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Is it wrong to continue a relationship if you know it won't work out?

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huberm

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is it wrong to continue a relationship if you're having fun but already know it won't work out in the long run?
 
how do you KNOW it won't work out? if things are sweet, go with it. things change for the good sometimes.
 
Originally posted by: huberm
is it wrong to continue a relationship if you're having fun but already know it won't work out in the long run?
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How do you know it won't work out? Seeing red flags?
 
Originally posted by: Cdubneeddeal
Originally posted by: huberm
is it wrong to continue a relationship if you're having fun but already know it won't work out in the long run?
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How do you know it won't work out? Seeing red flags?
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Yes, do tell.

Additionally:

How into each other are you? If you're both just having a good time, then screw it...or each other, as the case may be. But if you're just banging her like a screen door in a tornado, but she's already naming the children, then you've got probs.
 
IMO there's nothing wrong with it so long as both people in the relationship are clear on this. If one is being deceived or has totally different expectations than the other (and this is known by the other), then it is wrong.
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
IMO there's nothing wrong with it so long as both people in the relationship are clear on this. If one is being deceived or has totally different expectations than the other (and this is known by the other), then it is wrong.
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Originally posted by: huberm
Originally posted by: altonb1
Why do you think it won;t work out?
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she has kids and a few other things i don't like
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then you should tell her, "look... i'm not really looking for something permanent with you. if you're cool with that, we can keep having fun."
 
Originally posted by: huberm
Originally posted by: altonb1
Why do you think it won;t work out?
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she has kids and a few other things i don't like
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Got news for you. The kids were there before you AND she will favor them EVERY time AND you will either be kind and polite to them or you'll be shown the door.

Been there, done that. The kids will mess up your weekend with her, ruin your dinner with her and take FIRST PLACE with her every time. It sucks, but that's the way it is.
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
IMO there's nothing wrong with it so long as both people in the relationship are clear on this. If one is being deceived or has totally different expectations than the other (and this is known by the other), then it is wrong.
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:thumbsup:
 
Originally posted by: Astaroth33
IMO there's nothing wrong with it so long as both people in the relationship are clear on this. If one is being deceived or has totally different expectations than the other (and this is known by the other), then it is wrong.
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QFFT.

You better be real clear with her now, and give her a chance to decide whether she wants to continue, knowing how you feel - or don't feel. Hurting her now will be nothing to what she'll suffer when she finds out (and we always do) that you've been using her. You owe her the truth - nothing more, and nothing less.
 
Wrong is subjective.

Anyway, the goal of a relationship isn't always for the long term. You can go out and date just to have some fun.
 
Originally posted by: SampSon
Wrong is subjective.

Anyway, the goal of a relationship isn't always for the long term. You can go out and date just to have some fun.
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That's true - if the two people in question understand what each other's goals are.

 
Both parties involved would have to agree on whatever, that's what is important.

But IMHO, yes, it's wrong.
 
Originally posted by: sixone
Originally posted by: SampSon
Wrong is subjective.

Anyway, the goal of a relationship isn't always for the long term. You can go out and date just to have some fun.
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That's true - if the two people in question understand what each other's goals are.
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I've had too many women with the goal of an intense long term relationship.
Once that discussion comes up and don't tell her EXACTLY what she wants to hear, it's bye bye, out the door, cya never.
 
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