Is it really possible to "learn" social skills?

[puqdew]

Originally posted by: venkman
GAD?

www.google.com

 

[Mojoed]

Originally posted by: puqdew

Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
what's with asians and social anxiety?

howd you know i was asian

Perhaps it was this thread?

Or about a dozen others.

 

[puqdew]

Originally posted by: mizzou
it's only possible to fake it, and faking it is much much worse!

please elaborate. as I have said, I'm actually very good at faking. It's gotten me this far already but its still highly uncomfortable

 

[puqdew]

Originally posted by: Mojoed

Originally posted by: puqdew

Originally posted by: BlahBlahYouToo
what's with asians and social anxiety?

howd you know i was asian

Perhaps it was this thread?

Or about a dozen others.

wow you guys are good

 

[oogabooga]

Originally posted by: Quasmo
http://forums.anandtech.com/me...ht_key=y&keyword1=vent

I still remember my first (and actually now that I think about it possibly only) experience in Vent

They said "Hello oogabooga, all new people must answer this - If you went camping in the woods with a bunch of guys, and they ass raped you would you tell anyone? Also... If the answer is no do you want to go camping this weekend?"

I think WoW took over vent time shortly after that, but it was good times. Is the vent still being used frequently?

 

[Capt Caveman]

If you use fritolays = skimmilk as an example, the answer is no.

You, on the other hand, can learn social skills. It's hard and scary at first but you become more comfortable and you'll lose your fears.

 

[lifeobry]

Originally posted by: puqdew
I absolutely need to practice my social skills.

Is there like an voice chatroom you can recommend?

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[zCypher]

The best thing to do is to surround yourself with people who are easy going. If you are anti-social, introverted, shy, whatever - and you try interacting with people that are difficult to interact with for shy people - you won't see progress. You need to experience people that are genuine, easy going and easy to connect with. There are such people. It is easy to talk to them even if you're shy. You just have to find them.

I've come a long way but some people I still have a hard time interacting with... but who you surround yourself with makes all the world of a difference.

 

[meltdown75]

i was incredibly shy when i started university... and now i'm not.

so i'd say yes, you can learn social skills.

a big part of coming out of your shell will come from not caring what others think. put yourself out there, be yourself and don't be afraid. it's kind of like going on a huge scary roller coaster... you are scared shitless to do it, but once you do, you realize it wasn't that bad at all.

 

[BrownTown]

Originally posted by: meltdown75
i was incredibly shy when i started university... and now i'm not.

so i'd say yes, you can learn social skills.

a big part of coming out of your shell will come from not caring what others think. put yourself out there, be yourself and don't be afraid. it's kind of like going on a huge scary roller coaster... you are scared shitless to do it, but once you do, you realize it wasn't that bad at all.

Yeah, college is a good place to start, jsut follow this simple formula:

1. go to party
2. drink until you aren't anxious anymore
3. profit (or vomit)

 

[yhelothar]

Originally posted by: rockyct

Originally posted by: astroidea
skype
find random people with the white pages and call em up.

Actually, yeah, calling random businesses in the phone book does help.

lol white pages in skype doofus
plus businesses are in the yellow pages.

 

[Modelworks]

Forums are actually a good place to start. It helps you to socialize by getting over your fears to let people know what you think. The next thing you need to do though is get in touch with a therapist that works with the problem. I know quite a bit about social phobias, not first hand, but I shared a room with someone who was agoraphobic . It is a crippling disorder. He couldn't go outside without having to hold onto me and when at school people would laugh at him because he felt threatened all the time by other people. He would come back to the room at the end of the day and sometimes cry for an hour about why was he even trying, that he wanted to have friends and go out like other people to parties and such. He would see people who wanted to be friends with him, but since he had grown up with the condition he never had any real social skills. The key was finding someone who knew how to work with the condition. I don't know what the therapist did, but during college he began to change a lot. He now has a masters in accounting and when I saw him last he was sitting in the food court of a mall with his new girlfriend, and he was just like anyone else. I couldn't believe it.

 

[BoomerD]

Start hanging out in a local biker bar.

The increased social interaction will be a great learning experience.

The kind and loving people who frequent such establishments are generally proud to help people like you adapt to polite society.

It will be a great experience...trust me.

 

[sutahz]

I don't believe in ADD and don't know (or care) what GAD is.

Stop being a victim.

 

[ahurtt]

Absolutely it is possible to learn social skills but like anything else, they require practice to develop and that you exercise them from time to time to keep them sharp.

 

[SonnyDaze]

Originally posted by: puqdew

Originally posted by: venkman
GAD?

www.google.com

Google Ads Disorder?

 

[QuantumPion]

The most important thing in life in sincerity. Once you can fake that, you've got it made.