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Is it wrong for a guy in a relationship to look at porn?
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engineereeyore
Platinum Member
I would have to agree with her. If you're in a relationship with someone and you're looking at porn, you're being disrespectful to her and to your relationship with her.
Just my opinion though.
engineereeyore
Platinum Member
ROFL!!!!
That explains it. I've never "jacked it", so now I know what's been causing the headaches. 🙂
Any women who doesn't want their man to look at porn or other women, but doesn't pleasure her man everyday (at least oral sex), has no business telling their man to stop looking at porn. I've known women to go as far as to tell their man to stop masturbating. :roll:
Any woman who has major problems with porn, masturbation, checking out other women in public or think any of the aforementioned actions are "cheating"; have extremely serious self-esteem issues and are probably some of the most insecure, controlling people around.
I hate to think what these women would think about their men having a casual conversation with another woman, the sky might fall!
shortylickens
No Lifer
The handful of times in my life I was in a serious relationship, she WANTED to look at porn.
I guess if I ever got with a girl who didnt like it, I could give smut up for a while. But I wouldnt toss it out. Just put it in storage and if we break up, I wont feel stupid.
I guess if I ever got with a girl who didnt like it, I could give smut up for a while. But I wouldnt toss it out. Just put it in storage and if we break up, I wont feel stupid.
shortylickens
No Lifer
:Q
🙂
That would be a great day, but the most I've ever been able to do is this:
http://pics.bbzzdd.com/users/shortylickens/Rosie_Public_01.jpg
mattpegher
Platinum Member
The real question you have to ask her is why she is opposed to you viewing porn. The human male is very visually oriented toward sex. Hell the evolution of the female breast (to mimmic the engorged breasts of a woman who is currently breast feeding your child), red lipstick (to mimmic arousal) and many other processes exploited that fact.
Is she insecure in her own body image. Does she feel she has to compete with these women. Is she afraid that you will see something you want that she does not want to do.
Studies show that men who are recieving regular sex actually masturbate more than those who are not.
You need to talk to her about this and reach a mutual agreement. I suggest that you watch some porno together. Pick something with a good amount of fantasy to it. Best without lesbian scenes unless shes into that. And make a rule, you are not allowed to touch eachother or yourselves until its over. Then see what her decision is.
Is she insecure in her own body image. Does she feel she has to compete with these women. Is she afraid that you will see something you want that she does not want to do.
Studies show that men who are recieving regular sex actually masturbate more than those who are not.
You need to talk to her about this and reach a mutual agreement. I suggest that you watch some porno together. Pick something with a good amount of fantasy to it. Best without lesbian scenes unless shes into that. And make a rule, you are not allowed to touch eachother or yourselves until its over. Then see what her decision is.
The Batt?sai
Diamond Member
look at porn together 🙂. preferably self made videos with each other 🙂
alphatarget1
Diamond Member
if you're getting enough you shouldn't have to look at porn!
Nothing wrong with looking at porn while in a relationship. Infact, as others have mentioned, looking at it together with your GF can make it all the more interesting.
Now, given what you've told us about your GF, I'd say she is in dire need of some "exposure". Watch some porn together. And once she's ready, and if you're into such things, "experiment".
However, it might be a good idea to hold of on the porn until she's back and you've had a little "talk". Show her that you've been a "good boy" and try to get her to make "compromises". Tell her that you love her(some women NEED to hear this). Make her feel secure in herself and the relationship. The rest should come naturally with time. Just go easy on her, and don't force it.
Also, as mattpegher pointed out. It might be a good idea to ask her and find out exactly WHY she has a problem with you watching porn. Knowing the reason behind her not wanting you watching porn can sometimes be critical when attempting to reach a compromise or "mutual agreement.".
His tip about finding a porno with a good amount of fantasy in it is also a good idea. As long as it's softcore. You should save any hardcore stuff for later when you feel she is ready.
Now, given what you've told us about your GF, I'd say she is in dire need of some "exposure". Watch some porn together. And once she's ready, and if you're into such things, "experiment".
However, it might be a good idea to hold of on the porn until she's back and you've had a little "talk". Show her that you've been a "good boy" and try to get her to make "compromises". Tell her that you love her(some women NEED to hear this). Make her feel secure in herself and the relationship. The rest should come naturally with time. Just go easy on her, and don't force it.
Also, as mattpegher pointed out. It might be a good idea to ask her and find out exactly WHY she has a problem with you watching porn. Knowing the reason behind her not wanting you watching porn can sometimes be critical when attempting to reach a compromise or "mutual agreement.".
His tip about finding a porno with a good amount of fantasy in it is also a good idea. As long as it's softcore. You should save any hardcore stuff for later when you feel she is ready.
shortylickens
No Lifer
I've seen a lot of general suggestions but nothing specific so far.
First, I would go with some of those late night Cinemax, B-movies. Those erotic thrillers can be found on DVD if you look hard enough.
Anything by Andrew Blake would be considered a good starting point in actual porn for girls.
Its mostly exotic softcore with the few hardcore scenes being done very tastefully. He must have about 20 movies by now.
Next on the list would be some of the french movies (if you dont get grossed out by furburger). Many of the erotic films they make would be considered hardcore porn here in the US. But again very tasteful and not too nasty. Find movies from the late 90's/early 2000 era if you want to avoid the big hair pie.
After she's gotten used to softcore and classy hardcore stuff you can slowly move on to the big guys. VCA, Vivid, Jill Kelly Productions. But avoid stuff with Ron Jeremy for a little while, you dont want to scare her away.
Also, many of the directors from Hustler Video/Larry Flynt Productions liked to sneak in some watersports into their normal movies.
Please preview them before letting your girl watch.
First, I would go with some of those late night Cinemax, B-movies. Those erotic thrillers can be found on DVD if you look hard enough.
Anything by Andrew Blake would be considered a good starting point in actual porn for girls.
Its mostly exotic softcore with the few hardcore scenes being done very tastefully. He must have about 20 movies by now.
Next on the list would be some of the french movies (if you dont get grossed out by furburger). Many of the erotic films they make would be considered hardcore porn here in the US. But again very tasteful and not too nasty. Find movies from the late 90's/early 2000 era if you want to avoid the big hair pie.
After she's gotten used to softcore and classy hardcore stuff you can slowly move on to the big guys. VCA, Vivid, Jill Kelly Productions. But avoid stuff with Ron Jeremy for a little while, you dont want to scare her away.
Also, many of the directors from Hustler Video/Larry Flynt Productions liked to sneak in some watersports into their normal movies.
Please preview them before letting your girl watch.
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