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Is it wrong to want to be single?

Red Squirrel

Red Squirrel

No Lifer
I've been looking for a house lately and looking forward to being on my own and have my own independence. My parents have been pushing for me to get a GF and get married, and even trying to hook me up. I've just been playing along, and I do appreciate their help as I'd be too shy to do it myself anyway, but they do kind of realize I just don't feel ready yet so I kind of wish they'd leave it at that.

My main issue is once I move out, I don't feel like having someone control my life, I want to be able to make my own decisions, such as setting up a server room, or a shop, etc... these are things 99% of girls would be against, also there's always the danger the girl does not like the house and I'm stuck moving out. I want to find a house that is perfect, and fully establish myself and stay there so I can pay it off fast enough. I'm also a lot into programming and have lot of personal projects, websites etc that I want to continue to maintain. I run a game server as well. All that would be out the window if I had a GF and got married. I'm just not willing to throw all my hobbies and projects away.

Am I seeing it the wrong way maybe? Would I get to continue my life even with a GF/wife?
 
Easy solution...

Date a gamer but since we all know women don't play video games you may have to switch sides. 😉
 
There's nothing wrong with that. I've had live in girlfriends, and a wife, but I really enjoy my time to myself, on my terms. The only person I answer to now is my daughter, and I don't mind that. I don't see me ever getting married again. I kind of like the freedom.
 
Being single is great. I've been living with my GF for 8 years, and while she's great and I love her and all that, I do miss the "single life".
 
My money, my time, my own decisions, i love being single 😀 😀 😀

It's also fun to watch friends struggle with GFs that love to shop and drain the wallet, are over dramatic, and have pussssy whipped them and have the guys under full control.
 
Originally posted by: roid450
My money, my time, my own decisions, i love being single 😀 😀 😀

It's also fun to watch friends struggle with GFs that love to shop and drain the wallet, are over dramatic, and have pussssy whipped them and have the guys under full control.
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That's another of my fears. I'm a big money saver, and I'm a nazi about paying debts. Girls tend to have the "lets just put it on credit!" attitude.
 
I feel alone sometimes. Then I spend time with my friends and their SOs and figure I can jerk off and get over those moments of solitude. Sometimes, the drama and bullshit enters the realm of the unreal and it absolutely infuriates me, even as an observer. I am starting to fall in love with my shitty little monotonous life and I don't know whether I should worry that it hasn't scared the shit out of me yet.
 
well if you wanna pick your priorities over a girl, youre call. but realize that one day you might want the girl and youll feel like youre out of time
 
Are there really that many controlling people around??

Ive been married for 8 years and we pretty much have the freedom to do whatever we want whether that be together or when we choose to do our own things with the exception of having an affair. Our primary limitations are budgets but if I wanted to do something like playing video games all weekend or making a game room which I would not, it wouldnt be an issue.
 
Originally posted by: RedSquirrel
I've been looking for a house lately and looking forward to being on my own and have my own independence. My parents have been pushing for me to get a GF and get married, and even trying to hook me up. I've just been playing along, and I do appreciate their help as I'd be too shy to do it myself anyway, but they do kind of realize I just don't feel ready yet so I kind of wish they'd leave it at that.

My main issue is once I move out, I don't feel like having someone control my life, I want to be able to make my own decisions, such as setting up a server room, or a shop, etc... these are things 99% of girls would be against, also there's always the danger the girl does not like the house and I'm stuck moving out. I want to find a house that is perfect, and fully establish myself and stay there so I can pay it off fast enough. I'm also a lot into programming and have lot of personal projects, websites etc that I want to continue to maintain. I run a game server as well. All that would be out the window if I had a GF and got married. I'm just not willing to throw all my hobbies and projects away.

Am I seeing it the wrong way maybe? Would I get to continue my life even with a GF/wife?
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There's nothing wrong with being single, but you don't have to treat every nice girl you meet like a potential wife, either.

I think you're over-analyzing things a bit. You're not going to go straight from the first date to her forcing you to buy a new house. If that is the eventual outcome way down the road, then it will only happen because you've decided that she means enough to you to make some sacrifices (unless you are a pushover and just do whatever people say).
 
Just casually date people or just one person. You'll still have the companionship of the opposite sex and not have anything serious or you can have something serious and just let them know how you feel about things. Nothing wrong with that. Just make sure you let the person know what you want so no confusion. Don't let anybody on these boards or in real life tell you that you'll be lonely if you don't get married.
 
Absolutely nothing wrong with it. Over time the females of any species make the males jump through progressively higher and higher hoops to get any 'tang. Birds of paradise are the ultimate example. I got a friend scraping himself through school living check to check with an occasional loan. His girlfriend just dropped $500 on a purse after buying one for over $100 a week ago. I can pretty much see the years dropping off his lifespan as he tells me this shit. And for what? Because millions of years of evolution has taught women that if they can't be a complete fucking bitch with one guy, it's easier to find another guy than to not be a complete fucking bitch. You just have to ask yourself if it's really worth it. My answer is no.
 
Hell no there's nothing wrong with being single. If you need a girl to go on a date with or whatever, find one and date for a night. If you like her, or any other girls, keep their number and call 'em back for another fling/date. I think you're absolutely right, you gotta establish yourself, stabilize your financial situation and do all the things you want to do. There's plenty of time for a committed relationship later. With the advances in medicine coming in future years, we'll all live longer on average than we are living today.

But if you find a chick, especially a hot chick that's into computers/games, and isn't high-maintenance, that might be a keeper.
 
Originally posted by: Flipped Gazelle
Being single is great. I've been living with my GF for 8 years, and while she's great and I love her and all that, I do miss the "single life".
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do you ever introduce her as your "common law wife?" I'm totally waiting for that opportunity. 🙂
 
Isn't this the wrong forum?

To be honest, it's hard to get the perfect balance. When I was single I had lots of free time but often felt lonely and wanting companionship. Now that I'm married with a kid I definitely sometimes miss having "me time". Women are way more needy than guys, that's for sure. Nothing worse than being dragged to an afternoon of shopping...god help me.
 
Of course broads don't want garages, or server rooms, or ham shacks, etc. You do it anyways.

In turn, they get to shop for shoes and shit.
 
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to do what you want to do. I bet you could do all of the stuff you mention above and just casually date a girl, as zerocool84 suggested. The only way someone is going to take over your life is if you let them.
 
Originally posted by: RedSquirrel
That's another of my fears. I'm a big money saver, and I'm a nazi about paying debts. Girls tend to have the "lets just put it on credit!" attitude.
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Some of them do. Plenty of guys are morons with money as well. They're more likely to piss away money on things which society associates with the primitive concept of "manliness," things like a new car or some loud thing which, like boisterously rustling tree branches in a forest and beating on one's own chest, will surely frighten and intimidate potential rivals.

It's all about the silly status game that many people play.


 
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