Is bullying real? The way they show in TV shows?

[TallBill]

I've seen bullying, money stealing. There was a huge guy who would walk around the lunch room asking for change. It was quite clear that he didn't need another 15 cents to buy lunch and just wanted money. He then asked everyone on my bus on the way home, ended up with like $10-15 a day. This was in 7th grade.

 

[meltdown75]

Originally posted by: pontifex
i don't think i ever saw the stealing of lunch money, but people would tease, call names, etc.

one kid they picked on snapped a few times. he screamed and then threw some chaairs and desks aroud.

knashed his teeth and bit the recess lady's breast?

 

[Nitemare]

Originally posted by: meltdown75

Originally posted by: Nitemare

Originally posted by: meltdown75
give me your lunch money now or i'll hang you on the back of the bathroom stall from your undies.

that's as real as you need, son.

take a number, I was here first...

:|

our posts were submitted at the same time, and although yours appears first, i have found the ordering of posts submitted within the same minute to be random. we'll have to flip a coin

bullies don't flip coins, they flip smaller children...

 

[nakedfrog]

I got bullied here and there until my growth spurt. They never wanted money or anything, they were just douchebags who liked to feel big.

 

[freeway]

one kid I knew would pay his lunch money each day for "protection" If he paid, no one would bother him or else his protector would defend him, but if he didn't pay it was understood that his "protector" would kick his ass. The kid was a little slow.

I got teased in school, but I also did my share of teasing. I never had trouble with bullying.

 

[IceBergSLiM]

Originally posted by: Canai
I was a 'pencil neck nerd' and an orchestra nerd on top of that. The 'bullies' were all scared of me. Might have had something to do with the six feet of chains going from my belt to my wallet. hahah I was a goth kid.

they didnt want you going columbine on them. freak.

 

[lokiju]

There was always the one kid that was a dick or something like that in school.

Sometimes I was the bully in a way and sometimes others were to me.

For example, there was this kid in my class that was a hopeless nerd, coke bottle glasses, zits-galore, squeaky voice, etc...

I just couldn't stand him for no other reason that he annoyed me just by existing, it was a blind dislike really.

I used to give him a hard time or pick on him here and there but nothing serious, never stole money from him or anything, more just made fun of him, etc..

One day he decided to stand up to the bully (me) and made some smartass remark to me under his breath, which I heard and said "WTF did you say!??!!" and he panicked and went to run away but I did a quick step towards him and jabbed him in the back of his head as he turned to run, his face popped upward and a earsplitting squeaky sqeal of "aahahhh" (think the sound of geese as they fly) came out of him.

Mind you we were in a sea of fellow students between classes when all this happened and the laughter erupted.

But what I came to realize at that moment was that I had hurt him more by the embarrassment of everyone laughing at his pathetic squeaky squeal than anything else.

After that day I guess you could say I had an epiphany and from them on I was actually kind to him, in time we were almost friends and I matured and learned a lot in the end.

But I've been on the other side of the coin in a more mild sense, but that's a story for another day...

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[PingSpike]

A little kid on my bus used to eat candy that had been rubbed on the dirty bus floor for attention. Not really a bully story, but its pretty gross.

 

[jagec]

Mostly it's just tripping, shoving, cutting in line, messing with your stuff (like crumpling up your homework so you have to rewrite it), and teasing.

 

[Aikouka]

This one large kid used to pick on me in high school but oddly enough, he was a friend in elementary school. I figure the only reason he did is because I never did anything back (no desire to hurt anyone else regardless of how mean they were) and people were mean to him. My "friends" actually used to be mean to me when I was in junior high (they liked pro-wrestling so I was the (living) dummy ). Although, I didn't care because I had friends (referencing the depression thread).

Doesn't really matter anymore as once I became a lot more popular in my later years of high school so people simply left me alone because of that.

 

[Modelworks]

I had a problem with a bully in high school.
I moved into the school system when during 8th grade and all the 'cool' kids took me in as one of the 'cool' kids too.
But I didn't care for sports and gravitated towards the more 'nerdy' type kids.

When I got to high school, one of those kids took it like I had betrayed the 'cool' kids.
He would harass me constantly.
One day I was in class and before it started he walked over with a few of his buddies and started teasing, kicking the desk, etc.
Class started and he took his seat.

Other days he would trip me in the hallway, or slam my locker door, mess up my hair or push me .

Thing is about 3 months into my sophmore year, we all learned that he stuck a shotgun in his mouth and pulled the trigger. I guess he really had some major issues going on.
At that time I didn't feel sorry for him one bit, but looking back on it now I really wish the kid had gotten some help.

 

[RadiclDreamer]

Originally posted by: Canai
I was a 'pencil neck nerd' and an orchestra nerd on top of that. The 'bullies' were all scared of me. Might have had something to do with the six feet of chains going from my belt to my wallet. hahah I was a goth kid.

In my school people got their asses kicked for stuff like this alone. I know, I was one of the ones with them as well, but was also captain of the wrestling team so i didnt get messed with that much. I went to a real redneck school

 

[thraashman]

I don't think I ever saw the lunch money getting stolen thing. But verbal and physical abuse wasn't an uncommon thing. And unlike tv, in my school it wasn't one big kid picking on others. It was one small, or unpopular kid getting picked on by everyone..... Unfortunately that kid was me. I had several guys one morning pick me up on their shoulders, spin me around, then throw me to the ground, only to have the next guy do the same thing. I had a guy almost break my knee in PE, only to have the PE teacher tell him to escort me to the nurse and tell the principal what happened (yeah, because he really let me tell on him after he almost broke my knee). I had another kid in PE blindside me playing kickball and cause me to cut up my knees, elbows, and face a little. Then of course there's the tripping, random kicking, and the one guy who threw a shoulder into my face chipping my tooth. I could probably count the serious physical assaults on my fingers, and the minor ones were still manageable.

The number of times I was verbally abused by classmates I'm not sure I could count on the fingers of every active member of AT Forums....

That was all until about end of 8th grade/ 9th grade. I went from about 5'1" to about 5'11" in 6 months and gained 80 lbs. People pick on the big guy alot less I noticed. I still was subjected to the verbal abuse at almost every turn, but the physical stopped at least.

Sad when I found out in college from someone who was a year behind me in high school that everyone in the school truly thought I was gonna snap and kill them all soon. Despite the fact they thought I was gonna snap, they seemed to try to push me towards snapping.... Not the brightest people in the world.

I should note that I graduated the year before Columbine, so I guess people didn't really believe something like that could happen. Probably a good thing too, I might've gotten some ideas.

 

[waggy]

Originally posted by: RadiclDreamer

Originally posted by: Canai
I was a 'pencil neck nerd' and an orchestra nerd on top of that. The 'bullies' were all scared of me. Might have had something to do with the six feet of chains going from my belt to my wallet. hahah I was a goth kid.

In my school people got their asses kicked for stuff like this alone. I know, I was one of the ones with them as well, but was also captain of the wrestling team so i didnt get messed with that much. I went to a real redneck school

if you went to a redneck school having a chain from the belt to wallet was the norm!

 

[Tiamat]

Its real in certain areas. I saw a bunch of it when I was in elementary school.

 

[hellokeith]

In 9th grade I was in senior level algebra class. It was optional for me of course, but mandatory for seniors to pass their senior year. So needless to say I was the youngest and smallest boy in the class.

Every day the teacher would leave the classroom about 1/2 through the period to go to the restroom. During this time I would get hit, as hard as the senior guys could hit, on my arms. After a couple of weeks I got really bad blue/purple bruises and couldn't take it anymore, so I asked the teacher what she could do about the situation and she didn't believe me, so I ended up rearranging the desks in the room so my desk was closest to the door, and I'd leave the same time she would during the period.

Needless to say, a miserable experience due to bullies.

 

[lyssword]

Funny thing is, instead of school admin trying to stop bullying they just try to scare students saying that some freak is going to shoot them up (I'm talking about the crappiest schools tho). As for my experience, I was only bullied in middle school, it was a hellhole. In high school it was not bad at all.

 

[randay]

search take

 

[invidia]

I went to a black-majority school in a really ghetto neighborhood in my freshman year. It's a D/F rated school, as it was for the past 5 years. My parents moved when they saw a kid going to the hospital when he was jumped by 3 local gangsters. Bullies are not like that on TV. Most of them was jackasses and did alot of stuff to others for no reason. They're more like this:

If they don't like how you look, they'll either physically hit you or physically harass you.
If you look at them funny, they'll knock your glasses off and break them or just backhand you in the back of the head.
If you step on their shoes (they love their shoes more than their mothers), you'll get jumped after school with 5-6 guys and: 1) end up in the hospital, 2) transfer to another school.
If you talked back, you will most likely in up in a physical fight (Don't mean to offend anyone or be racist, but minorities ALWAYS stick together, fighting one black kid means you will end up fighting 5-7).


These types of bullies cannot be fought back unless:
1) You ride with a posse of your own (not a bunch of nerdy friends).
2) Move out of the school.
3) Befriend them.

I learned the best way to counter these was to:
1) Ignore most of them, and avoid eye contact.
2) Befriend the most popular kid in school (the one who's probably in a well-known local gang or has the biggest group of friends).


I did 1) and to a limit of 2) to avoid any fights until I moved out of that school. I was an acquaintance of a gang member through a friend. The type of kid that were "cool", that didn't want trouble nor start them. My parents had to get my ass out of that school because they feared I wanted to join a gang. Luckily I was in there for one semester.