Is it considered weakness to use light alcohol to meet people?

[vi edit]

Social Anxiety is a bit of an extreme. Some people just aren't chatty. I'm not naturally. Especially if I know nothing about people. I just don't do chit chat or small talk. I'm an introvert and that's just part of the personality. It's not that *I* can't do it. I just don't really enjoy it and it's not something that I would naturally gravitate to.

Many introverts are the same way and booze is in fact a social prep for a lot of us. It lowers inhibitions a bit and lets the mouth run faster than the brain. One or two drinks socially is perfectly fine, if not even beneficial. Alcohol in moderation is fine and socializing is definitely good for body and mind.

Going out at night is definitely rough on a lot of introverted personalities, especially if you've had a busy day. You used up your social battery dealing with people all day and you are running on empty. Going out just zaps you even further. A couple drinks sort of puts you into extended battery mode.

 

[freddy.j]

Probably everybody has the same. But I think that you should try to deal with it, because after some time you can have a bigger problem.

 

[Charmonium]

Social Anxiety is a bit of an extreme. Some people just aren't chatty. I'm not naturally. Especially if I know nothing about people. I just don't do chit chat or small talk. I'm an introvert and that's just part of the personality. It's not that *I* can't do it. I just don't really enjoy it and it's not something that I would naturally gravitate to.

Many introverts are the same way and booze is in fact a social prep for a lot of us. It lowers inhibitions a bit and lets the mouth run faster than the brain. One or two drinks socially is perfectly fine, if not even beneficial. Alcohol in moderation is fine and socializing is definitely good for body and mind.

Going out at night is definitely rough on a lot of introverted personalities, especially if you've had a busy day. You used up your social battery dealing with people all day and you are running on empty. Going out just zaps you even further. A couple drinks sort of puts you into extended battery mode.

That's exactly how I feel. I'm much more comfortable being alone. I can be chatty and sociable but it's a real effort and I have to be in the right mood to even make the attempt.

 

[clamum]

If you need a drink or two to approach people then I would watch the fuck out. Honestly, if that is true, I'd stay away from the shit. If you keep that up, one day you may find yourself an alcoholic. That wasn't my experience exactly, but it's similar.

Anyway, hope you find some help here. I'm kind of the same way. Well, I've been shy and introverted my whole life. I've just accepted it, I guess.

 

[slightlyhuman]

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[SMOGZINN]

No, it is only considered a weakness if you use Chloroform.

 

[SSSnail]

It's a weakness if you use chloroform chloroform meet people.

Edit: damn you smoggzin

 

[BoomerD]

For maximum effect, be sure to add some Rohypnol to the drinks of others. That way, even reluctant women will find you attractive.

 

[thesmokingman]

lmao

 

[Maverick2002]

To each their own. When going to a large social gathering (party/bar), I've always taken a couple shots beforehand. Just enough to loosen up a bit. Newsflash: so has everyone else there.

Weakness or not, do it if it helps you, don't if it doesn't.

 

[SeductivePig]

If you need a drink or two to approach people then I would watch the fuck out. Honestly, if that is true, I'd stay away from the shit. If you keep that up, one day you may find yourself an alcoholic. That wasn't my experience exactly, but it's similar.

Anyway, hope you find some help here. I'm kind of the same way. Well, I've been shy and introverted my whole life. I've just accepted it, I guess.

On a normal day whenever I'm in a hallway and waiting for an elevator or something, I always think of ways I could start a conversation. Many times I'm not nervous at all, I just see it as futile. Maybe it's a matter of making it a habit? Idk. Most close friends I've ever had, I approached randomly.

 

[blankslate]

No, it is only considered a weakness if you use Chloroform.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z55x6ygCUK0&t=1m36s

I know that we never really met before...
but tell me does this rag smell like chloroform.

 

[TechBoyJK]

sounds like you just lack confidence and having a drink changes you mentally. I suspect if someone gave you a glass of "vodka" that actually had no alcohol content (not sure if even possible) you'd act the same as you do when you drink.

I would say it's 'losing confidence' not a lack of. He's being isolated and not putting his social skills to use on a daily basis, so when it comes time to use them, he's hesitant.

 

[SeductivePig]

I would say it's 'losing confidence' not a lack of. He's being isolated and not putting his social skills to use on a daily basis, so when it comes time to use them, he's hesitant.

This is the best explanation in this entire thread of what has happened.

If my job was one that involved team work, lots of social interaction, meetings, etc, I wouldn't even be making this thread. Reality is that I've been working with the same 2-3 people the past 3 years.. pretty much never get to meet new people through work.