weirdichi
Diamond Member
Any inputs on this? Sometimes I feel like I have to like him only because he's my brother, but I really don't get along with him or even have any of the same interests. We do our own things. I'm 29, he's 23.
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Although not quite as extreme, I'm disappionted in him because he's still not at the stage of "Hey, I really need to think about what I'm gonna do in the future." His first year of college, he managed a 0.0 GPA, he's had 5 jobs the last two years, has an SUV that was almost towed because of no payment (or maybe it was already towed), owes me a couple hundered dollars, had my parenst cosign a cell for him and now there's a $400+ bill on it and he won't pay, goes out and spends hundreds of dollars on his fishing equipment as opposed to paying his bills, helps out 0% around the house with the bills and/or chore, and still does not know his priorities.
My parents keep babying him so I think he never learns. And when we try to talk to him in a grown up way, most of the time it ends up in a shouting match and him always saying we don't know how to talk to him. So we basically leave him to do whatever he does. Even without his financial problems, I still don't share any interests in what he does and generally do not like him. So now we just ignore him and let him do his own thing.
It's really frustrating because when he does need help in the future, I'm sure my mom will be there to bail him out. I'm not sure what I'd do. On one hand, I wanna say fvck it and that he needs to learn, but on the other hand he's family and I feel like sometimes I'll be the bad person in the family if I don't help out.
As of now, I do not loan him anymore money, do not loan him my car, do not do anything for him unless it's life-threatening. And yet I'm still confused as how I'm feeling right now, or how I'm SUPPOSED to feel.
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Although not quite as extreme, I'm disappionted in him because he's still not at the stage of "Hey, I really need to think about what I'm gonna do in the future." His first year of college, he managed a 0.0 GPA, he's had 5 jobs the last two years, has an SUV that was almost towed because of no payment (or maybe it was already towed), owes me a couple hundered dollars, had my parenst cosign a cell for him and now there's a $400+ bill on it and he won't pay, goes out and spends hundreds of dollars on his fishing equipment as opposed to paying his bills, helps out 0% around the house with the bills and/or chore, and still does not know his priorities.
My parents keep babying him so I think he never learns. And when we try to talk to him in a grown up way, most of the time it ends up in a shouting match and him always saying we don't know how to talk to him. So we basically leave him to do whatever he does. Even without his financial problems, I still don't share any interests in what he does and generally do not like him. So now we just ignore him and let him do his own thing.
It's really frustrating because when he does need help in the future, I'm sure my mom will be there to bail him out. I'm not sure what I'd do. On one hand, I wanna say fvck it and that he needs to learn, but on the other hand he's family and I feel like sometimes I'll be the bad person in the family if I don't help out.
As of now, I do not loan him anymore money, do not loan him my car, do not do anything for him unless it's life-threatening. And yet I'm still confused as how I'm feeling right now, or how I'm SUPPOSED to feel.
