No, you're right. This thread really did become the deciding factor. It helped me look at some other angles, which is what's great about AT.
I've looked at some Acuras, Legend namely. I also checked into some cars from Lexus, but being the tightwad, I don't want to spend too much. 20-30k is not out of my reach, it' just that I don't want to reach that much. For crying out loud, I'm driving a Buick I paid $300 for. I didn't need the car, but how do you turn that down, lol?
So, I'm finally ready to take on a small car payment, and I've set my limit. I'm actually leaning toward a '97 Maxima SE. Nice trim level, I can work on it, there's a huge resource at maxima.org for help, and it's a tasteful car.