I'm done with Facebook

[meltdown75]

I have a close group of friends (3). That's all I need. The others have their own lives and I respect that. Your fooling yourself if you think 100-200+ people care about your life. You can tell me I have a bad attitude, but it's the truth and it becomes more transparent when you get older.

true. it really should be called your Aqcuaintance List instead of Friend list.

i have over 300 on mine, but i've probably only hung out / had a beer with 50 or so. when i first joined i would add old highschool people and stuff... or they would add me, whatever. i was going to delete a bunch of them but figured i would just be a little more critical on a go-forward basis when it comes to adding people.

but i do agree with the OP's sentiment... that it basically does the opposite of connecting you to people... it shows you how disconnected people are.

 

[Regs]

Think of it this way, who wakes up everyday wanting to have a long discussion with their mothers and fathers? It's just natural. Only when it concerns yourself do people want to be involved.

 

[HardcoreRobot]

this seems like something you should have posted on facebook

 

[hanoverphist]

Facebook is annoying but I've also found it to be pretty useful from time to time. It doesn't harm me to have an account active (as far as I know) so I don't quite understand the hate.

this. i have an account as well, i check it about once a week. i dont put updates or status messages (which makes others tell me i need to update, lol) and i have all the apps blocked so far. it comes in handy for invites for events, as well as sharing pictures from family and friends. it doesnt have to be ruler of your world, but that is up to the individual to control, not facebook.

 

[Jeffg010]

Man it is funny reading all the people who bash facebook but have thousands of posts on this forum. I guess it is OK for that right?

 

[meltdown75]

Man it is funny reading all the people who bash facebook but have thousands of posts on this forum. I guess it is OK for that right?

of course. forums are cool... facepage, twitter and myspace... OMG so geeky!!111

(the latter, i would agree with of course )

 

[MrMatt]

Man it is funny reading all the people who bash facebook but have thousands of posts on this forum. I guess it is OK for that right?

I think the problem most have with facebook is that it's devolved into myspace. Too many retarded 'apps'. Check out my aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaapppzzz whargaaarble. Seriously, go DIAF. Too many people posting retarded statuses "oooh men are daaaawgs hurrrrrrrrrr". Stop bleeding all over the internet.

I remember seeing a survey about 2 years ago on people's perceived levels of connection to others; despite the advent of the internet it's gone steadily down as communication becomes more superficial, distant, and shallow.



edit: I personally use it to talk to friends in other states, and networking for planning get-togethers and meetings for school/work. OP: You can hide most anything from your news feed. I've found that 80% of the horse shit on my feed was from like 4 or 5 people. I've hidden them and it's MUCH better.

 

[meltdown75]

yep. hide the Farmvillers and Mafia Warrers... and all the other apps... and it's a little more bearable.

 

[Wyndru]

In other news, I changed my email addy, Yahoo Mail was sooooooo last week....

 

[nageov3t]

yep. hide the Farmvillers and Mafia Warrers... and all the other apps... and it's a little more bearable.

liberal use of the "hide" button is definitely required for regular facebook usage.

 

[archcommus]

OP: You can hide most anything from your news feed. I've found that 80% of the horse shit on my feed was from like 4 or 5 people. I've hidden them and it's MUCH better.

You can??? I've talked to a lot of people about this and the consensus was always, you have to de-friend them. I didn't know you could hide others' stuff from the feed you see. That does help a lot.

I will definitely admit it can have its good uses, just like anything else. There is no harm in having a page with some basic info on it and a few photo albums. But I feel a lot of opposition to how people trade real-life communication for communication on there, how people depersonalize communication via wall posts, and the general excess of attention-whoring and stalking. Personally, I know I would fall victim to some of those things myself given the opportunity, just as a go-to when I'm bored (hence the "crutch" I mentioned earlier), so I'm staying off completely.

 

[nageov3t]

You can??? I've talked to a lot of people about this and the consensus was always, you have to de-friend them. I didn't know you could hide others' stuff from the feed you see. That does help a lot.

I will definitely admit it can have its good uses, just like anything else. There is no harm in having a page with some basic info on it and a few photo albums. But I feel a lot of opposition to how people trade real-life communication for communication on there, how people depersonalize communication via wall posts, and the general excess of attention-whoring and stalking. Personally, I know I would fall victim to some of those things myself given the opportunity, just as a go-to when I'm bored (hence the "crutch" I mentioned earlier), so I'm staying off completely.

mouse over any entry on your news feed and a "hide" button should pop up.

you can hide entire people or entire apps (for example, I have farmville and mobwars hidden because I don't care that my friends need sheep)

 

[The Stig]

Everything you said about FB could easily apply to ATOT

oh the ironing

 

[alevasseur14]

Meh, I use it to share photos, get invited to shit, post funny shit, and occasionally get a date from it.

This pretty much sums it up for me too. If nothing else, it's entertaining!

Although, I did start a war with someone over their status update yesterday. I hate those "99% of people won't have the guts to copy and repaste this" messages. Congratulations, you want everybody to know you're not like them. Let me get you a cookie. 100% of people SHOULDN'T repost that because it's fucking stupid.

 

[moshquerade]

 

[I Saw OJ]

OP thinks hes cool cause he is so anti mainstream. Facebook can be quite useful or a bottomless pit of retardation, you pick.

 

[ixelion]

I quit Facebook for pretty much the same reasons as the OP. Honestly it is a complete waste of time and anyone who spends time on it clearly does not comprehend how meaningless and pointless it is.

your are spending your time engaging in a form of communication that contains little meaningful content, it is a form of speech that doesn't facilitate any form of social interaction and is therefore irrelevant to social life.

If I am sitting with a group of friends and I take a position on a particular subject; the use of my voice, body and demeanor indicates to others how they should interact with me in turn, facilitating conversation.

Face book essentially eliminates all of this, messages on wall posts are disembodied, non-human forms of speech that deliver only an extremely limited form of communication that is really only one step away from complete gibberish.

 

[Red Squirrel]

I have a facebook account but I hardly ever log in. I'm just not much into the whole social networking stuff. The closest thing to social networking I do is post in forums, but the whole structure of facebook and sites like that, does not really appeal to me. I have like 400 requests pending on my account, it feels like I'm doing work by going through them all, so I tend to not bother. Once in a while I go to approve friends and that's about it.

 

[DrPizza]

I've blocked mafia wars, farmville, etc. - that has made it quite a bit more bearable.

Then, a few people on my friends list started annoying the crap out of me with some of their really sappy messages:
"I thank Jesus every day for the wonderful husband I have. I have the best husband on earth." "Jesus has great things planned for my family for this month." Crap like that. Then, I (yes, DrPizza) discovered trolling. The worst offender was a stay at home mom with absolutely nothing better to do than post crap like that all day long & post all sorts of other crap about things that were going on. Shortly after a "Jesus has plans" status, she posted a "I am so mad. I went out to the car and I have a flat tire." I posted something like this: "Ahhhh, so that's what Jesus had planned for you. What a bastard!" 5 minutes later, my phone rang. "Hey, I just saw your post on so-and-so's message board." (I'm thinking, uh oh, now people are going to be pissed at me.) "That was great. I never laughed so hard. I've been sick of reading all the crap she posts day after day. I just wanted to call you to tell you that you really made my day."

After that... it was no holds barred on a small handful of people. One finally gave up and defriended me. (Her job at a Taco Bell was mega-important.) But, it was fun while it lasted.

 

[darkswordsman17]

I think the problem most have with facebook is that it's devolved into myspace. Too many retarded 'apps'. Check out my aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaapppzzz whargaaarble. Seriously, go DIAF. Too many people posting retarded statuses "oooh men are daaaawgs hurrrrrrrrrr". Stop bleeding all over the internet.

I remember seeing a survey about 2 years ago on people's perceived levels of connection to others; despite the advent of the internet it's gone steadily down as communication becomes more superficial, distant, and shallow.



edit: I personally use it to talk to friends in other states, and networking for planning get-togethers and meetings for school/work. OP: You can hide most anything from your news feed. I've found that 80% of the horse shit on my feed was from like 4 or 5 people. I've hidden them and it's MUCH better.

There have also been reports that that is horseshit (about people becoming less connected to each other).

I think some people are confusing being distant with what is actually pretty normal as you grow up. You don't hang out with the same friends forever, you get a family and lose touch with a lot of people. Things like that. They feel its worse because Facebook makes them aware of these people that they wouldn't be hanging out with anyway. Hell just look at what happens to most people after high school and college, everyone goes their separate ways and you rarely if ever see many of them again.

Really, it all comes down to you though. For some, yeah, Facebook would probably do the things like the OP and a few others have said, but for others its actually helped them socially.

 

[Schfifty Five]

It's sad that you let yourself get to the point where you felt the need to tell everyone how much something fairly trivial such as facebook has affected you in a negative way. You sound pretty emo man.

 

[AppleHuHu]

I like my facebook...

 

[meltdown75]

lmao

 

[meltdown75]

I quit Facebook for pretty much the same reasons as the OP. Honestly it is a complete waste of time and anyone who spends time on it clearly does not comprehend how meaningless and pointless it is.

your are spending your time engaging in a form of communication that contains little meaningful content, it is a form of speech that doesn't facilitate any form of social interaction and is therefore irrelevant to social life.

If I am sitting with a group of friends and I take a position on a particular subject; the use of my voice, body and demeanor indicates to others how they should interact with me in turn, facilitating conversation.

Face book essentially eliminates all of this, messages on wall posts are disembodied, non-human forms of speech that deliver only an extremely limited form of communication that is really only one step away from complete gibberish.

lol... you make it sound like being on facebook eliminates all other forms of social contact. while i admit that the vast majority of people seem somewhat distant, i can say with confidence that it adds to the social sphere, not detracts from it. there are 5 or 6 people who i regularly message / hang out with now because of facebook. i wouldn't have contacted them otherwise. so, even though facebook sucks and has largely jumped the shark, it still ADDS to my social life in its own little way.

 

[meltdown75]

There have also been reports that that is horseshit (about people becoming less connected to each other).

I think some people are confusing being distant with what is actually pretty normal as you grow up. You don't hang out with the same friends forever, you get a family and lose touch with a lot of people. Things like that. They feel its worse because Facebook makes them aware of these people that they wouldn't be hanging out with anyway. Hell just look at what happens to most people after high school and college, everyone goes their separate ways and you rarely if ever see many of them again.

Really, it all comes down to you though. For some, yeah, Facebook would probably do the things like the OP and a few others have said, but for others its actually helped them socially.

i concur with this post, and with the drifting apart as you get older thing. at least i know that if i care to, i can send a message to one of those people that have drifted off.

i think if you had a good social network before facebook (or social skills of some sort), it helps you. the people that think facebook is there to cure their social woes.... i am not surprised they are usually disappointed and quit the site. so basically it comes down to the person. if you suck socially, facebook will probably only amplify it.