Insane family members

[rh71]

where is your sister's husband in all this? Feel very bad for those kids. Another vote for bi-polar.

 

[surfsatwerk]

Crazy family members?
ha...hahaha....AHAHAHAHAHAHA

You think you know crazy. Try a mother with a penchant for pulling a loaded gun on you and your family when she feels she isn't getting her way, then talking her way out of a psych ward so she can go do it again, being able to fool professionals and shrinks into thinking she's normal just long enough to torture her entire family. I could go on, but it's pointless, just be glad your definition of crazy is simply a self-entitled little bitch.

Now that's a party!

 

[pontifex]

where is your sister's husband in all this? Feel very bad for those kids. Another vote for bi-polar.

there is none. she got knocked up twice by a boyfriend. he was drunk ALL the time. His family is known around here to be drunks and drug abusers. just a real piece of shit.

He threatened to kill/torture my entire family one time. Hes pretty much no longer in the picture, but her subsequent boyfriends haven't been a whole lot better.

Part of the problem is that he would try to fight for custody of the kids just to be a dick if she wanted to relinquish rights to them or if the government got involved.

 

[Ichinisan]

My brother is like that in some ways.

 

[MisterJackson]

Have seen this before. Usually a pill addiction is involved, as someone else in this thread already mentioned.

 

[AmerDoux]

Your sister is 100% responsible for her own actions and behavior.

However, BOTH of your parents are responsible for enabling her behavior. Your mother may have to 'deal' with her the majority of the time, but they both have agreed to repeatedly bail her out financially.

You cannot change your sister but you can establish boundaries of what is acceptable behavior and what the consequences are for poor behavior. You cannot dump this on your mother. It will take a collaborative effort by the entire family. You need to agree on the boundaries and agree on what the responses are when she breaks these boundaries. Most importantly, everyone must stick to them! All it takes is one person giving just one little bit and the whole effort is lost. I suggest you seek the aid of a professional therapist to help you work through this and set those boundaries/responses. Everyone should also be aware that when you implement the new boundaries and consequences, she will dramatically increase the amount and instensity of her bad behavior. It is will become much worse at first, but if you stick through that storm, it will get better.

Best of luck to you.

 

[MonKENy]

I cant believe 31 posts and im tyhe only one asking important questions.

this is a shadow of our former self

 

[W.C. Nimoy]

Is there a way to get through to an insane family member?

IDk, i'm the insane one. Will update if/when they find a way to get through to me.

 

[God Mode]

Nothing will happen until your mom gets a clue. This kind of babying happens in so many households and their adult-child never grows up.

Your mom will never learn even up to her deathbed so the best you can do is to further yourself away and ignore the madness.

 

[clamum]

I cant believe 31 posts and im tyhe only one asking important questions.

this is a shadow of our former self

Yeah that is disappointing.

So, OP... pics?!

 

[MrDudeMan]

Yeah that is disappointing.

So, OP... pics?!

We shouldn't even have to ask.

 

[Lalakai]

Nothing will happen until your mom gets a clue. This kind of babying happens in so many households and their adult-child never grows up.

Your mom will never learn even up to her deathbed so the best you can do is to further yourself away and ignore the madness.

big part of it right here. Going on what you've told us, your mother is an enabler, supporting the activities of her daughter by not confronting her or having the strength to take a stand. Nothing will change until your mother decides to change; she will be the starting point. Until then, try to minimize the damage and don't get sucked in. Your sister is exploiting your mother and won't stop until your mother puts her foot down, and she's using her children as leverage. Definitely not a good situation, but depressingly common. Focus on keeping your own balance; you might be the only rock they have when the SHTF. FIDO.

 

[Ichinisan]

Yes. You are, brother. do not deny it