I thought I would give nlite another chance.
It hosed the laptop in the first place when I tried installing an 'nlite XP' over the existing (hosed) XP installation. [I will chalk the new install being hosed up to the fact that I actually tried removing some unusued features ... but at least it installed).
So, I used nlite to create a folder with XP installation files on my desktop. this time I did not remove anything. It essentially just copied the folder to HDD.
Then I used
these instructions to boot into Dos with network support.
I couldn't use it to copy the installation files but I was able to start the installation process ... which failed AFTER it had copied the files to the local HD and restarted (it couldn't find the resource files/CD over the network ... isn't that grand? How the F is this supposed to work otherwise?)
Since that failed ... I guess I will have to re-install ubuntu, then use ubuntu to copy the files across the network to a FAT partition on the laptop, and try running the install locally again.
BUT (fun, fun!!!): since yesterday evening the ubuntu netboot installation (which worked 4-6 times at this point) failed to download any installation packages and failed three times until I just gave up.