is it so wrong to not really care about building "connections'

[skim milk]

I meet people.. and I will continue to meet new people for the rest of my life.. alright but I don't forcifully try to sustain the relationship with them.. you know what I mean?
I want everything to happen naturally, I'm just not the type of person who goes around trying to maintain friendships, I feel that a true friendship will sustain itself no matter what happens. Even if I haven't spoken to them in a long time, I can still depend on them to be there, that's the "connection" that I want.

I was just browsing a popular social networking site that is used by college students, and thanks to the newsfeed feature, I was able to see all the comments left by this one girl to others. I noticed how she only left comments to people that are doing very well for themselves... they are at a prestigious dental school, medical school, law, etc.
I don't have anything against her, but she's not even really close to these people, maybe she's playing the game right for doing so. Maybe these same people will be able to help her in the future, whether it's free legal advice or whatever. However, I, on the other hand, won't really try to forge relationships, my philosophy is, if it happens it happens, if it doesn't, I just let it go. If I'm going to be a lonely loser who can't get anywhere due to lack of connections, then I'll live with that. At least I didn't sell my soul or my identity to build superficial relationships. Feel free to share your thoughts

 

[z0mb13]

you dont have to maintain "close" connections, "loose" connections work as well

Highly connected people are very apt in maintaining these loose connections.

 

[Hyperblaze]

You do realize that networking is the easiest way to find work when you need it right?

 

[Liviathan]

Originally posted by: Hyperblaze
You do realize that networking is the easiest way to find work when you need it right?

If you know the right people.

In 2003 i was laid off...needed a job bad. That's when I realized that I didn't have a single friend that was doing something worth while with themselves. I was the one doing the right things.

 

[Skeeedunt]

Building connections with people is more of an investment than anything. It's certainly not a crime though, nor does it make you a souless sociopathic tool to keep in touch with people that you find less than outstandingly interesting

If it's not worth the effort to you, that's fine, but you may regret it later.

 

[Jawo]

Originally posted by: Skeeedunt
Building connections with people is more of an investment than anything. It's certainly not a crime though, nor does it make you a souless sociopathic tool to keep in touch with people that you find less than outstandingly interesting

If it's not worth the effort to you, that's fine, but you may regret it later.

I agree....took the words out of my mouth! Connections is how I got my internship, and several job offers. People will recognize/remember you and the (hopefully) excellent wok you do and when you need a favor, they can help you out.

However, posting on people's wall in facebook can get kinda low and brown-nosing at times.

 

[randomlinh]

why did you tiptoe around the fact you were on what sounds like facebook?

 

[kranky]

I wouldn't call leaving comments for strangers at a social networking site "building connections."

But you should think about putting some effort into maintaining friendships. They don't just continue without an investment, and without effort you won't have "true friendships." I have a number of good friends and realistically, it's very doubtful if any of them would ever be able to help me get a job.

If you don't keep in contact with people, then it's unrealistic to depend on them to be there for you if you need something. You are going to look like someone who uses people. You'd feel the same if you hadn't heard from someone in a long time and when they finally do get in touch, it's because they need something from you.