Is it wrong to ask a girl...

[Sealy]

Personally I would'nt be offended. But I guess each to his own.

My husband has requested I wear certain things, and if I agree that it's appropriate, I'll wear it, if it's not I don't! I certainly don't get angry about it!

Good luck with all that!

 

[MegaloManiaK]

Originally posted by: Ranger X
Communicate. Ask her why it makes her feel uncomfortable and tell her why it's important to you. If that doesn't work, tell her you're the man and that's just the way it's going to be.

Not necessarily in that order though

 

be like "biatch! You best be wearin dat dem clothes there or yus be gettin some work 'round yur eye!"

 

[MaxDepth]

Screw it. Just tell her that if she can't be there for you to dress up to something important for you, then you can't see doing anything important for her. And that she is the lousiest sex you've ever had.



Uhm, yeah. You go tell her that.

 

[dxkj]

Originally posted by: isekii
Jsut be like "wow that really looks good on you"

she'll wear it more

or some variation, this usually always works

 

[Feldenak]

Originally posted by: ActPrincess

Originally posted by: Sideswipe001
Nothing like that. We are going on a formal date to see Les Mis in Atlanta, and I asked her to wear heels (practical ones - 4", nothing too big). What can I say, I like heels. What I get is an "why can't you love me the way I am and let me be myself and wear what I want" lecture, followed by a "If you loved me you'd let me be me." I don't get it. She says she wants to look nice for me, when I tell her what *my* opinion of something nice is...she freaks because she thinks they are uncomfortable (that's her reason for not wanting to wear them). So, basically she's pissed at me and I'm still trying to figure out where exactly I did something horribly wrong.

I see. I guess there is really nothing to reply to that. If comfort is an issue, i would just let it be, but as someone said, just tell her that she looks great no matter what, but she looks extra sexy in heels! Can you compromise by saying that if comfort is an issue, we can get valet instead of walking... or something along those lines?

Tried. Apparently the walk from the car to the restaurant and back, and then from the car to the theatre and back is too long. The sad thing was she went and bought these other shoes, and when she showed them to me, she was upset because I wasn't excited about them. I mean...yes, I didn't handle that as well as I should of...I was a bit too blunt...but still. She wants me to be honest, and then doesn't like it when I am.[/quote]


Welcome to the interworkings of the female mind! That senario you just described has been done tons of times by unsuspecting, loving, honest boyfriends all over the world. There is nothing to do this time!
hey, next time, YOU go shopping and get her some pretty shoes and give them to her. That way she will feel special that you thought of her, and you can choose the kind you like. If she dosent like them then... i am out of ideas! [/quote]

If she gets angry at a simple suggestion like that....that is the time you go with "comfort" as well and get your rattiest pair of comfy blue jeans, old nasty college shirt, and beat up comfy shoes and say that if she's dressing comfortably, then so are you.

 

[Yax]

Originally posted by: Sideswipe001
To wear something for you? Not all the time, but occasionally. My girlfriend freaks out if I ever ask her to wear something specific and I just don't understand it at all. I mean, heck, if she asked me to wear something, I'd do it in a second; but I'm some manipulative bastard if I ask her to wear heels with her outfit on this big date we have planned.

Is there something wrong with that? Am I totally out of line for making a request like that?

Well Duh! if she's undressed and you asked her to wear something, she's likely to think you saw something you didn't like and you know how girls are when it comes to their bodies.

But on a more serious note, I recalled asking a former girlfriend to wear skirts and dresses around me. I told her that those things don't completely outline her privates and leave something to the imagination; ofcourse, in reality, it was just easier to lift up the skirt than to try to unbutton and pull down the Jeans.

 

[Brutuskend]

Originally posted by: dolph
damn, mine asks me all the time if there's anything i'd like her to wear.

And the answer of course is NO!!!

 

[Aquaman]

Originally posted by: Sideswipe001
To wear something for you? Not all the time, but occasionally. My girlfriend freaks out if I ever ask her to wear something specific and I just don't understand it at all. I mean, heck, if she asked me to wear something, I'd do it in a second; but I'm some manipulative bastard if I ask her to wear heels with her outfit on this big date we have planned.

Is there something wrong with that? Am I totally out of line for making a request like that?

looks like no sex for you

Cheers,
Aquaman

 

[Yossarian451]

Well I a have a completely opposite problem. I always tell her to wear the comfortable ugly shoes. Becasue she always wears the "pretty" shoes that "match" but then bitches about how her feet hurt. SO I make my best efforts to make her wear ugly comfortable clothes then tell her she looks pretty, (which she does anyway, atleast to me), so eventually she makes it not a point to bitch about having to match or wearing uncomforatable shoes.

 

[kranky]

Why did she buy those shoes in the first place if she finds them too uncomfortable to wear?

 

[deerslayer]

In my experience, don't bother asking them to do anything, but ask how high when they tell you to jump.

 

[Ameesh]

slip her a mickey and put the shoes on her while shes out.

 

[AreaCode707]

Nothing wrong with that at all. In fact, I'd like it if my SO did that so I can know what to wear when I want to especially look good for him (aka, all the time. )

 

[fatkorean]

"If you loved me you'd let me be me." .

<---- This doesn't bode well...

To be blunt, I would seriously look at your relationship and see if it is worth it. A relationship is about compromise. Not one side compromising but both sides doing it. In a relationship something has to give. One person can't be always "right." If you give in all the time, where is the compromise? There is none. Its just you doing all of it. That isn't a good basis to base a relationship off of. You have to give and take, unless you like to be a doormat, henpecked and what not (this goes for both sexes and not just him)

So think about the future, do you see yourself as always caving in and "obeying" her? If so then just keep doing what your doing and let her be her.


-fk

 

[Cuular]

and I'm still trying to figure out where exactly I did something horribly wrong.

About the time you disconnected your balls and gave them to her to put in a jar.

Tell her to wear the better looking shoes. And if she isn't going to wear them, then return them to the store.

Then find a new girl that's less of a drama queen.

 

[eLiu]

Originally posted by: Sideswipe001
To wear something for you? Not all the time, but occasionally. My girlfriend freaks out if I ever ask her to wear something specific and I just don't understand it at all. I mean, heck, if she asked me to wear something, I'd do it in a second; but I'm some manipulative bastard if I ask her to wear heels with her outfit on this big date we have planned.

Is there something wrong with that? Am I totally out of line for making a request like that?

hm...I make 'outfit requests' to my gf all the time...and she's usually more than happy to oblige (Unless of course i ask for something...let's say, out of line...lol)