Is it a wise move to hold off on getting a girlfriend until you have established a good main group of friends?
waddya guys think?
waddya guys think?
Is it a wise move to hold off on getting a girlfriend?
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not sure i understand the question....
if you haven't established a good main group of friends by the time you are ready to start dating, you might as well grab the chick.
if you haven't established a good main group of friends by the time you are ready to start dating, you might as well grab the chick.
Generally yes, develop relationships with close friends first and have fun with them, because once you start going out with someone, that's the end of life as we speak 
If you can find a girl that can stand to be around you for more than 15 minutes at a time, you should grab her and hold onto her like grim death.
i mean like,
i hear from people that its a dumb idea to just go for a girlfriend right away in college, that you should avoid doing so the first year, and just try to make as many friends as you can.
is that good advice?
i hear from people that its a dumb idea to just go for a girlfriend right away in college, that you should avoid doing so the first year, and just try to make as many friends as you can.
is that good advice?
no, that's stupid. just find a girl that isn't a possessive psycho and you can get laid and make friends at the same time.
should you though?
what if it was the first year of college, and you spent alla your time into her, thus didnt make any other friends, and later you 2 break up?
then arent you left out in the cold? when everyone around you has already made their friends?
Yes, but not for the reason you think.
If you are "going for a girlfriend" you are never going to get a girlfriend. Women can smell desperation the way dogs can smell fear. If you are just having a good time and meeting people, you will bumble across women you can date. Try to make as many friends as you can. Hopefully some of them will be dateable females.
why is it that if you are going for a girlfriend you never can get one?
I don't see whats so wrong about going out and looking for a girlfriend. I mean you have to do that eventually, right?
DrPizza
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Get a girlfriend and do things with other couples... not just twosome types of things.
<get that idea out of your minds, you ATOT pervs>
You can meet and develop a lot of other friendships that way.
i.e. Have small gatherings/parties... 5 or 6 couples at a time... have a few beers, get some pizzas, play a few games of something (mild drinking games, etc.)
<get that idea out of your minds, you ATOT pervs>
You can meet and develop a lot of other friendships that way.
i.e. Have small gatherings/parties... 5 or 6 couples at a time... have a few beers, get some pizzas, play a few games of something (mild drinking games, etc.)
MrColin
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Yes, the two of you can make friends more efficiently than each of you would alone anyway, just be carefull not to coccoon yourselves in too much, do social things together. Why on earth would anyone want to deny themself the pleasure of a girlfriend? You'll be able to make more female friends if you have a g/f as well, which will come in handy when she dumps you.
That might be a good idea, because a woman might try to alienate you from your friends. I've had women try to do that to me many times before... ::shakes head::
I can't imagine someone that would try to plan out simple social stuff like this ever having either a girlfriend or any group of friends.
This isn't even something you have to think about. You're going to make friends quickly in college. Nobody knows anyone, so people will start talking and bonding immediately. You'll discover college life, classes, parties, and activities with some of the same people. If you're in a dorm, it's inevitable that you're going to be friends with some of those guys. Finding a girlfriend will take longer than that. Especially if you're smart and don't just try to make the first girl that says "hi" to you your wife. Even if you and the girl of your dreams connect relatively early in the year, it will take time before you enter that "i have no friends but you phase", and if you're smart, it'll never happen.
And it's true that "finding a girlfriend" isn't the best mentality to have. You should go out and meet a bunch of girls. IF one of the girls you meet is worthy and willing to be your girlfriend, only then do you go for it. By making a girlfriend the goal, you really set yourself up for failure. You'll try too hard and turn girls off, and you dramatically increase your chances of getting into a relationship that you'll look back on as "wasted time". There will be some great girls and a lot of average and below average ones (quality-wise, not looks-wise). Be patient, date around, and understand what makes a great one, before you end up missing out on the opportunity to get a great one because you committed yourself to the average one.
Cliffs notes: Finding a girlfriend takes longer than finding friends naturally, so stop thinking about it.
And it's true that "finding a girlfriend" isn't the best mentality to have. You should go out and meet a bunch of girls. IF one of the girls you meet is worthy and willing to be your girlfriend, only then do you go for it. By making a girlfriend the goal, you really set yourself up for failure. You'll try too hard and turn girls off, and you dramatically increase your chances of getting into a relationship that you'll look back on as "wasted time". There will be some great girls and a lot of average and below average ones (quality-wise, not looks-wise). Be patient, date around, and understand what makes a great one, before you end up missing out on the opportunity to get a great one because you committed yourself to the average one.
Cliffs notes: Finding a girlfriend takes longer than finding friends naturally, so stop thinking about it.
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