• We’re currently investigating an issue related to the forum theme and styling that is impacting page layout and visual formatting. The problem has been identified, and we are actively working on a resolution. There is no impact to user data or functionality, this is strictly a front-end display issue. We’ll post an update once the fix has been deployed. Thanks for your patience while we get this sorted.

I'm feeling so lost right now...

B

BigToque

Lifer
My girlfriend (who is 1 year younger than me - I'm 22) has completed her university degree and is starting to move on in life. She wants to go back to school to specialize, get a career, do some traveling and wants to get married.

I've got 2 more years until I get my undergrad. I'm currently $16,000 in debt and won't be out of debt for 3 years (1 year after I graduate). I won't be able to get engaged for another 4 years (married in 5). I'm taking 1 class in university right now (cause I just got back from India) and I can't find a job. I can't even find a sh!tty job doing manual labour!

Sure I could just quit university and get a dead end job and pay off my debt, but then I've wasted all my time at school.

What should I do? I really want to finish school, but it'll have been 6 years total for my 4 year undergrad and 7 years since I finished high school.

I'm so lost right now... I just want to move on in life!
 
Just finish school.

The debt WILL GO AWAY. It is pretty easy to save imo just don't go out as much and if you do don't spend as much. Save money and pay off the debt.

You can pay off your debt once you have finished Uni.

How come it has taken you 6yrs to get a 4yr degree?

Why don't you take more class's next semester?

Koing
 
Get married and have your wife support you while you finish school..

If she loves you that much, then she will wait until you finish before going back to school to specialize..

If she does this, then it's true love.. If she doesn't , drop her and move on with your life..

 
Didn't you post a while back asking whether you should go to India? Is it seem worth it now? (not asking in a mean way, just curious)
 
Believe me you will run into things in life that will suck much worse then this...Finish School should be your priority.

Ausm
 
Originally posted by: rsd
Didn't you post a while back asking whether you should go to India? Is it seem worth it now? (not asking in a mean way, just curious)
Click to expand...

India was a worthwhile trip. My grandmother actually gave me spending money for the trip (which I wasn't expecting) so the only thing I've lost is basically 1 year of university (minus the 1 class I'm taking now).

That one year could have made the whole situation so much easier for me...
 
Originally posted by: Koing
Just finish school.

The debt WILL GO AWAY. It is pretty easy to save imo just don't go out as much and if you do don't spend as much. Save money and pay off the debt.

You can pay off your debt once you have finished Uni.

How come it has taken you 6yrs to get a 4yr degree?

Why don't you take more class's next semester?

Koing
Click to expand...


After HS, I took a year off to work (which was stupid because all I did was blow all of it eating and drinking and going out every night). In my 2nd year of university I didn't take a full course load (6 classes), and in my 3rd year I didn't take a full course load (8 classes).

What I've got now, is 2 summer classes, then a full 10 class year, 2 more summer classes, then a 6 class final year.
 
Nancy Reagan says to stay in school!!

Dude, seriously, don't quit school. Even at its worst, being in school is still WAY better than any normal job. Trust me.
 
Originally posted by: Stefan
Originally posted by: Koing
Just finish school.

The debt WILL GO AWAY. It is pretty easy to save imo just don't go out as much and if you do don't spend as much. Save money and pay off the debt.

You can pay off your debt once you have finished Uni.

How come it has taken you 6yrs to get a 4yr degree?

Why don't you take more class's next semester?

Koing
Click to expand...


After HS, I took a year off to work (which was stupid because all I did was blow all of it eating and drinking and going out every night). In my 2nd year of university I didn't take a full course load (6 classes), and in my 3rd year I didn't take a full course load (8 classes).

What I've got now, is 2 summer classes, then a full 10 class year, 2 more summer classes, then a 6 class final year.
Click to expand...

Oh I see.

Well you had fun in yoru year off once you finished HS right? Exactly :beer:

You got a gf and if she doesn't understand then how do you think your going to last after marriage?

Your debt will go as your degree will help you get a job. It can get depressing at times but you just got to tough through it. Some people don't even get the chance to go to Uni and get debt. They work dead end jobs and are much worse off.

Chin up!

Koing
 
dont rush, the real world sucks

enjoy the college life. dont worry about your woman. if she wants to be with you she will understand that you need to finish school. what kind of provider would you be without a degree?
 
You had two years of fun, now dig in and finish school before you allow yourself more fun. Work before pleasure.
 
#1. Get married anyway if YOU want to. We got married with my wife still in college and made it off my then meager salary. You find ways....build memories...etc. If you put it off till you're financially "ready" you'll never get married.

#2. If "getting married" is more important to her than being with you is, then you don't want to be married to her anyway. I married my wife because I love her....not because I wanted to get married and she happened to be the one I was involved with at the time.

Regardless, FINISH SCHOOL!!!!!
 
Finish school.

I graduated HS in 1992 and am just now finishing my undergrad (yes, I'm a 31 year old undergrad). My fiancee finished her undergrad 2 years ago and got a job at the university waiting while I finish.
 
Originally posted by: Stefan

I've got 2 more years until I get my undergrad. I'm currently $16,000 in debt and won't be out of debt for 3 years (1 year after I graduate). I won't be able to get engaged for another 4 years (married in 5).
Click to expand...

you can get married as soon as you graduate. a two year engagement is not too bad. If you wait for 5 years, you're not going to be getting hitched to your current GF, I can almost guarantee.
 
Originally posted by: DougK62
FINISH SCHOOL

You'll regret it if you don't...
Click to expand...
Amen. Marrage shouldn't be an issue now. Did she give you reason to think she's going to leave you?

 
Originally posted by: Muadib
Originally posted by: DougK62
FINISH SCHOOL

You'll regret it if you don't...
Click to expand...
Amen. Marrage shouldn't be an issue now. Did she give you reason to think she's going to leave you?
Click to expand...

Nope, she's not going to leave me... I would love to get married to her as well, but we can't do it "properly" until I graduate and get some money for a place to live.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.

TRENDING THREADS

Back
Top