argh, that's the problem, I can not find the "enable internet connection sharing" checkbox ANYWHERE in XP.
ah crap i just read this.
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You should not use this feature in a network with other domain controllers, DNS servers, gateways, DHCP servers, or systems configured for static IP.
When you enable Internet Connection Sharing, the network adapter connected to the home or small office network is given a new static IP address configuration. Existing TCP/IP connections on the Internet Connection Sharing computer are lost and need to be reestablished. For example, if Internet Explorer is connecting to a Web site when Internet Connection Sharing is enabled, refresh the browser to reestablish the connection.
To use the Internet Connection Sharing feature, users on your home or small office network should configure TCP/IP on their local area connection to obtain an IP address automatically. Home or small office network users must also configure Internet options for Internet Connection Sharing.
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I have a static IP on my computer, and don't want to buy another IP for the computer. Also I want them to be networked, with two additional computers I have (one with internet, one without). So that's a total of 4 comps, 2 with internet, 2 without, which is why I want internet sharing, and I also want them all to be networked to each other.
Damn this is confusing.