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If your significant other cheated, would you take him/her back?

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Hasnt happened to me, but I'll prolly do one of the following:

a) End it right then and there
b) Cheat on her and pretend everything is cool

Or maybe I'd cheat first and end it after.
 
Cheating = end of current relationship.

I've cheated on a gf before, and told her the next day cuz i felt so bad, and we broke up. It was much better then if I tried to hide it. She never got upset really that I "cheated" since we had agreed that it was really just the end of a relationship if it happened.

Anyways, no intentions of that happening again, and soon I'll be getting married, but same rules apply. It happens once and its over.
 
I was once married to somebody who hit on anything that wore a skirt.I stayed for as long as I could tolerate it, we had kids and after a lifetime of being repeatedly told in every way imaginable that I was worth little if anything I figured I was just getting what I deserved.

These days though, I couldn't put up with it.I spent a lot of years alone and although being part of a happy couple is much better being alone is infinately better than being with someone who rips your heart out repeatedly and rubs your nose in it for good measure.

I'm a good person,I deserve better than that and am very grateful that I've found a special somebody, even if I do need to file his teeth down occasionally ;P
 
You know, i like the idea of knowing that myself and my wife have only been with eachother. If I caught her sleeping with someone else then it'd really hurt me. I have always said that I wouldn't deal with someone who cheated on me, whether I was married or not. I'd like to think that I wouldn't because I believe that if it happens once, it is likely to happen again, unfortunately.

On that same note, i have never had anyone cheat on me.
 
To me, once a cheater always a cheater. So I will NOT stay if my SO cheats on me. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.
 
It's dangerous - what if the person cheating gets an STD or something? Then guess who gets it, you!

Anyone who puts me at risk for getting an STD isn't someone I want to be with.
 
my ex cheated on me and i never took her back.

my current wife did cheat on me when we were dating, but i didnt find out about it until five years in the relationship. anyhow, i am still with her, but it does bother me when i think about it sometimes. DAMN YOU OP FOR MAKING ME THINK ABOUT IT.

scares me sometimes to think that she can keep a secret like that for well over 4 years with out telling me. i only found out because she let her story slip. no sexual relations with the other guy, and we were dating for barely a week at the time. so much has happened between that time and the present that i had to let it go. forgive, but havent forgotten.
 
no. once a cheater, always a cheater. i know this because ive been the 'other guy' a couple of times. it sucks for the boyfriend, and the risks arent worth the rewards. and i wouldnt want to be in those shoes either.
 
Originally posted by: vood0g
my ex cheated on me and i never took her back.

my current wife did cheat on me when we were dating, but i didnt find out about it until five years in the relationship. anyhow, i am still with her, but it does bother me when i think about it sometimes. DAMN YOU OP FOR MAKING ME THINK ABOUT IT.

scares me sometimes to think that she can keep a secret like that for well over 4 years with out telling me. i only found out because she let her story slip. no sexual relations with the other guy, and we were dating for barely a week at the time. so much has happened between that time and the present that i had to let it go. forgive, but havent forgotten.
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Your obviously not 30+, becuase that seems to be how all older people date.. like multiple people at once for the first month or so.. till they choose to stay with one person. Maybe I didn't read it correctly, but thats what it seems.
 
My SO and I have had a talk about this, and we agree that if either of us cheated, it would mean the end of the relationship, and any kind of contact with them, their friends, or their families.
 
Originally posted by: anxi80
no. once a cheater, always a cheater. i know this because ive been the 'other guy' a couple of times. it sucks for the boyfriend, and the risks arent worth the rewards. and i wouldnt want to be in those shoes either.
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you're a fscking arsehole for that. I've had about 3 oppurtunities in that situation and turned every one of them down.
 
my ex cheated on me (kissed (according to her) one of those guys who she had been friends with before she met me.... it's always them), I knew she was going to before she did. I knew she did before she told me. That said, prior to her telling me, I still went up to see her one night because she was really upset. Just wanted her to know that someone cared.... she broke up with me that night.

six weeks later (thansgiving and christmas had both passed) she came crawling back... seemed like she had matured a lot... I know I had... I took her back about a week later.

We still have a lot of issues.... we still fight a lot and often don't see eye to eye.... we look for faults in each other and pick fights over dumb stuff. It's always been like that. She's a complete hipporcite and has a lot of growing up to do. She's two years older than me, but if she thinks that makes her two years more mature than me, she's got another thing coming. Of course it's not a healthy relationship, and of course the topic of breaking up comes up constantly, but if we weren't madly in love with each other, we wouldn't be together.

I just don't trust her when she goes to co-ed parties or on co-ed trips that I'm not welcome to ( I do to a different school )

that pisses me off :|

I don't trust her guy friends enough not to tempt her, and I don't trust her to resist forcefully enough when drugs (she smokes pot) and alcohol are involved
 
It's happened to me, I took her back, and then I did it to her, and it went back and forth until I finally ended it and moved to a different state. Now im Married and have a trusting wife.
 
I don't think I'd want my fiancee to take me back if I cheated. I don't think that would be fair to her. Conversely, I probably would take her back, although maybe it wouldn't be fair to me. If we had been married for a while and had kids and everything, I think I would be much more inclined to stay in the relationship because at that point you've invested too much to just throw it away like that if the other person genuinely repents. Plus, it's not just about the two of you at that point.
 
What's the definition of cheating here? Sleeping with someone else or just messing around?

And I think a good question to the add to the poll would be, who here has done the cheating themselves? But of course no one would fess up to that.
 
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