I'm depressed, and it sucks.

Urinal Mint

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I'm trying to figure out a way to fix this mess, and I don't really know how to go about it. My life is going great (I know this), but I still feel sad most of the time, lonely, and unnoticed for the most part. I don't know if these are classic symptoms or not, but I know I shouldn't be feeling this way if my life is going well. I've been like this for about 7 years now, although the intensity of it ebbs and flows in cycles. I've gone from daily thoughts of suicide and hopelessness to, I guess, about as normal as I can imagine life to be (which is right after I met my ex-gf).

Anyone go through this before? I'm trying to decide if I really need to see a headshrinker about this, or if it's all in my head. Help!
 

monk3y

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I haven't ever went through anything like that before and you seem quite serious about it. I wish i had any information to help you out but i don't :( I seriously hope you are able to solve this problem. Good luck.
 

rudder

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I would go see a doctor. 7 years is a long time to be feeling like that. Could be clinical depression. I go through those types of feelings every once in a while. I was diagnosed with ADD and thats one of the symptoms. But it does not occur very often. Luckily I can get by without taking any type of medication.

Your life is going great, but what do you want out of life and are you headed in a direction that will help you acheive that?
 

loosbrew

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well, yes it is all in your head. sadness is in everyones head. people get sad about different things. one may get sad about someone dying while someone who was just as aclose to that perosn may not. i didnt get sad when my favorite aunt died. i felt more sad for my uncle who had loved her for 40 years.
feeling depressed on a daily basis is definitely not good. self esteem issues obviously come up. the thing is to step back for a few moments and put things into perspective. and i dont mean into a movie type perspective. nothing is perfect and it never will be. you shouldnt be sad about that. its a fact of life. never be sad about absolutes. you can never change them. why waste your time being sad about it. i suggest you find something to do with your time rather than being sad. you should try hard to really take a few steps back and reevaluate your situation and see what needs improvement. and once you think youve thought through enough, spend a few more weeks thinking about it. again, find something to do with your time. a hobby possibly? even if it means you spend a little more than youd like too. whats a little cash for your well being. do things that make you happiest more. but dont do them too much where they lose thier luster. maybe build a few more pcs and network them. then cause problems so that you can fix them. if thats your occupation then maybe a fish tank will take up your time. other pets maybe? people dont need people. we just seem to need company, whether in the form of a pet, person or even a ball, like tom hanks :)

good luck

luis
 

Keribeth

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I think it depends on whether your feelings are interfering with your everyday life. Are you living the way you want to? Are there certain areas in your life that make you sad? Things that you can talk out with a counselor? Alot of times mild medications can help even out your moods...no more extreme highs and lows (if thats what youre feeling).
 

Azraele

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That's a long time to have to deal with that. See a doctor. While those feelings are normal at times, after 7 years it's time to get it checked. The fix may be something very easy, and you'll feel tons better.

Good luck. :)
 

blueghost75

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i bet if you find a significant other, you would be happy.

also, i would try to avoid taking medication if at all possible.
 

Urinal Mint

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Nah, I doubt a significant other would take care of it... it might supplant my feelings for a while, but it can't do it indefinitely. I've been down that road before.

I'm trying to avoid medication at all costs... nothing I can imagine makes me feel more helpless than having to rely on pills to make me function the way I should. I've found a book I'm going to buy tonite... I have to try and help myself first before I resort to other tactics.

Thanks for the words, I appreciate it.
 

toph99

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my advice(from experience) is don't look for something wrong, just get on with your life. don't go thinking you have clinical depression and you need to pop pills the rest of your life or something, just get on with your life, live it one day at a time. it helps
 

jemcam

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I can't believe you people giving this guy advice on a subject like this. I have battled depression for many years. It can be just as deadly as cancer or AIDS. Go see a doctor, preferably a Psychiatrist pronto. It's not a weakness, it could be a physical problem. Drugs and/or counseling are the only solution for severe depression.

You're not alone, and it's not a sign of weakness to be depressed. Get help and don't wait if you feel better tomorrow. Go talk to a professional, get an appointment and tell them it's an emergency, don't wait two weeks for an appt.
 

Urinal Mint

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<< my advice(from experience) is don't look for something wrong, just get on with your life. don't go thinking you have clinical depression and you need to pop pills the rest of your life or something, just get on with your life, live it one day at a time. it helps >>



I think, if you spent a day inside my head, you would understand that it is impossible to &quot;just get on with&quot; my life. It doesn't work that way, unfortunately, and if it did, do you think there would be such a booming biz for medications and psychotherapy?
 

yasha

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You might try taking up a musical intsrument. I think that could help you out a bit. Start writing songs about your feelings as well.
 

Scrapster

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Talk to a shrink. My dad missed a few of my little league games and I haven't recovered since.