Is it normal to not have any sympathy at all?

[mizzou]

At work I do alot of interviews with people who have suffered domestic abuse, and a co-worker was talking about how bad this ladies situation was, and I didn't feel bad.

It's not that I don't care, because I love my job, it's that I experience zero emotion.


Do I need therapy?

 

[Nik]

Normal for humans in general? No.
Normal for someone who works in the industry, sees it day in and day out? Yes, perfectly normal.

 

[xanis]

You're probably just desensitized. You've seen it and dealt with it so much that it doesn't phase you like it once did.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: mizzou
At work I do alot of interviews with people who have suffered domestic abuse, and a co-worker was talking about how bad this ladies situation was, and I didn't feel bad.

It's not that I don't care, because I love my job, it's that I experience zero emotion.


Do I need therapy?

zero emotion... part of that comes with you just being a man.

 

[Crucial]

How's it going Dexter.

 

[Alone]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
zero emotion... part of that comes with you just being a man.

Don't put us all under the same label. Just because men don't show their emotions as often and easily as women doesn't mean we don't have them.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Alone

Originally posted by: moshquerade
zero emotion... part of that comes with you just being a man.

Don't put us all under the same label. Just because men don't show their emotions as often and easily as women doesn't mean we don't have them.

well you just proved that didn't you?

 

[Alone]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
well you just proved that didn't you?

You misunderstand me. We don't show them; doesn't mean we don't have them. Some of us just have a little more...restraint.

But personally, I'm just a little dead inside. But that's by no means the social norm.

 

[Baked]

Originally posted by: Crucial
How's it going Dexter.

Dexter gained emotions by the 2nd of season 3.

 

[lyssword]

It's not normal. You have lost your ability to relate to humans.

A question for you, would you scam some people for money if you knew it was easy to pull it off and get away with it?

 

[Skeeedunt]

Boys rule and girls drool.

Also, there's nothing wrong with being a soulless automaton, as long as you use your discretion.

 

[moshquerade]

Originally posted by: Alone

Originally posted by: moshquerade
well you just proved that didn't you?

You misunderstand me. We don't show them; doesn't mean we don't have them. Some of us just have a little more...restraint.

But personally, I'm just a little dead inside. But that's by no means the social norm.

Hence why I said, "part of that comes from you just being a man"
I realize men, in general, aren't emotional zombies, but they do tend to show less emotion than women.

 

[TridenT]

lol, lost emotion? Bullshit. I can easily get some emotion out of you, let me stab you You'll get super angry. That is an emotion! You also will get sad when you marry someone and they die. (Probably) So, no, you are not dead inside... You just right now don't care. Oh, and it helps if you care.

 

[Ns1]

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[Jeff7]

Originally posted by: moshquerade
zero emotion... part of that comes with you just being a man.

No snorgles for you.

 

[DaveSimmons]

I have become
comfortably numb.

 

[Red Squirrel]

Probably normal considering you deal with that. Deep down you probably do care, but the emotions are shrugged off automaticly.

 

[ArJuN]

Nope, take it as a gift. Now you have to master faking it.

 

[Joemonkey]

perfectly normal for those with aspergers or autism...

 

[thomsbrain]

It's called being a republican.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

But basically in a job like that you have to build up some defenses or you'd drive yourself crazy. Speaking from experience, you need to maintain just enough empathy to want to help them without clouding your judgment or your ability to function.

 

[sundev]

You're probably a sociopath.

 

[finite automaton]

Originally posted by: ArJuN
Nope, take it as a gift. Now you have to master faking it.

This is a skill I've been trying to master for some time now.

 

[DisgruntledVirus]

Originally posted by: ArJuN
Nope, take it as a gift. Now you have to master faking it.

Faking sympathy is extremely hard when you really don't care...

Maybe working in a inbound new claim center for an insurance company killed off my emotion, but I am with OP on this one. When I hear about somebody whose home was destroyed, I just think "that sucks, hope they had insurance" and don't really think about it.

 

[Skyclad1uhm1]

Originally posted by: thomsbrain
It's called being a republican.

Bastard!


I wanted to say that!

 

[mizzou]

Originally posted by: sundev
You're probably a sociopath.

ahhh
I looked at the three forms of sociopathy and I don't have any of the symptoms, I mean I have SOME of them but not even close to getting a big minority.




I guess I'm just desensitized...

Either way I find it all very fascinating so I don't think I'm in the wrong occupation =)