Is one woman essentially as good as another?

[Liviathan]

Yes.

 

[Medicine Bear]

No

 

[Isla]

For those of you who say 'yes'...

Consider that it might be something within YOU that attracts you to the same kind of people again and again.

In otherwords... at this point in time, you haven't changed or grown in such a way that exposes you to different kinds of people.

 

[GasX]

You can ignore that thread as its contributors don't know any women...

 

[Rumpltzer]

All women are different. That's why I have multiple wives.

 

[Mucho]

Originally posted by: Isla
For those of you who say 'yes'...

Consider that it might be something within YOU that attracts you to the same kind of people again and again.

In otherwords... at this point in time, you haven't changed or grown in such a way that exposes you to different kinds of people.

point taken

 

[tami]

no, just as one man is not essentially as good as the other.

fortunately, i found the best one.

 

[Linflas]

No. I dated quite a few women while single but only have 1 wife of 20 years.

 

[YetioDoom]

Not even close. Every day you spend with a woman you will find one more unappealing thing about her.

Edit: Why are all of HotChic's posts edited by Anandtech Moderator? :Q

Edit2: Because it's her sig.

 

[iamme]

i know everyone likes to think there's one magical person for them......but like notfred mentioned above, let's say there are 3 billion women in the world. is it that far fetched to believe many women are very similar?

 

[PingSpike]

Originally posted by: YetioDoom
Edit: Why are all of HotChic's posts edited by Anandtech Moderator? :Q

pwned!

 

[Joemonkey]

Originally posted by: YetioDoom
Not even close. Every day you spend with a woman you will find one more unappealing thing about her.

Edit: Why are all of HotChic's posts edited by Anandtech Moderator? :Q

that is her signature numbnuts, look at the date and time

and generally, one woman is just as good as another. its all about finding the woman that annoys you the least!

 

[0roo0roo]

yea the thing about the whole soul mate line of thought is that it keeps people on the lookout for someone better even when in a relationship. the imperfect reality of normal relationships just encourages the eternal search for a soulmate. the doubt always creeps in.

 

[91TTZ]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Inspired by the "single moms" thread - somebody said, "why go with the one with baggage when there are plenty of women out there without the baggage?"

Is that how guys generally think about women, that they're all pretty much about equal and going for the more convenient is common practice? Or is there more to take into consideration like, "even though this woman has x y and z things wrong with her there's only one of her and that person is unique and may be worth it."

I guess it's kind of "plenty of other fish in the sea" question. Is that an accurate statement, from a guy standpoint?

No, everything gets weighed, depending on the guy's priorities. If the woman has a kid, she's pretty much out unless she's smoking hot. If a woman it only average looking but is nice, she still has a chance. If she's bitchy, she has no chance regardless of what she looks like.

Personally in my experience, I like nice girls. There is absolutely no chance that I'd date a girl who is mean/bitchy just because she looks good. My gf isn't ATOT quality, but she's nice, caring, and I've been with her for 7 years.

 

[HumblePie]

To a SINGLE MAN, with zero baggage or attachments, pretty much the line, "Plenty of fish in the sea" holds true. It also holds true for the guy that is looking to get as much different pieces of A$$ as they can before the settle.

I know there are guys that fall into the later category then the previous one. While I don't, and don't fully understand that mentallity myself, it exists with friends and being a guy myself I've been aorund other guys with that attitude almost all my life. Since they are just about everywhere.

Now for me, the former, if you are looking for someone, anyone, that will be for a serious relationship think of it like grocery shopping or car buying. There are plenty of attractive on the outside and on the inside women out there. I find myself attracted to many different women for many different reasons. Many, have "baggage" that once I get to know them automatically turns me off. This baggage isn't just in the form of kids. It's usually this list.

1) already married
2) already has kids
3) already in a really serious and commited relationship with someone I know and I wouldn't want to go there out of friendship for all parties involved
4) in a relationsip with a psycho would kill me if he found out I was even looking at here (this happens more often then you think)
5) Has mental or physical issues that may be under control now, but can get out of control later (can be something a silly as despression or bi-polar, to being fat or handicap)
6) Has a "history" of being a little too permiscuous
7) drugs, smokes, excessive tats, excessive piercings


Those are what I usually find as baggage. Some guys may find more or less then that, but out of most guys I've known, from the super sleeze to the super snob, that list pretty much defines "baggage" for most guys once they start seriously looking for a female "partner" for something other then a one night stand. I also put it in order from top to bottom of what kills the deal more then others for me.

Could I get over any of those baggage issues? Perhap, but if I don't KNOW you, then your not really any other girl that is attractive to me both inside and out.

Think of it like filling a job application. If I have 2 highly qualified candidates to fulfill that role, and they are almost equal in everyway then I look more closely at what makes them not equal. If one of them has a "problem" I don't like over the other, then I'm hiring the one without the "problem." Now, don't get me wrong, that was a pure analogy and kids aren't a "problem" but are definately "baggage." It's something that given a choice between girl A and girl B where everything is equal and I don't really know either one but girl A has kids and girl B doesn't, I'm going to gravitate to girl B.

Could I or most guys find a girl, get to know them, get to love them, and find out the "baggage" with that person makes no difference in the end? Yep.

However, most girls need to realize, when you are getting to know the guy you don't have to tell them ALL the possible negatives about you before they get to know all the good things first. Let the other person get to like the good things about you first before you be "honest." Seriously, the first thing out of my mouth when I meet women isn't a negative about me. That's just insane and most people will think your a wierdo. What if I walked up to you as a girl as said, "Hi! my name is so and so. I think your cute, and would love to get to know you. How about I buy you a drink? Oh, before we go any further, I'd just like to let you know I've slept with over 200 women in my life time. I have a raging case of athletes foot right now so if you see me scratching them you know why. I also have a bad hemriod that is flaring up so I may scoot around in my seat some. Also, I have a bachelor's degree, and work at suchandsuch place. How about you?"

If any guy said that, you'd think they were a FREAK! Well, I hear women say the first thing out of their mouths, or damn near it when I'm getting to know them but don't know them yet, all the bad things or baggage they have. Guess what I'm going to do? Politely excuse myself, and when I get out of direct line of sight, run like mad for the hills!

 

[YetioDoom]

Originally posted by: Joemonkey

Originally posted by: YetioDoom
Not even close. Every day you spend with a woman you will find one more unappealing thing about her.

Edit: Why are all of HotChic's posts edited by Anandtech Moderator? :Q

that is her signature numbnuts, look at the date and time

and generally, one woman is just as good as another. its all about finding the woman that annoys you the least!

Whoops!

I'll let you know when I regain feeling in my nuts.

 

[iwantanewcomputer]

ladder theory

 

[PingSpike]

I pwned myself. :/

 

[Sentinel]

if you are saying that from men to women, women are the same shouldn't the same logic be true for men? true that men have less of certain "baggage" but may have temper issues or drinking problems, or fidelity or whatever. So men aren't the same, thus you have enemies and friends and people who are indifferent, the likewise goes for women. What would the point of having one woman over another be if they were all the same. I can say very strongly that I have several ex's who are fvking lunatics and my gf now is a sweetheart.

 

[meltdown75]

"women are all the same." wow, what an overused cliche. if that were true, then men are all the same too. we're all the same.

no.

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Inspired by the "single moms" thread - somebody said, "why go with the one with baggage when there are plenty of women out there without the baggage?"

Is that how guys generally think about women, that they're all pretty much about equal and going for the more convenient is common practice? Or is there more to take into consideration like, "even though this woman has x y and z things wrong with her there's only one of her and that person is unique and may be worth it."

I guess it's kind of "plenty of other fish in the sea" question. Is that an accurate statement, from a guy standpoint?

Angelina Jolie w/ 2 kids or plain jane w/ none.... I'll take Jolie please.

 

[Trygve]

Originally posted by: HotChic
Is that how guys generally think about women, that they're all pretty much about equal and going for the more convenient is common practice?

No. Life would probably be a whole lot easier if that were the case. But, then, that's certainly a motivation for pretending it's true.

Men aren't all the same either. If they were, there wouldn't always be someone else who's cooler and more exciting that she's hoping to dump you for.

 

[Pliablemoose]

All women are the same only in the sense of having some similar charachteristics...

Other than the basic similarities, no. They're like snowflakes

However after extensive research on Yahoo Personals & Match.com, I find a surprising number of older women have decided that they're now fun and want to ride motorcycles, that they're "fit" if they don't ride in the electric scooter/shopping carts at Wal Mart, that they're "average" when they're 75-100 lbs overweight, that they're "independent" as long as they get child support, that they tend to have tens of thousands of dollars in short term debit, because they "deserve" to drive a (insert generic $30-40K upside down car loan here), that the really fat ones don't post their pictures, unless it's a head shot of their fat ass face, and they want some poor SOB to "complete" them cuz they're so damn schitzed out that they can't stay with one guy & have realistic expectations for life.

[/endMichaelDrant]

 

[Ready]

I will be completely honest with you.
When I see WFK, I only think about humping her and not marriage.

When I see WFNK, I only think about humping her and not marriage

 

[Ready]

When I see a skinny woman I think
"She will not fight me for food that is good"

When I see a woman with big breast I think
"She will provide my offspring with plenty of nutrients that is good!"

When I see a skinny woman with good hips, I think
"Hmm Jr will have no problem going through those"