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Is it normal for a little girl to take baths with her father?

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Originally posted by: Mill
Originally posted by: jjones
You guys are too uptight. My daughter who is 3, going on 4, takes showers with me all the time (but most frequently with her mother). She already knows the difference between boys and girls as our family is very open about nudity in the privacy of our home. She asks me all the time about my penis and I explain to her all sorts of things; my wife and I have even answered her simple questions relating to sexuality. IMO, too many Americans are too inhibited about all of this stuff and my view is that the more open you are about it, within reason, the healthier it is.
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Ok, I like you a lot jjones, but WTF? I could see bathing with your child when you are younger, but when she starts asking about your dick that is just WEIRD.
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Well, aside from being fairly open about nudity in general (again, in the privacy of our home) there are some practical reasons behind our behavior.

One, we shower with our daughter for both safety reasons (not so much a concern now) and to wash her hair. My wife and I each do our share in child rearing and so sometimes my daughter will take a shower with me so I can wash her hair. Sure, there's other ways we could do it but it's just easiest this way.

Two, we live in Cancun and it gets very hot and humid here. We're pretty energy conscious so we don't run the a/c 24 hours a day. In fact, we run the a/c pretty infrequently. That being the case, the less clothes we have on, the better. Also, my wife and I both sleep in the nude and we never close any of the doors in the house, so our daughter sees us naked all the time; whether it's when we just wake up, or when we change clothes, or whatever. It's just the way we are and we're very comfortable with this aspect of our lives.

As for her asking things, well, I'm sure you know that kids want to know everything and the most popular question they have is "Why?" or "What's that?" My daughter knows the simple biological differences between men and women and she knows the very simple, rudimentary concepts of conception, pregnancy, and childbirth. This last came about because we have been trying to have another baby so the topic of babies has come up often, and also she's seen many of our friends who have recently been pregnant or given birth. She asks questions and we answer them.

Edit: BTW, the first time she pointed and asked, "Papa, what's that?" it was a little weird in a comic sort of way. There are still remnants of my more conservative upbringing floating around in the back of my mind.
 
Originally posted by: jjones
Originally posted by: Mill
Originally posted by: jjones
You guys are too uptight. My daughter who is 3, going on 4, takes showers with me all the time (but most frequently with her mother). She already knows the difference between boys and girls as our family is very open about nudity in the privacy of our home. She asks me all the time about my penis and I explain to her all sorts of things; my wife and I have even answered her simple questions relating to sexuality. IMO, too many Americans are too inhibited about all of this stuff and my view is that the more open you are about it, within reason, the healthier it is.
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Ok, I like you a lot jjones, but WTF? I could see bathing with your child when you are younger, but when she starts asking about your dick that is just WEIRD.
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Well, aside from being fairly open about nudity in general (again, in the privacy of our home) there are some practical reasons behind our behavior.

One, we shower with our daughter for both safety reasons (not so much a concern now) and to wash her hair. My wife and I each do our share in child rearing and so sometimes my daughter will take a shower with me so I can wash her hair. Sure, there's other ways we could do it but it's just easiest this way.

Two, we live in Cancun and it gets very hot and humid here. We're pretty energy conscious so we don't run the a/c 24 hours a day. In fact, we run the a/c pretty infrequently. That being the case, the less clothes we have on, the better. Also, my wife and I both sleep in the nude and we never close any of the doors in the house, so our daughter sees us naked all the time; whether it's when we just wake up, or when we change clothes, or whatever. It's just the way we are and we're very comfortable with this aspect of our lives.

As for her asking things, well, I'm sure you know that kids want to know everything and the most popular question they have is "Why?" or "What's that?" My daughter knows the simple biological differences between men and women and she knows the very simple, rudimentary concepts of conception, pregnancy, and childbirth. This last came about because we have been trying to have another baby so the topic of babies has come up often, and also she's seen many of our friends who have recently been pregnant or given birth. She asks questions and we answer them.

Edit: BTW, the first time she pointed and asked, "Papa, what's that?" it was a little weird in a comic sort of way. There are still remnants of my more conservative upbringing floating around in the back of my mind.
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Please tell me that you atleast close the doors when you are "trying" to have another baby

Other than that, doesn't sound too bad.
 
Taking baths at all is gross. Bathing in water with the very filth you are trying to get off of yourself doesn't quite seem like the best way to get clean.
 
Originally posted by: jjones
Originally posted by: Mill
Originally posted by: jjones
You guys are too uptight. My daughter who is 3, going on 4, takes showers with me all the time (but most frequently with her mother). She already knows the difference between boys and girls as our family is very open about nudity in the privacy of our home. She asks me all the time about my penis and I explain to her all sorts of things; my wife and I have even answered her simple questions relating to sexuality. IMO, too many Americans are too inhibited about all of this stuff and my view is that the more open you are about it, within reason, the healthier it is.
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Ok, I like you a lot jjones, but WTF? I could see bathing with your child when you are younger, but when she starts asking about your dick that is just WEIRD.
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Well, aside from being fairly open about nudity in general (again, in the privacy of our home) there are some practical reasons behind our behavior.

One, we shower with our daughter for both safety reasons (not so much a concern now) and to wash her hair. My wife and I each do our share in child rearing and so sometimes my daughter will take a shower with me so I can wash her hair. Sure, there's other ways we could do it but it's just easiest this way.

Two, we live in Cancun and it gets very hot and humid here. We're pretty energy conscious so we don't run the a/c 24 hours a day. In fact, we run the a/c pretty infrequently. That being the case, the less clothes we have on, the better. Also, my wife and I both sleep in the nude and we never close any of the doors in the house, so our daughter sees us naked all the time; whether it's when we just wake up, or when we change clothes, or whatever. It's just the way we are and we're very comfortable with this aspect of our lives.

As for her asking things, well, I'm sure you know that kids want to know everything and the most popular question they have is "Why?" or "What's that?" My daughter knows the simple biological differences between men and women and she knows the very simple, rudimentary concepts of conception, pregnancy, and childbirth. This last came about because we have been trying to have another baby so the topic of babies has come up often, and also she's seen many of our friends who have recently been pregnant or given birth. She asks questions and we answer them.

Edit: BTW, the first time she pointed and asked, "Papa, what's that?" it was a little weird in a comic sort of way. There are still remnants of my more conservative upbringing floating around in the back of my mind.
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Your daughter is gonna teach a lot of 5-year-olds about sex when she gets to school..
 
I think its all culturally relative. If some societies, 5 or 6 wouldnt be strange in the least... but here in the US, anything past 3-4 is probably a little weird.

But I think most of you are a little too uptight about it.
 
Originally posted by: jjones
Originally posted by: Mill
Originally posted by: jjones
You guys are too uptight. My daughter who is 3, going on 4, takes showers with me all the time (but most frequently with her mother). She already knows the difference between boys and girls as our family is very open about nudity in the privacy of our home. She asks me all the time about my penis and I explain to her all sorts of things; my wife and I have even answered her simple questions relating to sexuality. IMO, too many Americans are too inhibited about all of this stuff and my view is that the more open you are about it, within reason, the healthier it is.
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Ok, I like you a lot jjones, but WTF? I could see bathing with your child when you are younger, but when she starts asking about your dick that is just WEIRD.
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Well, aside from being fairly open about nudity in general (again, in the privacy of our home) there are some practical reasons behind our behavior.

One, we shower with our daughter for both safety reasons (not so much a concern now) and to wash her hair. My wife and I each do our share in child rearing and so sometimes my daughter will take a shower with me so I can wash her hair. Sure, there's other ways we could do it but it's just easiest this way.

Two, we live in Cancun and it gets very hot and humid here. We're pretty energy conscious so we don't run the a/c 24 hours a day. In fact, we run the a/c pretty infrequently. That being the case, the less clothes we have on, the better. Also, my wife and I both sleep in the nude and we never close any of the doors in the house, so our daughter sees us naked all the time; whether it's when we just wake up, or when we change clothes, or whatever. It's just the way we are and we're very comfortable with this aspect of our lives.

As for her asking things, well, I'm sure you know that kids want to know everything and the most popular question they have is "Why?" or "What's that?" My daughter knows the simple biological differences between men and women and she knows the very simple, rudimentary concepts of conception, pregnancy, and childbirth. This last came about because we have been trying to have another baby so the topic of babies has come up often, and also she's seen many of our friends who have recently been pregnant or given birth. She asks questions and we answer them.

Edit: BTW, the first time she pointed and asked, "Papa, what's that?" it was a little weird in a comic sort of way. There are still remnants of my more conservative upbringing floating around in the back of my mind.
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Yeah, that sounds pretty much like it is around my house. Well, I don't live in Cancun, but the gist of it applies.
 
if your a dad, just tuck it away, no worries. i'd imagine it's more appropriate for little girls to take baths with mom, and little boys to bath with dad, up until 2 or 3yrs of age.
 
Ok, maybe I'm uptight, but I couldn't bathe with my child. I think I vaguely remember my parents doing it when I was like 2-3, and it creeps me out. I'll just stick em in the tub and do it from the outside, when the time comes.
 
I don't see anything wrong with that.

It's just your sick, sick twisted little mind putting intent into things where they obviously don't belong . . .. Sickos. :disgust:
 
Depends how young, like 2-4 yeah its ok, in my family (brother in law) he wore a bathing suit into the tub. Also I think there is a difference between taking a bath together and a father giving his daughter a bath, even if she is like 5-6 I think thats ok. Basically nothing is really wrong with it so long as it isn't sexual or anything like that, but when they start getting old enough to realize there is a difference then its a little past time to stop.
 
Originally posted by: richardycc
only if you are japanese. they even have a scene like that in the cartoon My Neighbor Totoro movie.
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thats the first thing i thought of when i read the thread title, then again i just saw that movie thursday
 
I don't think it's a big deal until the child is able to discern the dimorphism that exists between men and women. A father tending his daughter in her bath is fine as well. Meh.
 
yea, you should probally put more stipulations on your question. I guess it is? i don't think you need to bathe to make sure they do not drown, but shrugs.

If it's an older girl, then yes, it is bad.
 
Originally posted by: jjones
Originally posted by: Mill
Originally posted by: jjones
You guys are too uptight. My daughter who is 3, going on 4, takes showers with me all the time (but most frequently with her mother). She already knows the difference between boys and girls as our family is very open about nudity in the privacy of our home. She asks me all the time about my penis and I explain to her all sorts of things; my wife and I have even answered her simple questions relating to sexuality. IMO, too many Americans are too inhibited about all of this stuff and my view is that the more open you are about it, within reason, the healthier it is.
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Ok, I like you a lot jjones, but WTF? I could see bathing with your child when you are younger, but when she starts asking about your dick that is just WEIRD.
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Well, aside from being fairly open about nudity in general (again, in the privacy of our home) there are some practical reasons behind our behavior.

One, we shower with our daughter for both safety reasons (not so much a concern now) and to wash her hair. My wife and I each do our share in child rearing and so sometimes my daughter will take a shower with me so I can wash her hair. Sure, there's other ways we could do it but it's just easiest this way.

Two, we live in Cancun and it gets very hot and humid here. We're pretty energy conscious so we don't run the a/c 24 hours a day. In fact, we run the a/c pretty infrequently. That being the case, the less clothes we have on, the better. Also, my wife and I both sleep in the nude and we never close any of the doors in the house, so our daughter sees us naked all the time; whether it's when we just wake up, or when we change clothes, or whatever. It's just the way we are and we're very comfortable with this aspect of our lives.

As for her asking things, well, I'm sure you know that kids want to know everything and the most popular question they have is "Why?" or "What's that?" My daughter knows the simple biological differences between men and women and she knows the very simple, rudimentary concepts of conception, pregnancy, and childbirth. This last came about because we have been trying to have another baby so the topic of babies has come up often, and also she's seen many of our friends who have recently been pregnant or given birth. She asks questions and we answer them.

Edit: BTW, the first time she pointed and asked, "Papa, what's that?" it was a little weird in a comic sort of way. There are still remnants of my more conservative upbringing floating around in the back of my mind.
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Good for you JJones. We also are very open about nudity with our kids. my parents and my wifes parents were about as uptight as you can get when it came to nudity. before we got married we both agreed that we would be open about nudity with our kids.
 
Once again, the Europeans are laughing at most of the responses here. And to compare them with the responses to my thread about the movie, Kinsey? Did you know he conducted tests on children to see how they responded to various sexual stimuli? Yet many herald him as a hero, ushering in the sexual revolution! So, it was okay for him to do far worse in the name of research but a parent bathing with their child is not okay?

How sexually confused we Americans are! How sad it is that such innocent acts of parents caring for their children have to be viewed with suspicion! How sad that such suspicion has driven a wedge between parent and child! How sad that many parents are now content to allow the government schools to raise their children!

And on and on and on...

To respond to the OP: I think it's perfectly normal for either parent to bathe with their child until 3 or 4. Such as I was raised.
 
Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
Once again, the Europeans are laughing at most of the responses here. And to compare them with the responses to my thread about the movie, Kinsey? Did you know he conducted tests on children to see how they responded to various sexual stimuli? Yet many herald him as a hero, ushering in the sexual revolution! So, it was okay for him to do far worse in the name of research but a parent bathing with their child is not okay?

How sexually confused we Americans are! How sad it is that such innocent acts of parents caring for their children have to be viewed with suspicion! How sad that such suspicion has driven a wedge between parent and child! How sad that many parents are now content to allow the government schools to raise their children!

And on and on and on...

To respond to the OP: I think it's perfectly normal for either parent to bathe with their child until 3 or 4. Such as I was raised.
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Like previous posters said, it is purely American Puritanical attitudes toward the body and sex in general, as well as sexist, overly paternalistic and patriarchal attitudes toward women and their sexuality at work here. Anybody raised outside of the US will find nothing wrong with it...note that we don't typically have the same sort of reaction when MOTHERS bathe with their sons.
 
Originally posted by: Tiles2Tech
I see years of therapy for that girl to correct the issues of bathing with the father. :Q
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there is no reason for therapy if they live in a healthy family and take a bath with either one of the parents when they're still very young.
(I am happy being brought up in Europe and *usually* this is NOT an issue there)

There is however a reason for therapy for THOSE people who *automatically* think about perversions and sexual stuff - like you (and/or 85% of the rest of the us americans).

Taking a bath is (by definition) NOTHING sexual - otherwise i recommend that you better NEVER have kids because it could be dangerous (for the kid) since you obviously have difficulties to see a line there if you recommend "therapy" for the girl because it was bathing with daddy.

Addendum: There ARE disfunct families and child abuse in families - i KNOW that - but this is NOT the norm.

 
Originally posted by: Jehovah
I don't see anything wrong with that.

It's just your sick, sick twisted little mind putting intent into things where they obviously don't belong . . .. Sickos. :disgust:
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brought it to the point in a few words. Kudos 🙂
 
Originally posted by: MadCowDisease
Originally posted by: GTaudiophile
Once again, the Europeans are laughing at most of the responses here. And to compare them with the responses to my thread about the movie, Kinsey? Did you know he conducted tests on children to see how they responded to various sexual stimuli? Yet many herald him as a hero, ushering in the sexual revolution! So, it was okay for him to do far worse in the name of research but a parent bathing with their child is not okay?

How sexually confused we Americans are! How sad it is that such innocent acts of parents caring for their children have to be viewed with suspicion! How sad that such suspicion has driven a wedge between parent and child! How sad that many parents are now content to allow the government schools to raise their children!

And on and on and on...

To respond to the OP: I think it's perfectly normal for either parent to bathe with their child until 3 or 4. Such as I was raised.
Click to expand...

Like previous posters said, it is purely American Puritanical attitudes toward the body and sex in general, as well as sexist, overly paternalistic and patriarchal attitudes toward women and their sexuality at work here. Anybody raised outside of the US will find nothing wrong with it...note that we don't typically have the same sort of reaction when MOTHERS bathe with their sons.
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Both excellent post.

:beer:
 
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