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Is it wrong to want to be single?

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Well, first no one should control you even a spouse. Are you even dating yet though? If not I'd start down that route first.

If you end up finding someone that you are constantly giving up things for, you have just settled.

If anything finding the right person has things being added to your life, not taken away.
 
I've got no problem with you wanting to be single, but you have a pretty strange view of how relationships work. Are your parents like that?
 
I prefer being sinlge. I think being married before has kind of ruined me for all future relationships. I am with an absolutely amazing, nearly perfect girl right now, but I tried to break up with her on Friday (it didn't take) because I just much prefer being on my own now.

So no, I don't think it's wrong to want to be single.

KT
 
Originally posted by: KeithTalent
I prefer being sinlge. I think being married before has kind of ruined me for all future relationships. I am with an absolutely amazing, nearly perfect girl right now, but I tried to break up with her on Friday (it didn't take) because I just much prefer being on my own now.

So no, I don't think it's wrong to want to be single.

KT
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send her down here







anyway, a friend of mine has a complete man's house with pinball table, pool table, tvs in every room, server closet, bbq pit, etc. the only concession to his longterm gf is that she gets a closet for her shoes.
 
I'm 25 and yet to have a serious relationship. I'm pretty much convinced I'll be single forever seeing as I have no practice and would probably screw up any attempts from here on out.
 
I'm in the same situation. I've had casual relationships in the past, but it seems like all the available girls in my age group are looking hard or some kind of permanent relationship now. I like the women for sure, but they keep bringing their opinions about what I should or should not be doing with them.
 
Your problem is finding the right girl. When my wife wanted to buy a house (I would have been satisfied with apartment living for another 10 years, but at least the monthly payments are less!) her first question to me is where I wanted to install the racks and if all the telephone drops in the house could be replaced with dual network drops. We're looking at a 3 car garage and I prefer my truck to be outside so only her car and both of my bikes will go in the garage and I can use the rest of it for a workshop.

Edit: Also, realize not all women are controlling psychotic basket cases with daddy issues. Just most of the ones who idolize pop culture and think that romance novels and primetime TV are accurate depictions of a realistic and healthy relationships. There are many down to earth women, the trick is attracting their attention.

The wife and I keep separate finances, and separate hobbies - she hates most of mine, and I don't understand hers. But we also share many common interests, from video games to books. It's key to find someone with enough similar interests to be able to do things together at anytime, but not similar enough that you're ALWAYS together because you will simply get stifled fast.
 
Nothing wrong with being single, some people prefer it. I'll be married six years in September. I like being married, my wife doesn't control my life and I don't control hers. Marriage isn't for everyone. I think if you have a real controlling personality marriage isn't for you because at some point the other person will become sick of it and search for greener pastures.
 
Originally posted by: CRXican
I'm 25 and yet to have a serious relationship. I'm pretty much convinced I'll be single forever seeing as I have no practice and would probably screw up any attempts from here on out.
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I haven't had a serious relationship either. Just a bunch of random quasi-relationships. I can't think of how I could ever get close enough to someone to want to spend the rest of my life with them.

But then, I suppose nobody does.. and it'll just happen.
 
There's nothing wrong with it. Some people like their freedom. After you mature though, lonelyness will step in and you'll start looking around.

It's interesting you think that if you get a girlfriend that you are going to be controlled. Did you have a bad past experience?
 
Thanks for the tips guess I'm not wrong thinking then. TBH I have not really dated at all yet or had any serious relationships, I'm just basing this off what I see from other relationships (friends, etc). Good to know not all girls are controlling so maybe I'll get lucky and find one who's a computer geek or at least a gamer. Maybe I should just go with the flow and see what happens in years from now. I'm 22 so I have lot of time. Maybe after living alone for a few years I'll want to get married, who knows.
 
Originally posted by: RedSquirrel
Thanks for the tips guess I'm not wrong thinking then. TBH I have not really dated at all yet or had any serious relationships, I'm just basing this off what I see from other relationships (friends, etc). Good to know not all girls are controlling so maybe I'll get lucky and find one who's a computer geek or at least a gamer. Maybe I should just go with the flow and see what happens in years from now. I'm 22 so I have lot of time. Maybe after living alone for a few years I'll want to get married, who knows.
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good luck finding a computer geek, but a non controlling regular girls are out there
 
just do some SLAMMIN for now. don't ever let go of your hobbies or interests. if you start dating someone that starts giving lip, do her sister and slash her tires.
 
Originally posted by: meltdown75
just do some SLAMMIN for now. don't ever let go of your hobbies or interests. if you start dating someone that starts giving lip, do her sister and slash her tires.
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This.

KT
 
I don't think it's wrong, but I always say life's not worth being successful if you have nobody to share your successes with.

 
Originally posted by: Fritzo
It's interesting you think that if you get a girlfriend that you are going to be controlled. Did you have a bad past experience?
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Isn't this a common stereotype of relationships though? The girl spends all of the guy's money, and the guy is constantly having to grovel and/or apologize for things he may not necessarily be guilty of just so he might get a chance to have sex with his gf/wife that week?

I'm not saying it's true in general, but the ideas are repeated enough by guys that there's probably some element of truth to them.
 
Originally posted by: Bibble
The only way someone is going to take over your life is if you let them.
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This is a good point. Having said that, I think some guys like having their lives be controlled by a girl.

 
Originally posted by: RedSquirrel
Originally posted by: roid450
My money, my time, my own decisions, i love being single 😀 😀 😀

It's also fun to watch friends struggle with GFs that love to shop and drain the wallet, are over dramatic, and have pussssy whipped them and have the guys under full control.
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That's another of my fears. I'm a big money saver, and I'm a nazi about paying debts. Girls tend to have the "lets just put it on credit!" attitude.
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"But how can we be out of money? I still have checks left in the checkbook!"

😉

 
Originally posted by: Special K
Originally posted by: Bibble
The only way someone is going to take over your life is if you let them.
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This is a good point. Having said that, I think some guys like having their lives be controlled by a girl.
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Some definitely do and I think I was a little bit like that for a while, but definitely no longer.

KT
 
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