is it douchebag to invite poorer friends to an expensive restaurant?

[Colt45]

Yeah, everyone had a a fucking good time except for the server that waited on your ass and the other 13 people.
Next time you should take your friends out to McDonald's.
You wouldn't have to spend as much and some unlucky server wouldn't have to wait on your cheap-ass.

what the fuck

 

[thegimp03]

I want to go to Cut steakhouse ($350-400 for 2) for my birthday and inviting my friends. I'm fairly sure one couple doesn't want to spend that much for dinner.

So do I invite them or just not tell them about it?

I would invite them, but tell them upfront that everyone's picking up their own meal. Makes it their choice.

 

[RocksteadyDotNet]

You're a douchbag for paying $200 for a steak.

 

[mizzou]

I've seen this happen before as a bystander. What's peculiar is that usually the poor person freaks out and then somehow says, "I'll get the check."

Awkwardness ensues.

 

[keird]

Is it this restaurant? Give me a web site.

 

[hzl eyed grl]

Yeah, douche-y move. I'm assuming your friends are adults and would appreciate to be treated as such.

 

[wiredspider]

What's the norm on a birthday dinner at a regular priced place with a bunch of people? Separate checks? Everyone throws in for the check?

 

[GoodRevrnd]

Maybe you should go to someplace more interesting than a steak house where the bill would be 1/3 of what you pay at Cut. Animal? Comme Ca? You're in LA, it wouldn't be hard to find something good.

This place is a "chic" Beverly Hills steakhouse, so it's obviously intended for people with more money than sense. Then again, maybe you'd fit right in. Nice humble brag.

 

[Puppies04]

Go somewhere cheaper if you want friends to come, I highly doubt your company is worth getting shafted for overpriced food. If you want to go blow that sort of money on a meal go another time with just your SO.

 

[BlackTigers]

I'd rather eat with a bunch of friends at an Outback, or Longhorn, than eat with no one at an expensive ass restaurant.

At one you save money an you're with friends, at the other...well you're out a lot of money and company.

 

[rudeguy]

You're a douchbag for paying $200 for a steak.

I hate this. I really hate that I have to do this. I really, hate myself right now......




I agree with you.



GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

 

[Codewiz]

I know it is your birthday, but why do you want to force your friends into a situation of spending an assload of money or not getting to see you on your birthday?

Why not go a reasonably priced place to enjoy the time and good company?

If your friends have less money than you, and you want them there, then pick something different. If you don't care if they come, then do whatever you want.

I personally would feel guilty doing this. It would be one thing if a group of people were all interested in trying the place out but it is another thing to add the feeling of some "obligation" to go since it is your birthday.

 

[manimal]

You guys need to get the sand out of your vaginas. There are expensive restaurants out there. OMG the horror!


Nobody calls you nancies out when you buy top shelf vagisil....

 

[xSauronx]

I want to go to Cut steakhouse ($350-400 for 2) for my birthday and inviting my friends. I'm fairly sure one couple doesn't want to spend that much for dinner.

So do I invite them or just not tell them about it?

i think its rude if you know they wont/cant spend it.

i also think you can serve beef tenderloin and decent wine to 8 people or more for that much (been there, done that)

please tell me they have some sort of amazing dish other than steak for that kind of money. like something hard to find or make

 

[kranky]

If you are wanting to have a birthday celebration with your friends and you aren't picking up the tab, you don't choose a super expensive place to eat. That puts your friends in a very awkward position. It's a no-win situation for them - either spend money they can't afford, or snub you on your birthday in a way that's obvious to all your mutual friends.

I never liked the idea of arranging an event that friends would feel obligated to attend where it costs them a lot of money. I have a friend that does that with golf outings. He'll want to attend a charity fundraiser golf event that costs $200 per person and invite other friends that just can't afford that kind of money, and it makes them all feel uncomfortable. Nobody wants to feel cheap or look like they are tight on money in front of their friends, but that's how it ends up.

Just pay for everyone or else pick a different place.

 

[manimal]

Its his fracking birthday. If they really wanted to attend they can order the gd 52 dollar filet mignon and a side salad for 70 bucks out the door. I have stayed at the Palazzo in vegas and it was fantastic place to eat.

ZOMG even though a porterhouse for two there goes for 150 bucks you can buy an entree for under 60 bucks.


When I was about 22 I got invited out with some people I wanted to network with badly business wise. I stayed sober, ate a salad and drank TONS of iced tea within my budget.

Funny thing is I didnt sit there the whole time eying everyone's food while blogging on ATOT how a guy should go to MCL cafeteria for his birthday because meat is just cheaper there!

 

[MrColin]

Invite your poor friends to do something else, give them an option to meet you at a bar or something after. If you aren't trolling that is.

 

[SandEagle]

ii would order a steak, eat it, pretend i was going to the bathroom, but would tell the waiter to put it on your bill and then leave. i got a good steak out of it and it only cost me nothing to get you out of my life

 

[sourceninja]

Go where you want to go, tell who you want to tell. Anyone who gets offended because you gave them the option to go with you isn't worth having as a friend.

I have a friend who works minimum wage. For my birthday I wanted sushi and there is a good place for that by my house but its kinda pricy (cheapest roll is $8 and most expensive is $30). We were then meeting at my house to play cards. I told him where we were going, he said he couldn't afford to eat there. So I just said "Cool, why don't you meet us for cards after dinner?"

Problem sovled like men and not bitches.

 

[SandEagle]

Go where you want to go, tell who you want to tell. Anyone who gets offended because you gave them the option to go with you isn't worth having as a friend.

I have a friend who works minimum wage. For my birthday I wanted sushi and there is a good place for that by my house but its kinda pricy (cheapest roll is $8 and most expensive is $30). We were then meeting at my house to play cards. I told him where we were going, he said he couldn't afford to eat there. So I just said "Cool, why don't you meet us for cards after dinner?"

Problem sovled like men and not bitches.

yes, but you destroyed his ego, confidence, and self esteem in that moment. are u guys still friends?

 

[sourceninja]

yes, but you destroyed his ego, confidence, and self esteem in that moment. are u guys still friends?

Still friends, because we are men and not bitches.

If admitting you are responsible enough to know your own limits and stay within them hurts your ego, confidence, or self esteem, you need some help.

I respect him more for not going (which is the RIGHT decision) than than if he went and couldn't afford it. He should be proud of the fact. I'm sure he could have put it on a credit card and turned $30 into a $100 of debt.

These kind of things happen all the time and are normal. In the last 3 years I've had to turn down a bachelor party in vegas, a wedding a few states away, and a dinner with a friend I haven't seen in a few years (He was back in town and taking all his college buddies to a $75 a plate steakhouse). I personally would rather being invited than not invited.

 

[pelov]

I think it's douchey to go to restaurants that charge $400 for two people. I've been to a couple of the fancy joints around the city and they're no better than the restaurants that charge $20 a plate.

What kind of watch do you wear, OP?

 

[Fausto]

yes, but you destroyed his ego, confidence, and self esteem in that moment. are u guys still friends?

Hot troll-on-troll action in this thread.

 

[Vdubchaos]

I think you are a douchebag for even considering going yourself.

Who in this world pays 200 for a dinner? REALLY?

 

[sdifox]

Are you picking up the tab? If you are, then there is no issue.


PS It's not one of those "Birthday Boy Eat Free!" kind of place is it?