I'm not used to being hated - need ideas (divorce related)

[Gravity]

Originally posted by: ergeorge
Depends ... do you deserve it?
Can you honestly look back on your situation and see your role in it as honorable and just? If so, then you have my sympathy.
I'm coming at it from the other side, and my STBX deserves all the hatred and scorn I could possibly deliver. But I'm certainly not acting as immaturely as your x ... only in my fantasies.
As for the choosing sides ... be realistic. With rare exceptions, your mutual friends are going to choose sides, or stop associating with both of you. Just another casualty.

The friends part is backed by research. they will choose sides or leave...you'll need new ones alltogether.

 

[Gravity]

BTW, your kids WON'T bounce back, a divorce will have a serious impact on them, regardless of what you have been told. Do what you can to save it if possible, at least for their sakes.

 

[kermalou]

sorry

 

[badmouse]

BTW, your kids WON'T bounce back, a divorce will have a serious impact on them, regardless of what you have been told. Do what you can to save it if possible, at least for their sakes.

I wanted to do counseling for exactly that reason (kids), but my husband met someone else and is going to marry her. Any suggestions on minimizing the impact on the kids for that one?

This deep, open hostility is hard to handle. I don't believe in nasty fighting in front of the children, but it can't be any healthier for them if I listen to his ranting and don't respond in any way. Kids are teenagers BTW, youngest is 14.

Keep on with the suggestions. It helps.

 

[tranceport]

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