I'm a father!....well sorta...i think...

[K1052]

Originally posted by: Papagayo
Get a lawyer..

Get full custody of the Child, if you love him so much.. Get him away from the child rapist..

:thumbsup:

 

[Descartes]

So, your idea of "taking him away" is 30 minutes outside of town?

 

[Jet343]

Originally posted by: Lazy8s

Originally posted by: brunswickite

Originally posted by: OrganizedChaos
have a paternity test done before you do anything

good answer

The kids mine. There is no doubt in my mind.

 

[J0hnny]

Wow, you're 22 and you have a 6 year old son...jeez.

Now, get that paternity test first. Reminds me of Adam Sandler's film...what was it called?

 

[Turkish]

Originally posted by: J0hnny
Wow, you're 22 and you have a 6 year old son...jeez.

Now, get that paternity test first. Reminds me of Adam Sandler's film...what was it called?

Adam Sandler is da man.

 

[Jet343]

Originally posted by: Descartes
So, your idea of "taking him away" is 30 minutes outside of town?

Acutally an hour. he's already 30 minutes away. It might not see like a lot....but it adds up when I want to be there for him everyday for the rest of my life.

 

[Jet343]

Originally posted by: XietyCOM

Originally posted by: Jet343
He's in jail and he's going to get deported when he gets out.

I've thought about taking it to the courts and see If I can get her for rape. I was only 16 and she was 18. Also for the rapist father. She might get me for 6 years of child support. Which she has stated she doesn't want a penny from me.

But we have to think about my son first. Would he want me fighting with his mother over who should get to keep him. I don't want him to have parents that fight 24/7. I grew up with that, I should know.

:roll:

Something wrong? Please let me know....

 

[Jet343]

I have to go to work now. I'll be back later in the day to answer all of your questions!

Thanks again for reading! I really need the advice.

 

[brunswickite]

Originally posted by: J0hnny
Wow, you're 22 and you have a 6 year old son...jeez.

Now, get that paternity test first. Reminds me of Adam Sandler's film...what was it called?

Big Daddy

 

[Eli]

Originally posted by: Jet343

Originally posted by: Lazy8s

Originally posted by: brunswickite

Originally posted by: OrganizedChaos
have a paternity test done before you do anything

good answer

The kids mine. There is no doubt in my mind.

It doesen't matter. You need to get a paternity test done.

 

[Descartes]

Originally posted by: Jet343

Originally posted by: Descartes
So, your idea of "taking him away" is 30 minutes outside of town?

Acutally an hour. he's already 30 minutes away. It might not see like a lot....but it adds up when I want to be there for him everyday for the rest of my life.

I was just referring to your excuse that she "took him away." I thought she moved across the country.

Anyway, we all make mistakes. You seem emphatic about making things right, so good luck to you!

 

[Turkish]

Originally posted by: Jet343

Originally posted by: XietyCOM

Originally posted by: Jet343
He's in jail and he's going to get deported when he gets out.

I've thought about taking it to the courts and see If I can get her for rape. I was only 16 and she was 18. Also for the rapist father. She might get me for 6 years of child support. Which she has stated she doesn't want a penny from me.

But we have to think about my son first. Would he want me fighting with his mother over who should get to keep him. I don't want him to have parents that fight 24/7. I grew up with that, I should know.

:roll:

Something wrong? Please let me know....

Yes there is. You are trying to send his mom to jail. A kid that you haven't thought of for 6 years. The guy he thinks as his father is in jail and is going to get deported. Now you want to take his mom away from him? Good plan :roll:

 

[Lonyo]

Originally posted by: K1052

Originally posted by: Papagayo
Get a lawyer..

Get full custody of the Child, if you love him so much.. Get him away from the child rapist..

:thumbsup:

Crap idea.
The rapist is in jail, going to be deported.

And you want him to take a kid, who is 6, away from all the family he knows, and stay with this weird bloke he knows nothing about?
Good idea(!)

I would say the mother has it right. You should consider exactly what you want over the summer while you can't see the kid, and discuss your future with the kid and the girl.
THEN when the kid comes back from the grandparents you can get to know him, if you so wish, and you *should* have been able to sort something out with the mother, in terms of who looks after him, and where you both live.

THEN you can, if you wish, slowly become a part of the kids life, and think of a damned good reason why you didn't get off your fat ass and find him earlier

 

[Bulk Beef]

Originally posted by: Jet343

Originally posted by: XietyCOM

Originally posted by: Jet343
He's in jail and he's going to get deported when he gets out.

I've thought about taking it to the courts and see If I can get her for rape. I was only 16 and she was 18. Also for the rapist father. She might get me for 6 years of child support. Which she has stated she doesn't want a penny from me.

But we have to think about my son first. Would he want me fighting with his mother over who should get to keep him. I don't want him to have parents that fight 24/7. I grew up with that, I should know.

:roll:

Something wrong? Please let me know....

You're talking about strolling into this kid's life after six years and stripping him of his mother based on a bullshit charge - yeah, I'd say that's something wrong.

So far, everything you've said is about what you want. You're on the wrong track, I think. That's great that you want to be a part of his life, but what you want does not come first.

 

[allisolm]

The kids mine. There is no doubt in my mind.

Famous last words.

 

[jjones]

My advice: walk away.

 

[K1052]

Originally posted by: Lonyo

Originally posted by: K1052

Originally posted by: Papagayo
Get a lawyer..

Get full custody of the Child, if you love him so much.. Get him away from the child rapist..

:thumbsup:

Crap idea.
The rapist is in jail, going to be deported.

And you want him to take a kid, who is 6, away from all the family he knows, and stay with this weird bloke he knows nothing about?
Good idea(!)

I would say the mother has it right. You should consider exactly what you want over the summer while you can't see the kid, and discuss your future with the kid and the girl.
THEN when the kid comes back from the grandparents you can get to know him, if you so wish, and you *should* have been able to sort something out with the mother, in terms of who looks after him, and where you both live.

THEN you can, if you wish, slowly become a part of the kids life, and think of a damned good reason why you didn't get off your fat ass and find him earlier

Well, the family he knows seems to be a real winner.

Then she tells me she hasn't decided all of this yet for sure because her husband (child rapist) still has a say in this and she hasn't even told him I'm back in my sons life!

The OP made a mistake six years ago, now he has the chance to remedy it and clearly wants to do so. That is a lot more than I can say for many people in this world.

 

[Peetoeng]

Child-rapist step father, awol biological father, and now you are trying to send his mon to prison for child rape (you wanted some nookie, you got it, and now you want to send her to prison for it :roll:. If you do that on top of 6-yr hiatus from your kid, you don't deserve to call yourself a man, much less a father). As posted below, the kid deserves better.

The kid's mom has made bad choices (that would her choice with you), but she did raise the kid. If you want to pursue full custody of the kid (after patertinity test as suggested before), try to do it in amicable way.

Originally posted by: allisolm

Sounds like the child deserves better than he's getting from all parties.

 

[halik]

Originally posted by: loki8481
get a booking on Springer before he goes off the air.

yah...