Is it possible for a straight guy and a gay guy to be friends?

[shimsham]

Originally posted by: aidanjm

Originally posted by: shimsham
i really dont think he did. even so, he never offended me or crossed any "line", so i never felt uncomfortable.

i was accosted by a few slugs in the gay bars, once. we both bowed up, until the guys stood up. they were huge, so we ran like girls.

Interesting. But do you think most straight guys would be comfortable going for drinks (with a gay pal) at gay bars?

probably not. its too bad, its a cheap drunk.

 

[upsciLLion]

One of my closest friends is gay.

 

[dderidex]

Originally posted by: her209
Its not possible because the gay guy will always want to sleep with you, ie, he wants to be more than friends with you (I mean, why else would he stick around?).

That's the angle I was wondering about.

I mean, it's well known that a straight guy and girl cannot be "just friends" because, at some level, he always wants to bang her. Unless she's totally dog-ugly, and are more of a 'pity friend'. I suppose if you were open about that aspect of the relationship and just dealt with it...

...I dunno, still seems it'd be weird.

I mean, I've had a bunch of gay friends (mostly proxy via the wife's coworkers), but never REALLY close friends.

 

[cyclohexane]

Originally posted by: Zolty
gay guys normally know alot of hot chicks

so true...

 

[aidanjm]

Originally posted by: dderidex

Originally posted by: her209
Its not possible because the gay guy will always want to sleep with you, ie, he wants to be more than friends with you (I mean, why else would he stick around?).

That's the angle I was wondering about.

I mean, it's well known that a straight guy and girl cannot be "just friends" because, at some level, he always wants to bang her. Unless she's totally dog-ugly, and are more of a 'pity friend'. I suppose if you were open about that aspect of the relationship and just dealt with it...

...I dunno, still seems it'd be weird.

I mean, I've had a bunch of gay friends (mostly proxy via the wife's coworkers), but never REALLY close friends.

I find that after I've been friends with other (gay) guys for a while, whatever sexual attraction I might have had fades away and the friendship becomes entirely platonic, and then the thought of having sex with them seems odd (like having sex with a sibling or something). I'm pretty sure the same thing would happen if I was friends with a straight guy. But chances are, I wouldn't even be attracted to a straight friend (simply because I'm not attracted to most people). So I feel I could be friends with a straight guy. I sort of think that if there was going to be a "problem" it would come from the straight guy worrying about stuff like do I want to screw him, etc. The other thing I was wondering about - do straight guys actually have what you would call "close" friendships with other males? Or are their friendships with buddies always superficial (do they keep at an emotional distance from other males)?

 

[Platypus]

yep, quite a few

 

[dderidex]

Originally posted by: aidanjm
The other thing I was wondering about - do straight guys actually have what you would call "close" friendships with other males? Or are their friendships with buddies always superficial (do they keep at an emotional distance from other males)?

LOL - there is, of course, THAT.

Even "best buddies" tend to keep a fair emotional distance from each other. The closest to sharing feelings tends to be over copious amounts of alcohol from each party, so neither recalls it later.