but is a psychopath, then I think you'd rather not be with that person.

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: rgwalt
Physical attraction is important, but the level of importance varies from person to person. For some people it is more important than personality. For some it matters very little at all. Also, people have different tastes in what they find attractive. For me, attraction is important, but I'm beginning to understand the extreme importance of personality. It is important to find someone that you can stand being with. I've met some very attractive girls/women who I couldn't stand being around because their personality drove me bonkers.

R

Yea, i agree that personality is important.. I couldnt stand a hot girl with a bad personality either, which is why you need to have both.

But I mean everyone likes sex, right? Everyone wishes they could have sex sometime in their life, right? lots and lots of it? How could someone enjoy having sex with someone that they werent physically attracted to?

and another really good question: What do the less fair looking people do, the people carrying a little extra weight, etc. I'd assume in most cases they would date someone at their appearance level as well, then would that mean that they simply BOTH wouldnt be attracted to each other very well in that sense? wouldnt they be missing out?

 

[ElFenix]

Originally posted by: Skoorb In truth I find a fat, bloated, warty 48 year old equally intriguing to my sexual being as a mid 20's fit woman with a heaving bosom and slender hips.

i'm sure mrs skoorb appreciates that sentiment

 

[skywalker66]

Originally posted by: Lazee

Originally posted by: Renob
Is physical attraction important in a relationship?

You cant be serious.

i think he actually is :Q

yes I am serious, because my mother, yes my own mother, was trying to tell me that appearances really didnt matter all that much, and that you learn that as you get older.

 

[kazamobah]

Yes I am serious, because my mother, yes my own mother, was trying to tell me that appearances really didnt matter all that much, and that you learn that as you get older.

I think she was trying to say that looks are not the most important thing.

Like others have already pointed out, dating a perfect 10 with a bad personality would get old quick.

 

[her209]

Originally posted by: skywalker66
yes I am serious, because my mother, yes my own mother, was trying to tell me that appearances really didnt matter all that much, and that you learn that as you get older.

she's telling you to not get your hopes up...

 

[Tom]

If you want to be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So for my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you !

-kid creole and the coconuts

 

[Renob]

yes I am serious, because my mother, yes my own mother, was trying to tell me that appearances really didnt matter all that much, and that you learn that as you get older.


How old are you 11?