Is It Possible For...males and females to be friends?

[melly]

The scenario:

The male and female are friends that become best friends, and do many things together, know each other's secrets, etc etc. As time goes by, how possible is it for either party to develop feelings for the other?

I know this is probably a repost, but I am conducting my own research here.

My answer:

Based on experience, this scenario is almost always headed toward the next level. :lips:

 

[Riverhound777]

If one of em is gay, sure

 

[SilverTorch]

Hmm, not sure that it starts out as a friendship ... there is always sexual attraction at some level by one party.

my 2 cents

 

[Nanotech]

Originally posted by: Riverhound777
If one of em is gay, sure

Well put!

 

[CrazyApe]

I assume you are talking about heterosexual males and females?

 

I have a few female friends, the problem lies in control, once you reach a certain age, it becomes much easier.

 

[FrustratedUser]

The guy will eventually get a hard-on and it has to be taken care of.

 

[SilverTorch]

Originally posted by: Roger
I have a few female friends, the problem lies in control, once you reach a certain age, it becomes much easier.

No, that was well put

 

[kage69]

Tough one. I've had girl friends who started off as friends and turned more into 'F*** buddies,' at the same time I have girl friends that I've been pals with for many years and have never had any sexual contact with. It really depends on the individuals I guess.

 

[WhiteKnight]

I think that it is possible to have platonic male/female relationships but it becomes increasingly less likely with the kinda of emotional closeness you are describing.

 

[jagec]

it's possible. of course, it's harder for a SINGLE guy and SINGLE girl, but it's still possible.

 

[PanzerIV]

I'm almost always initially attracted to females I have befriended over the years even if the relationship stayed platonic. Wasn't it Chris Rock who said female friends are just women you couldn't get into bed? (He used a more powerful word that I won't state in ATOT).

 

[lokiju]

Only way it will work is if you have no attraction in anyway what so ever.

 

[JulesMaximus]

I have several women that I consider friends. None of them I would consider my best friend though. My best friends are guys.

 

[MAME]

yes of course, who the hell would vote no

 

[CRXican]

Originally posted by: SilverTorch
Hmm, not sure that it starts out as a friendship ... there is always sexual attraction at some level by one party.

my 2 cents

That's probably pretty accurate. For example, I have a friend who has a brother with hot g/f. His g/f and I talk online and have seen a movie together. I'm pretty sure she thinks of me just as a friend therefore putting me in the dreaded "friend zone". It's good in a way because jacking g/fs from friends brothers is not cool but then again I would love to fvck the living sh1t outta her. Therefore I believe it's difficult to maintain a friends only relationship my reason being I don't wanna be in the friends zone so I have to ignore her now.

 

[fatalbert]

a number of my best friends are girls, and I don't really have a desire to have a relationship with them, we are just good friends

 

[RS3RS]

Like blazer said, the only way it will work is if you have no attraction what-so-ever.

I have a great friend that I've known for 4 years, her and I are so close we call each other "brother" and "sister". There has never, ever, been anything more than being great friends with each other between us, nor the desire for more. We're just friends, that's it.

So yes, it's completely possible.

However, my girlfriend and I started out as best friends, then later on got together... But that's a different story, as there was attraction from the begining, and was probably the reason we became friends (to get to know each other better).

 

[Atomicus]

Ladder Theory :thumbsup:

 

[CrazyHelloDeli]

No way. Invariably, the girl will turn it into a sexual relationship. You know, I read once that girls think about sex once every ten minutes!

 

[RaynorWolfcastle]

I think you should review the ladder theory. it is impossible.
Ask yourself this, assume that a guy and girl are (platonic) friends and are watching a movie. The girl excuses herself to go to the washroom and returns completely naked and asks the guy to have sex with her. Would the guy
A) Ask her to put her clothes back on because he's not interested in ruining their beautiful friendship
B) Do her?

I lifted this example from the ladder theory btw

 

[gistech1978]

no, the strictly plutonic 'best friend' is really a d!ck in a glass jar that the woman can break in case of emergency.

as in the case with my ex-gf and her 'best friend' whom she is now talking about marriage to.
mmhmm. after 3 months of dating. man shes a nutcase.

 

[CrazyHelloDeli]

Originally posted by: gistech1978
no, the strictly plutonic 'best friend' is really a d!ck in a glass jar that the woman can break in case of emergency.

as in the case with my ex-gf and her 'best friend' whom she is now talking about marriage to.
mmhmm. after 3 months of dating. man shes a nutcase.

Dezign? Wait, no, three months is way to long of a wait to get married.

 

[Atomicus]

Errr.... that just means the disparity of the 2 ladders are too far. Thats when the relationship becomes plutonic/non-sexual

 

[NuclearNed]

The following explains it all in no uncertain terms:

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Harry Burns: You realize of course that we could never be friends.
Sally Albright: Why not?
Harry Burns: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape or form - is that men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally Albright: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: No you don't.
Sally Albright: Yes I do.
Harry Burns: You only think you do.
Sally Albright: You say I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry Burns: No, what I'm saying is they all WANT to have sex with you.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: They do not.
Harry Burns: Do too.
Sally Albright: How do you know?
Harry Burns: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally Albright: So, you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive?
Harry Burns: No. You pretty much want to nail 'em too.
Sally Albright: What if THEY don't want to have sex with YOU?
Harry Burns: Doesn't matter because the sex thing is already out there so the friendship is ultimately doomed and that is the end of the story.
Sally Albright: Well, I guess we're not going to be friends then.
Harry Burns: I guess not.
Sally Albright: That's too bad. You were the only person I knew in New York.


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Harry Burns: Would you like to have dinner?... Just friends.
Sally Albright: I thought you didn't believe men and women could be friends.
Harry Burns: When did I say that?
Sally Albright: On the ride to New York.
Harry Burns: No, no, no, I never said that... Yes, that's right, they can't be friends. Unless both of them are involved with other people, then they can... This is an amendment to the earlier rule. If the two people are in relationships, the pressure of possible involvement is lifted... That doesn't work either, because what happens then is, the person you're involved with can't understand why you need to be friends with the person you're just friends with. Like it means something is missing from the relationship and why do you have to go outside to get it? And when you say "No, no, no it's not true, nothing is missing from the relationship," the person you're involved with then accuses you of being secretly attracted to the person you're just friends with, which you probably are. I mean, come on, who the hell are we kidding, let's face it. Which brings us back to the earlier rule before the amendment, which is men and women can't be friends.