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Is it wrong for a guy in a relationship to look at porn?

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Oh and I promised her I wouldn't jack it until she comes back (1 month and a half). I made this promise so to prove to her (and me) that I can control my sexual urges.
 
I don't think it's wrong to look at pr0n in and of itself. I do think it's wrong if you lie about doing it and/or try to hide in from your unapproving partner.

And WTF? How can you have a hard time visualizing her in an erotic way? Assuming you've already slept with her before, just remember what it was like...
 
If she has a problem with it, then you need to choose. It's not wrong if it's not a problem for anyone involved. Of course, there may be some subconscious needs not being met if you're going there habitually.
 
Originally posted by: Pippy
Oh and I promised her I wouldn't jack it until she comes back (1 month and a half). I made this promise so to prove to her (and me) that I can control my sexual urges.
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Good luck with that.
 
Originally posted by: ATLien247
I don't think it's wrong to look at pr0n in and of itself. I do think it's wrong if you lie about doing it and/or try to hide in from your unapproving partner.

And WTF? How can you have a hard time visualizing her in an erotic way? Assuming you've already slept with her before, just remember what it was like...
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Yes I can visualize it, but I'm not "relieving" myself because of my promise. I guess this is just a side effect. I can make it, I know I can! The sex will be awsome onces she comes back.
 
Originally posted by: Golgatha
Originally posted by: Pippy
Oh and I promised her I wouldn't jack it until she comes back (1 month and a half). I made this promise so to prove to her (and me) that I can control my sexual urges.
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Good luck with that.
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Oh I'll need it.
 
Originally posted by: Pippy
Originally posted by: ATLien247
I don't think it's wrong to look at pr0n in and of itself. I do think it's wrong if you lie about doing it and/or try to hide in from your unapproving partner.

And WTF? How can you have a hard time visualizing her in an erotic way? Assuming you've already slept with her before, just remember what it was like...
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Yes I can visualize it, but I'm not "relieving" myself because of my promise. I guess this is just a side effect. I can make it, I know I can! The sex will be awsome onces she comes back.
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The only thing awesome about it will be how quickly you're "relieved".
 
Originally posted by: iwantanewcomputer
would you want her looking at gay porn?(i say gay cause i'm guessing this porn in question focuses mainly on the women, or shows women in a submissive/servile role)
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thats misleading, thats implying the OP likes looking at lesbo porn... Personally I think lesbo porn is meh.
 
Originally posted by: Golgatha
Originally posted by: Pippy
Originally posted by: ATLien247
I don't think it's wrong to look at pr0n in and of itself. I do think it's wrong if you lie about doing it and/or try to hide in from your unapproving partner.

And WTF? How can you have a hard time visualizing her in an erotic way? Assuming you've already slept with her before, just remember what it was like...
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Yes I can visualize it, but I'm not "relieving" myself because of my promise. I guess this is just a side effect. I can make it, I know I can! The sex will be awsome onces she comes back.
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The only thing awesome about it will be how quickly you're "relieved".
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Yeah. I think it will be like the guy with the pain medications. As soon he took those pain medications the pain went away. Well onces the sex finishes, all that backed up sexual tension will be relieved with greater pleasure.
 
I've been on both sides of this. My ex-wife was a hawk and hated whenever I spied porn. My current gf on the other hand actually brings up the topic of getting a movie and watching together. I have found that in my current situation I'm a lot more open and willing to talk about things since she is open as well.
 
I say no it isn't wrong, however if you value the relationship and she doesn't like it, you should at the very least be discreet and keep it to yourself. 🙂

My wife keeps reupping my subscription to Playboy, and I get new "movies" for my birthday and for Christmas... so I'm assuming it's ok with her. lol
 
Originally posted by: Pippy
Oh and I promised her I wouldn't jack it until she comes back (1 month and a half). I made this promise so to prove to her (and me) that I can control my sexual urges.
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You're both messed up. Go look at porn. Do what naturally follows. Now.

Stop viewing your natural sex drive as something wrong.
 
Originally posted by: Dirigible
Originally posted by: Pippy
Oh and I promised her I wouldn't jack it until she comes back (1 month and a half). I made this promise so to prove to her (and me) that I can control my sexual urges.
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You're both messed up. Go look at porn. Do what naturally follows. Now.

Stop viewing your natural sex drive as something wrong.
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if i dont perform regular maintenance on it (either self service or by the SO), i find that i may experience night leakage after 2-3 weeks (but i haven't had a dry spell for that long lately 😛)
 
Originally posted by: Pippy
Originally posted by: ATLien247
I don't think it's wrong to look at pr0n in and of itself. I do think it's wrong if you lie about doing it and/or try to hide in from your unapproving partner.

And WTF? How can you have a hard time visualizing her in an erotic way? Assuming you've already slept with her before, just remember what it was like...
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Yes I can visualize it, but I'm not "relieving" myself because of my promise. I guess this is just a side effect. I can make it, I know I can! The sex will be awsome onces she comes back.
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why? cuz since the pressure you've built will make it last a whole 5 seconds? :laugh:
 
It gives me ideas to try with her. I woulda never have thought to put my foot on her head while umm... nevermind. :laugh:
 
there's no right or wrong
Love is a game of matching
That's what she preferes .. And this is what you prefer
Willing to stop? Willing to let go?
 
Every gf I have had has said it was cheating unless she was helping me find it. Just depends on the girl I guess.
 
I think the idea of watching porn to look at other hot women is completely wrong... I do it to watch those fetishes which ill probably never make, but like to watch anyway (the really weird ones, thats where the fun is) and my gf likes it as well, and she likes the idea of me watching... so absolutely NO ITS NOT WRONG IN ANY SENSE
 
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