Is it wrong to live with your parents after college?

[Kelemvor]

I didn't have anywhere else to move to after college so I moved back with my parents while I found a job. Then after that I moved out.

 

[l Xes l]

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile

Originally posted by: jdini76
My parents charge me $500 a month to live in thier house. The good thing is that "rent" is put into a savings account making 4.0% return and will be put towards a house when I find something that I can afford. I live in NJ.

Awesome parents man! Good for you!

agreed!

 

[Lola]

I have a question for all of you guys living at home that are over 18.... do you have uhm... "lady friends" at all? i mean, are you in a relationship? if so, isnt it difficult to spend time together? I would think that if you wanted to be alone it would be hard still living with mum and dad.

Please do not take offense to this question, i am just wondering because it is something that was difficult for me to do with my hubby when we were still dating before we lived together.

 

[miri]

I can understand why a leech wants to live at home. What I dont understand is parents letting them live at home after college, you would think they would boot them out, especially if they are over 18 and have a college degree, or at the very most give them 6 months to find a job and save enough to move out.

 

[jdini76]

Originally posted by: Pepsei

Originally posted by: GTaudiophile

Originally posted by: Pepsei
No, my parents live with me in MY first house. Then I got another house. so now I have two. How does that make me a looser?

This is call providing for your parents for what they done for you while you grow up and become a sucessful member of the community.

Nah man. That's indeed respectable! Good job that you can afford that.

Thanks man, I get mad when I see people with lack of respect for their parents.

With all do respect to you and yours, your original response is not relivant to the question in hand. The OP wasn't asking if your parents live with you, but if you live with your parents. Two different situations.

 

[Wnh5001]

I think its been getting really popular lately, cause of other issues, but if u can handle it and are comfortable with more power to u.

 

[amdskip]

I'm 23 and I plan on living at home when I graduate here shortly unless I get a job that changes that. My gf has a year left of school so whats the point of getting a place when I can live at home much cheaper and save money. My parents told me I'm welcome to stay there as long as I need. I have a great relationship with my parents.

 

[jdini76]

Originally posted by: miri
I can understand why a leech wants to live at home. What I dont understand is parents letting them live at home after college, you would think they would boot them out, especially if they are over 18 and have a college degree, or at the very most give them 6 months to find a job and save enough to move out.

Times have changed. in some areas, Rent can cost as much as a mortgage cost 10 years ago. and mortgages are now astronomical! So people are opting to stay home longer! Even the government understands, they added a law that forces insurance companies to extend dependancies to 30 years old!

 

[shenjingbing]

Actually, to revisit this issue, it's all depends on cultural differences. You'd find that in most Asian families, people do live together regardless of age or financial freedom. It promotes a coherent bond to which creates that "family". We don't move out, we just move to bigger houses.

 

[SampSon]

This topic has been done a million times.

Anyone who says it's wrong to live with your parents in any capacity must have had a bad childhood.

 

[Beige]

I am going to freeload and save up until i graduate college..so far im almost done freshman year. 😉

 

[BlueWeasel]

I lived with my parents for 2 months after graduation, then moved out when I got a job about a hour away. Rented an apartment for several years with a roommate, which allowed me to save for a downpayment on a house.

The only problem I see with some kids who live with their parents for an extended period of time who don't have a "savings" mentality. They move back in with their folks to save money for the future, yet their lifestyle doesn't reflect this. They put a meager amount aside, but continue to blow money on cars, vacations, hardware, useless stuff, etc.

By no means are you supposed to save every dollar you make -- you're young, so enjoy life. But, I've had friends who seem to have forgotten their parents' sacrafices allow them to do this.

 

[puffff]

Originally posted by: miri
I can understand why a leech wants to live at home. What I dont understand is parents letting them live at home after college, you would think they would boot them out, especially if they are over 18 and have a college degree, or at the very most give them 6 months to find a job and save enough to move out.

Parents could place a strong emphasis on family. Life is short right? What's wrong with a parent wanting to spend as much time with their kids, even if they are now grown up. If both generations get along and dont annoy each other, living under the same roof is an attractive option.

Furthermore, if a parent is concerned about their kid's future, they might even invite their kid to live at home. Someone could build a lot of wealth that way, provided the kid isnt all about new cars and the latest fashions. Wouldnt a parent rest easier knowing they can give their child a head start financially?

 

[essasin]

It's ok if you are...
1.going to grad/law/med school
2.saving up to by your own place. For those that live in the bay are know what I mean.Apartments in a decent area cost at least 200k and 30+ year old homes in a decent area will cost you at least 550k+ for a fixer-upper.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: l Xes l
Given that the person is not married and perhaps age of 23-29. How would people view a person living with their parents after college? Not money or job issue, but because the person wants to live at home with parents.

No problem, if you save money and work hard. If you become a nusciance to them though and are constantly mooching, I would say get the heck out.

 

[DaShen]

Originally posted by: Drakkon
if your above the age of 21 and living with parents voluntarily you are a looser

you are a loser if you call people loosers. 😉 😛

Nahhh, I am not a loser... 😱 at least that is what my mommy says. 😉 😛

 

[gamepad]

If housing is extremely expensive where you live, it's reasonable to stay at home for a bit with your parents.

 

[mjh]

Originally posted by: Queasy
I'd say it depends on why you are living there.

Bingo. If a person is saving up money while working and going to school, I see no problem with staying at home until they're 21 or 22. If the person is simply being a lazy bastage, that is definitely an entirely different story.

I'm 20 years old and currently live at home. I would prefer saving all of my money rather than trying to find a decently priced apartment here in the Bay Area.

 

[Kanalua]

I got into Law School in Hawai`i, where I grew up and my parents live. My wife and I are living with my parents while we get on our feet (after moving from Utah)...hopefully not too long, though.

 

[mitaiwan82]

who cares? Let's say you live with your parents until 18 and then goto college for 4 years, which means you might move back home at 22...you have still lived with them for more than 80% of your life at that time. I didn't live with my parents after college, but I still don't think people that do should get sh1t for it.

 

[DainBramaged]

Originally posted by: KarenMarie
this question has been asked and and answered here, numerous times and iirc, the majority of ppl jumped on the OPs calling them all sorts of stuff, from failure to immature.

However, I don't agree. If the child carries their portion of it, I think that it shows a good relationship with the parents. What could be much better in life?

 

[phantom309]

I had to move back for about 6 months. It was wierd and unpleasant, but you gotta do what you gotta do.

 

[Fenixgoon]

i would try and move out ASAP, but my oldest brother lived at home for a little while while working (his work was ~30 minutes from our house anyway)

 

[Rachael]

I don't think it means you're immature. I'm 19 and dorming, but unless you're REALLY leeching off of your parents, I don't think you're doing anything wrong (especially if you live in NJ).

 

[Ausm]

I hit the road when I was 15 so anyone that age with a job living at home is pathetic imho.


Ausm