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I'm preparing for the possibility of my dad dying tonight.

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Dad had open heart surgery for a leaky mitral valve. Mortality stats for this surgery is 0.5%. After the surgery we were placed into the miscare of recovery center nurses and doctors whose favorite phrases were ''he's doing fine" and ''there's nothing to worry about" and "I don't know:" On day 1 we had a neighbor who was both disrespectfully loud and smelled of feces. It took lots of urging to get another room. Days 2 through 4 my dad's condition deteriorated as a result of one of the nurses or doctors OD'ing him on a powerful pain med called Percocet. He was given two pills, twice. This would be fine for a person who is 6ft, 180+ lb, but Dad is 4' 8" and a hair over 100lb. He was sick for two days as a result. Yesterday he complained of feeling "thin" because they had been taking a lot of his blood. Today he broke out in a cold sweat, felt dizzy, nauseous, had no appetite, was coughing up yellow phlem, and his heartrate shot to 98 from 80 and his blood pressure dropped to around 75/55. Still, the nurses and doctors said he would be fine.

But something was up. My mom constantly complained and they finally gave him an Echocardiogram. He had been bleeding internally and the cavity around the heart had been filling with fluid this entire time. They rushed him to intensive care where Dad started feeling very cold as we waited for surgery. Then his blood pressure dropped to 69/50 and they immediately rushed him into the OR and now Mom and I are waiting for the results.

If it were not for the constant pestering of the nurses and doctors, they never would have given him that echocardiogram. Dad could very well have passed away in the night because his blood pressure is only measured once every 4 hours, and that precipitous drop in his blood pressure happened within an hour.

I find it amazing that at such a world class hospital something like this could slip under the noses of those recovery center employees.

UPDATE:

Dad is fine. They drained 1 entire LITER of blood from the cavity around his heart. Obviously, he was given additional blood. The operation went well. They had to open up his existing chest incision a bit to drain the fluid, and now his blood pressure is back to normal. He's back in intensive care and he won't be coming back to conciousness until tomorrow afternoon. So the nurses and doctors in the recovery ward managed to miss profuse internal bleeding. It was not until my mom urged they immediately check his blood pressure when they finally did, and realised it was so low that they couldn't even get a reading. Then they ordered the echocardiogram, then he went immediately to intensive care. While on the bed my dad told me to look after myself and my mom. He was feeling cold all over and no amount of heat or insulation was helping.

UPDATE:

The nurses in the ICU are absolute shit. They do not pay attention to what's going on, their measurement styles are sloppy, they ignore my dad when he's trying to speak to them, and they are away from his bed 95% of the time and only come back to refill his IV or when an alarm has been beeping for a couple minutes. It's like they expect the machines to do their job for them. All they ever do are spot checks of his current condition, and do not take into account any kind of trends or history or case-by-case situations, always comparing his results to some kind of average.

My dad is not the average. He is quite small. He responds worse to basically anything that is done to him compared to a full sized person. My family and I noticed that his blood pressure was steadily dropping over a period of a few hours, but the nurse doesn't realise this because she only does spot checks. She simply sees each instance as still OK, but doesn't realize that over time his pressure has been steadily going from really OK to less and less OK.

Now my dad just went into Atrial Fibrillation in which his heart is going 100+ bpm. He's had this before, but this time it feels different. It feels like it's hitting harder. Before it was simply a fluttering. The nurses don't care. All they want to do is give him medicine. I'm worried that all this rapid movement of the heart could make his heart wound open up again, which is what caused his severe internal bleeding in the first place.

His vision is also getting weird. He says it feels like he's seeing everything from behind a mirror. This is making me worry because now it sounds like it's getting neurological. The nurse just goes "Oh... ok. Well, you look fine."
 
Fuck that sucks 🙁 My prayers go out to your dad and family. Do you think it was the nurses overdose which put him into that chain of events?
 
Originally posted by: DVad3r
Fuck that sucks 🙁 My prayers go out to your dad and family. Do you think it was the nurses overdose which put him into that chain of events?

It might have started it. He was further weakened by how much blood they took in his already weakened state. Or when they pulled out the pacemaker wires connected directly to his heart. They run to the outside of the body and are there when a patient needs an outside pacemaker because his is failing. When they pulled them out a jet of really dark, old blood followed with one of them. It could be a lot of things.
 
Yea there was a story on CNN about a actor that would fake his docs sigs to get his blood work done faster among other things.


My wifes doctor told her after 1 test you will never get pregnant and your only slim chance was a donor egg. Well 2-3 months later my wife was pregnant. We are in the 2nd trimester and all the test show it to be a healty normal pregancy.


Just because someone was in school a long time does not mean they are perfect. Seems the older the Doc the more god complex they get.


Good luck and keep fighting for your dad. Ask lots of questions and even document anything that seems out of normal. Then ask another Doc/Nurse about it and see if you get a different answer. In other words keep your eyes and ears open. Good luck.
 
I am so sorry to hear about your father....best wishes to you and your family.

I hear stories like this and it just re-enforces the fact that it is soo important to take care of yourself.....no reason to step foot in one of those slaughter houses any more than you need to.
 
I hope he gets better. I'm not looking for an argument, but I would reserve judgment on the medical team's decisions. There's more to the medical situation than you know to draw conclusions from.
 
Originally posted by: fuzzybabybunny
Dad had open heart surgery for a leaky mitral valve. Mortality stats for this surgery is 0.5%. After the surgery we were placed into the miscare of recovery center nurses and doctors whose favorite phrases were ''he's doing fine" and ''there's nothing to worry about" and "I don't know:" On day 1 we had a neighbor who was both disrespectfully loud and smelled of feces. It took lots of urging to get another room. Days 2 through 4 my dad's condition deteriorated as a result of one of the nurses or doctors OD'ing him on a powerful pain med called Percocet. He was given two pills, twice. This would be fine for a person who is 6ft, 180+ lb, but Dad is 4' 8" and a hair over 100lb. He was sick for two days as a result. Yesterday he complained of feeling "thin" because they had been taking a lot of his blood. Today he broke out in a cold sweat, felt dizzy, nauseous, had no appetite, was coughing up yellow phlem, and his heartrate shot to 98 from 80 and his blood pressure dropped to around 75/55. Still, the nurses and doctors said he would be fine.

But something was up. My mom constantly complained and they finally gave him an Echocardiogram. He had been bleeding internally and the cavity around the heart had been filling with fluid this entire time. They rushed him to intensive care where Dad started feeling very cold as we waited for surgery. Then his blood pressure dropped to 69/50 and they immediately rushed him into the OR and now Mom and I are waiting for the results.

If it were not for the constant pestering of the nurses and doctors, they never would have given him that echocardiogram. Dad could very well have passed away in the night because his blood pressure is only measured once every 4 hours, and that precipitous drop in his blood pressure happened within an hour.

I find it amazing that at such a world class hospital something like this could slip under the noses of those recovery center employees.

hmmmm, I am hardened towards emotions thanks to neglectful parenting. On a practical subject though, You can sue their ass later for these things. Do whatever you can for the moment, but as soon as it's over, whatever the outcome, think ahead, grow up, life sux, girl maybe = pity sex, good luck.
 
Best of luck to you! my mother had the same procedure, though she had it at the age of 45 due to endocarditis, a bacterial infection on her mitral valve. Her procedure was done at Mission St. Joseph's hospital in Asheville, NC.

DON'T STOP BADGERING THE MEDICAL STAFF!!!

my mother was misdiagnosed by our family doc at the onset, which led to the closing of the office and a major upheaval in the medical community in our town. We weren't aware of her condition until she went into heart failure in her bed and was rushed to the hospital. it's unbelievable to think about how close she was to death due to the phrase "Whats common is common."
 
Originally posted by: LikeLinus
Is there another, better, local hospital that you can have him transferred to?

Unfortunately, there is no better heart hospital in the country, and therefore the world, than the Cleveland Clinic.

This sounds terrible 🙁
 
Originally posted by: zinfamous
Originally posted by: LikeLinus
Is there another, better, local hospital that you can have him transferred to?

Unfortunately, there is no better heart hospital in the country, and therefore the world, than the Cleveland Clinic.

This sounds terrible 🙁

Hope your father do well.

But seriously, you buy into the "we-are-the-best-in-the-us-and-hence-the-world" crap?


 
Prayers for your dad.



You [& your mom] will need to keep after the hospital staff, to make sure your dad gets the best care possible. Staff to patient ratios suck and there are no better patient advocates than loving family members.
 
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