I am 22 and the thought of getting with a girl who is 21 or below repulsise me. I have this stigma that youngers are basically immature and fickle. But, older girls are more mature and nurturing, they take care of you and have their priorites straight. Now, thats a blatant generalization, but still its for the most part true I think. Is this abnormal behavior? I heard that if you had a controling mother (which I did), then you grow up to want the same thing as in a controlling wife. HAHAHA, thats gross, but I guess it is true in my case. What do you think?
Is it normal for man to be attracted to solely older women?
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You either grow up to marry an exact copy of your mother, or the exact opposite, theres not much you can do about it.
Women tend to do the exact same thing, a guy just like their dad, or the exact opposite.
Women tend to do the exact same thing, a guy just like their dad, or the exact opposite.
Dunno.
I'm 20 and I often found women in the late 20s and early 30s very attractive.
But then, now I like a girl who is one or two years younger than me. So figures..
I'm 20 and I often found women in the late 20s and early 30s very attractive.
But then, now I like a girl who is one or two years younger than me. So figures..
kami
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I'm all for older too, but not very old. I'm talking 1-5 years older. My current g/f is about a year and a half older than me.
Half the girls my age (I'm almost 20) are still a little too immature for my tastes, and 90% of girls younger than me are too immature for me.
Half the girls my age (I'm almost 20) are still a little too immature for my tastes, and 90% of girls younger than me are too immature for me.
Hmm, Freud or Jung? I think this is Freudian in nature. You have subliminal desires for your mother so older women attract your attention.
I think
Or then again, you just like experienced women
I think
Or then again, you just like experienced women
I wouldn't say 'normal', but it does happen. Its called the Oedipus Complex.
EDIT: That's 'wouldn't' as in 'would not'
EDIT: That's 'wouldn't' as in 'would not'
I'm sort of the opposite. I'm 18 and not really attracted to girls my age. Most girls I get attracted to are 16-17. Hehe, my case is a bit worse than yours, you don't face jail time with the women you get attracted to.
<< I would say 'normal', but it does happen. Its called the Oedipus Complex. >>
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH! You beat me to it.
Sounds like you want to be taken care of Bobby Ribs, and older women represent a kind of security. You want a woman who'll take control, sit you down and spank you like a bad boy. Okay, that last part was just me being sarcastic, but you get the gist.
<< I am 22 and the thought of getting with a girl who is 21 or below repulsise me. I have this stigma that youngers are basically immature and fickle. But, older girls are more mature and nurturing, they take care of you and have their priorites straight. Now, thats a blatant generalization, but still its for the most part true I think. Is this abnormal behavior? I heard that if you had a controling mother (which I did), then you grow up to want the same thing as in a controlling wife. HAHAHA, thats gross, but I guess it is true in my case. What do you think? >>
You are, in a nutshell, who I date. I'm not even kidding.
My mom was strong (control freak!), so, I am a lot like her but with a better sense of humor. All of my boyfriends for the past ten years have been significantly younger than I (5+ years), and actually ask me to make their decisions for them (for the most part), and think it's incredibly sexy that I'm assertive and opinionated. It also helps that I am older, but don't actually look much older, I can pass for early-mid 20's.
I don't see anything wrong with it, if it makes both people comfortable.
~robyn
<< I would say 'normal', but it does happen. Its called the Oedipus Complex. >>
Uhhh, not quite.
~robyn
It was a typo I corrected it.
<<
<< I would say 'normal', but it does happen. Its called the Oedipus Complex. >>
Uhhh, not quite.
~robyn >>
I corrected it.<<
<< I would say 'normal', but it does happen. Its called the Oedipus Complex. >>
Uhhh, not quite.
~robyn >>
Nitemare
Lifer
- Feb 8, 2001
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depends on how much older...
geriatric blue haired lady..ya needs to get some help dude
5-10 years older is ok.
Younger women tend to be flakes, not know what they want, as stable as dynamite...but they can be prettier to look at..
So you have eye candy(not the AT member) that will give you a headache and cause you nothing but problems because their head isn't screwed on right..
or an older more mature lady who knows what she wants and isn't going to make your life hell by her trying to figure it out.
geriatric blue haired lady..ya needs to get some help dude
5-10 years older is ok.
Younger women tend to be flakes, not know what they want, as stable as dynamite...but they can be prettier to look at..
So you have eye candy(not the AT member) that will give you a headache and cause you nothing but problems because their head isn't screwed on right..
or an older more mature lady who knows what she wants and isn't going to make your life hell by her trying to figure it out.
I am 24 and personally I abhore the thought of talking to any woman under the range of 23 - 25.... there are, of course exceptions... but I find that I really am annoyed by the values and worldview of many people of that age, and particularly the attitude an bahavior of GIRLS of that age.
I'm 23, and that last 3 girls I've dated have been 18-20. It wasn't bad, its not like I wanted anythng long term.
<< or an older more mature lady who knows what she wants and isn't going to make your life hell by her trying to figure it out. >>
To me, that's a biggie.
<< Or then again, you just like experienced women >>
I've always liked older women. My wife is 7 years older than me.
You don't have to teach them a damn thing!
You don't have to teach them a damn thing!
<< I've always liked older women. My wife is 7 years older than me.
You don't have to teach them a damn thing! >>
My sis and I were discussing this. She said some guy about 3 years younger than she was really interested in her, but she told him he had to finish his education first. She actually said she doesn't mind guys younger than her. However, my sis thinks for her to hook up with a younger guy, he has to have hit his late 20s 'cuz guys in their low twenties are usually dumb and stupid.
I too have no problem with younger guys. But there's a limit to how much I'll push it. Anything past 7 years difference is a no-no! I think it's cool to go out with a guy who's averagely between 1-5 years younger (of course he must be legal age in my book; so I speak of legal age and older). See, here's a logical reason for a woman to hook up with a younger guy: Women have a longer life span than men. I would think many of us don't want to lose a good husband who's much older than we, thus most likely dies much earlier than we. I sure don't want to be a widow at an early age, and I hate the notion of getting married again (so I would more than likely stay single should that happen). However, hooking up with a much younger guy increases the likelihood of a woman spending much of her older age with him.
Also, from the few personal observations I've made, women married to younger men tend to have a lasting relationship with a committed, faithful and caring husband. Of course there are exceptions to it. In other words, I think a woman married to a younger man has a better chance of an everlasting relationship than with an older man. I think it's partly 'cuz when a younger man is attracted to you, he must have found another quality in you besides your looks, so when he hits mid-age, he won't be chasing other women and cheating on you. He also has a reason to respect you and treat you like an angel!
I do think the older women play a somewhat mother's role and are usually the boss in such relationships. But still, if it works for both, so be it. Who says we must have a patriarchal instead of a matriarchal society? The men in the cases I've seen still take care of the financial expenses (i.e., they work hard for bread for the family).
Sorry, but I don't buy into your theory connecting controlling mothers to men marrying older women and older women being controlling. I think that's false, for there's no correlation. In fact, it is much easier to see a girl your age group who's controlling. A controlling woman is controlling from start, even from her teen age. I think you should try differentiating a nurturing nature from a controlling nature. There are many women who luv nurturing but aren't controling and there are women who are controling and aren't the least nurturing. If your theory were true, then I may as well stick with older men 'cuz I hate controling people and I hate when people are control freaks, but sometimes I fear I do that unconsciously! :|
I too have no problem with younger guys. But there's a limit to how much I'll push it. Anything past 7 years difference is a no-no! I think it's cool to go out with a guy who's averagely between 1-5 years younger (of course he must be legal age in my book; so I speak of legal age and older). See, here's a logical reason for a woman to hook up with a younger guy: Women have a longer life span than men. I would think many of us don't want to lose a good husband who's much older than we, thus most likely dies much earlier than we. I sure don't want to be a widow at an early age, and I hate the notion of getting married again (so I would more than likely stay single should that happen). However, hooking up with a much younger guy increases the likelihood of a woman spending much of her older age with him.
Also, from the few personal observations I've made, women married to younger men tend to have a lasting relationship with a committed, faithful and caring husband. Of course there are exceptions to it. In other words, I think a woman married to a younger man has a better chance of an everlasting relationship than with an older man. I think it's partly 'cuz when a younger man is attracted to you, he must have found another quality in you besides your looks, so when he hits mid-age, he won't be chasing other women and cheating on you. He also has a reason to respect you and treat you like an angel!
I do think the older women play a somewhat mother's role and are usually the boss in such relationships. But still, if it works for both, so be it. Who says we must have a patriarchal instead of a matriarchal society? The men in the cases I've seen still take care of the financial expenses (i.e., they work hard for bread for the family).
Sorry, but I don't buy into your theory connecting controlling mothers to men marrying older women and older women being controlling. I think that's false, for there's no correlation. In fact, it is much easier to see a girl your age group who's controlling. A controlling woman is controlling from start, even from her teen age. I think you should try differentiating a nurturing nature from a controlling nature. There are many women who luv nurturing but aren't controling and there are women who are controling and aren't the least nurturing. If your theory were true, then I may as well stick with older men 'cuz I hate controling people and I hate when people are control freaks, but sometimes I fear I do that unconsciously! :|
I've got a friend who's 25, that always seems to date women in their mid-thirties. I'm not sure what he does, but the mid-thirties women flock to him like moths to a flame.
Ever since I started college (I was 14) I've pretty much liked 18-20 year old women. Kinda sucked there for a few years until my age caught up with my tastes. Now I'm 19, & my g/f is 21... I wouldn't want much older than that, I'd like to at least feel like she's my peer.
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