INGRATES!!!

[Namuna]

I'm starting to believe more and more that Selfish, unsharing people are made and not born.

Everytime I extend help (finding someone an online coupon, forwarding a funny joke, PC Help, etc...) and get no reciprocation, I become less and less forthcoming with the goodies.

For example,
On 3 occasions, with 3 differnt people around the office, I've been asked if I know/have any insight on deals and coupons on the internet. Well OF COURSE I do, I'm the GODDAMN KING of Bargain Hunting! So I hook them up (URLs, direct coupon codes and such).

Have I yet gotten a 'Thank you'? NO Do any of them send anything back my way (like a joke or some other URLs)? NO

It takes effort and vigilance to find good stuff. The more and more INGRATES I deal with, the more miserly I become.

Nowadays when I find a little jewel somewhere, I don't even think about who I can give/share it with, I think of how much work I did to find it and what I can get in trade for it.

 

[sparkle]

I know what ya mean, nut that's what happens when you let people realize you know that sort of stuff. For example, at my job I am in sales, so the more I sell the more I make. But when there is a PC or network problem, who do they come to? Me of course because I am the guy who knows that stuff. I learned a long time ago to not let people know what you know because then they just take advantage of you.

I know it is selfish (is that how that is spelled?) but oh well

Oh yeah, that's why when I find these "little jewles" I share them w/people who apprreciate them, like the people on this message board!

 

[woodie1]

The method used to raise a child pretty much determines how selfish or giving they will be as an adult. Anyone can have a child, many haven't a clue about being a parent.

 

[Moving Target]

Thank you very much for your wonderful post!!!
It has truly made my day
You are a wonderful person
Happy New Year!!

 

[Namuna]

Ahhhh, thank you Moving Target!

Woodie1, couldn't agree with you more. And the first lesson I'll teach my child (when I father one) is 'A SMART person learns from their mistakes, a WISE one learns from OTHERS mistakes'

Of course after telling my child this, I will promptly follow with 10 lashes from a thin tree branch. This way it's engrained in their mind.

 

[Moving Target]

Someone watches to much StarTrek

 

[Namuna]

Well, I also watch Star Trek.

And I AM THE GRAND NAGUS!!!...of Bargain Hunting

 

[thebestMAX]

Namuna-

I know just what you mean!!!

One reason I always try to respond to anyone who tries to help me as you did.

I know I have extended myself countless times and have not even gotten a thank you.

I have always called the Ferrengi Jews In Space and I proclaim you the Grand Nagus (with me second in line.)

NO INSULT TO THE JEWISH PEOPLE AMOUNGST US. MEL BROOKS BEAT ME TO JEWS IN SPACE, I ALWAYS THOUGHT IT WAS VERY FITTING TO THE FERRENGI.

Max:

Our schwartz is bigger than your schwartz.

AnandTech Moderator

 

[thebestMAX]

RED-

You are welcome, I think.

 

[rahvin]

Maybe I'm unusual but I don't expect reciprocation. I help people because I like helping people, not because I expect something in return.

 

[thebestMAX]

Rahvin,

Yeah but a reply is nice, doesnt cost anything and encourages one to continue.

 

[Namuna]

Rahvin,

Come on buddy, can you HONESTLY say you wouldn't be annoyed by sharing good information with someone to have them not so much as say thank you?

There's a few words that come to my mind when I think of someone like that; Rude, inconsiderate and ungrateful.

I was taught to say 'Thank you' when someone gives me something, ESPECIALLY if its was of great help.

 

[SuperGroove]

Namuna,

Thanks for being my friend. I SAID THANKS FOR BEING MY FRIEND!

/me jabs you with a cattle prod.

Now...Smile damnit. SMILE!!!!
/me jabs you again.

 

[eakers]

<< forwarding a funny joke >>


anyone who forwards me anykind of anything never gets a thankyou because I HATE THEM (the forwards that is). I hate opening my email and finding &quot;please help forward this to everyone you know&quot;, &quot;send to everyone you know or you will die&quot;, &quot;this is so funny&quot;, &quot;send this to all your friends&quot; etc. Just because a person can hit their forward button doesnt mean that they love me or whatever.

oh and btw your icq flower will never turn into a pot leaf, that crippled girl in mexico doesnt exist, your crush wont tell you they love you, you wont die and you wont be deleted from icq.

ahhh it feels good to get that all out.
thank you for your time.
kathryn.

 

[rahvin]

<<Come on buddy, can you HONESTLY say you wouldn't be annoyed by sharing good information with someone to have them not so much as say thank you?>>

A thank you is nice but I wouldn't find it necessary. I mean seriously, if you are looking for praise aren't you helping for the wrong reason? Honestly I would probably be less willing to waste time helping someone do something (because of laziness on my part) if they hadn't bothered to acknowledge my help in the past, but in most cases I frankly don't care, I'm helping them because helping them makes me feel good.

 

[sweetrobin]

/me *comforts* Namuna

 

[Elita1]

Namuna:

In showing kindness you will not always have it reciprocated; this world is much too full of jackasses, or indifferent people.
If you go looking for someone to return the kindness chances are you won't get it and only be disapointed with mankind.
The key is to give without expecting anything in return. Though people may not always say thankyou, that tiny act of human decency does actually make their day a little better.
I know I am grateful for the stranger who opens the door for me and lets me through, of the forwarded message of a friend, or the good advice from a passerby on what item to buy in a store.
Take comfort in the fact that you have helped someone have an easier and more pleasant time and you will be a better person for it.

and on behalf of all those people who never showed their appreciation, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping them and making their day a little brighter!

 

[UnixFreak]

people suck. Bottom line.:disgust: (about to go postal, are we?)

 

[Namuna]

Folks, refer to my original Post...


<< On 3 occasions, with 3 different people around the office, I've been asked... >>



That's what I've been talking about, when someone ASKS me for the info and I do the leg-work to find them the deal and then they have the nerve to not so much as say thank you.

 

[Wangel]

I agree totally.

When I was younger, I was a mechanic for a dealership. When I would see someone stopped by the road side, I would always offer to assist. I would carry some tools and equipment in my car. I have noticed a downward trend in assisting people that are broken down. It use to be a common thing. A 'Thank You' was all I expected.

Once, after gettting a motorist going who was stuck (a wire fell off the coil), he thanked me and wanted my name and address and said that he would send me a small token. I agreed. He called me up about 2 weeks later and told me (Yelling) that his car runs worse now than it ever did and he wants me to pay for it. To be nice (which I should not have done), I agreed to check the receipt after a garage repairs his vehicle and then we can determine what exactly the problem was. He never called back, but from then on, I have decided not to assist any longer. I use the philosophy of: Don't get involved in situations where you have nothing to gain, but can lose big time. Perhaps I should not have gotten married!